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How To Absolutely Kill It On Your First Date

I wish I had heard these tips earlier

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The first date. It is always a very special occasion.

You probably have a crush on the other person and want to present yourself from your best side. As you probably don’t know them that well yet, you are quite nervous and don#t really know what to do on your first date. Maybe you even met on the Internet and see each other for the first time in person.

Since I’ve already experienced my fair share of cringy first dates, I can give some good tips that can help make your first date a success.

1. Open Body Language

Our body language is incredibly powerful and determines to a huge extent how others perceive us.

Open body language is one of the most important things for a successful first date. It makes you more approachable and attractive. A good start to a date is to greet the other person with a hug.

Also, a good rule of thumb is to maintain a lot of eye contact and never fold your arms in front of your body, as this shows a more guarded attitude.

2. Keep It Casual

In my experience, something casual beats a fancy dinner date by miles.

I am talking about grabbing a coffee and going for a walk in the park or something like that.

It feels more natural and less contrived that way. If you run out of things to talk about, you can just comment on what’s going on around you.

On a dinner date, everything seems much more serious. If you don’t know what to say, it can get awkward quickly. After all, you usually have to look at the other person for quite some time, which can be very awkward if you don’t know what to talk about.

Especially as an introvert, I would not advise you to go on a dinner date.

3. Sit Next To Your Date

As just mentioned, sitting across from each other on a first date can be awkward.

I’ve had good experiences sitting next to my date. On a park bench, for example.

That way you don’t have to keep eye contact the whole time, which takes the pressure out of the situation. It also makes it much easier for you to make physical contact, for example by rubbing one shoulder against theirs. Breaking the touch barrier is extremely important.

Sitting next to your date, you can quickly find out how she reacts to the contact. Does she move away from you, or does she also seek physical contact? If you get enough positive signals, you can easily hug her.

Photo by Marc A. Sporys on Unsplash

4. Skip The Pointless Smalltalk

The usual small talk is boring. It can be a real turn-off. Don’t talk to the other person about the weather or other boring topics just to keep a conversation going.

Instead, try to develop a more personal, exciting conversation. Here are some ideas that will help you to develop a way more exciting conversation which allows the two of you to build a real connection.

Ask about their life story, tell yours, and maybe share a secret. All of these things will help you connect more quickly.

5. Have A Backup Plan:

If you do run out of things to talk about, it’s a huge advantage to have some interesting questions up your sleeve that you can use as a basis for a personal conversation.

Some of my favorite ones are these:

You can choose any person, who would you like to have dinner with?
What are you most proud of?
If you knew you couldn’t fail. What would you do?
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

Or little games. You tell him/her 3 things about you, one of which is a lie. She/he has to guess which one is not true.

I think you got the point. The most important thing is to have fun and avoid the boring talk.

Thanks for reading!

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