How Sex Toys Will Improve Your Sex Life
5 reasons sex toys will boost your sexuality
I started using sex toys in my late thirties. If I have regrets in life, this is certainly one of them. How could I miss out for so long on this spectacular and unique way of receiving sexual pleasure?! I know some of the reasons, but that’s another topic.
Using sex toys is a personal choice and you will only make the best of it if you’re completely in charge of the choices; the how, when, and what. The variety is immense and part of the fun is exploring it.
Sex toys will give an extraordinary boost to your sex life. You’ll feel a new range of sensations.
If used with your partner, sex toys will contribute to strengthening your bond, the complicity and intimacy between you two. Besides the fun, of course.
Some people feel insecure when their partner suggests using sex toys; they feel they’re not “good enough” lovers, or that their partner prefers a toy to achieve orgasm rather than with them — even if they are part of the play.
When used in partnered sex, sex toys should be a complement, not a replacement for the human part.
There’s a big range of sex toys, and the use is diverse. But one thing they all stimulate: your sexual desire and your senses. Sex toys spice your relationship.
5 reasons sex toys will boost your sex life
1. More intense orgasms
Research shows that only 1 in 4 women orgasm from penetration (source). Most of us need additional stimulation, especially clitoral.
This means that sex toys like a magic wand, vibrator or a man using a penis ring during penetration will increase the chances of a woman to orgasm.
The other advantage of using sex toys — for me, vibrating ones are better for this — is that they will trigger blended orgasms; which is when you have more than one type of orgasm at the same time, for example, vaginal and clitoral.
From my experience, besides giving me more intense orgasms, sex toys also make them last longer.
2. Self-knowledge
When using a sex toy, you are exploring your body, what you like and how you like to receive pleasure. When exploring your self-pleasure, you learn more about your erogenous zones, in a way that by touch only you wouldn’t.
For example, when women masturbate using their fingers, we can’t tease the clit as it mostly enjoys: with vibration. But we can do it with a vibrating sex toy, like a bullet vibrator or a magic wand.
Another advantage of using a sex toy to increase the understanding of what your body can do is to use it along with digital stimulation. For example, you can use a butt plug while you manually masturbate yourself or add a vibrating sex toy in your free hand! The sky is the limit here!
Self-knowledge is great, but sex toys will also help you to learn more about your partner and their sexual preferences. And this is always a win-win situation, right? In healthy relationships, both partners care for the other so, the more you give, the more you receive!
3. Sexual Novelty
Sexual novelty works wonders when you’re trying to re-spark your relationship, to rekindle the flame that once burned high.
Sex toys are a great way to break the routine in your sex life, which will positively affect your relationship.
If you go to a sex shop, I’m sure you’re amazed by the variety of sex toys on the market. Vibrating, static, remote-controlled; for anal play, for impact or temperature play; kinky or vanilla… There are so many and so different toys!
Challenge yourself and try a new way of receiving pleasure. But don’t step out too far from your comfort zone. The progress should be done gradually, so you won’t be disappointed and give up.
4. Triggers creativity and sexual fantasies
Sex toys will help you develop your sexual creativity and to transform fantasies into reality; they will enrich your sexual experiences.
Talking about sex and sharing fantasies also helps couples to connect more deeply; it strengthens intimacy and makes you feel better about yourself — truly accepted and valued.
5. It opens your mind
I wish I discovered earlier in my life that sex toys aren’t only vibrators. After I became a bit more daring, my sexual world changed. Which, in consequence, affected my life.
My sex toys collection now includes vibrating and non-vibrating toys, for vaginal and anal play; for solo and partnered sex; for vanilla sex or with a pinch of kinky.
When I started to build my sex toys collection, my sex life improved; my pleasure learned new boundaries, new sensations, and even different types of orgasms.
I became so much more sexually fulfilled after using sex toys. This not only made me feel better about myself and my sexuality, but it made my sex life with my partner much more fun, pleasurable, and exciting.
You are in control of your pleasure. Sex toys give you the power to explore it and potentialise it.
Sex toys bring novelty to your relationship, and they are a great medium to achieve pleasure and explore your body in ways that, without them, you wouldn’t.
Explore what sex toys exist and try a few different ones; I’m sure you’ll be (deliciously) surprised.
With sex toys, you will discover a new range of sensations and pleasures; and also a different way to connect with your partner.
Talk to your partner and, together, explore what you’d like to try. Take this chance to deepen your conversations about sex: your desires and fantasies, and what you’d like to try. Be receptive to your partner’s suggestions as well.
Sex toys improved my sex life incredibly. I continue to have sex without them, of course, but now my partner and I have so much more options.
Sex toys were undoubtedly an exciting addition to my sex life. I hope the same happened to you. If not, give it a try!
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