How Men Test Women and How To Successfully Pass the Test. Are You a Ferrari or a Tesla? Part 2

I asked my male friends, and they said, “ If we like a woman, we test her.” Do you do the same with him, though?

I spoke to men about this topic and they all responded the same way. “ We treat women the way they allow us to. If we get away with things — we do them, if we do not — we don’t. We don’t want to lose the woman we like but if she tolerates us why should we stop ourselves?”

Why Test

Many say they don’t want to play games, but life itself is a game of challenges. Every day, we face tests. The strongest ones succeed.

So if you do not want to play when dating learn how to deal the cards.

Men test women to see how they can behave. Ladies, they know what is good and what is bad but they want to see if YOU know. Men are lazy so they do not want to do more than they need to.

They do not have our maternal instinct of nurturing and giving more than needed only because of love. They are logical, strong, and resourceful. They are supposed to think fast and solve problems, not understand emotions and be empathetic. This is why we need to show them what we expect.

There are many different tests and if you want to read more about them I will put some articles at the end. However, the point of my article is not to tell you how to play the game but how to change it.

So for you to do this you need to be a high-value woman. Because a high-value woman has her terms and she plays by her own rules. Only then you will be able to be happy on your own and live your life making space for high-value men to come and pursue you, not being tested and worrying if you passed the test or when he is going to call.

I want you to be the one accepting applications, not the one applying for the job.

If you want to learn more about what high-value women do in the early stages you can check Part 1, here:

I am tired of listening to women being sad because of men. If you have not found the man of your dreams create the life of your dreams and he will come himself… trust my word. High-value men are attracted to happy women.

When the flower blossoms, the bee will come. — Srikumar Rao

There are different types of men out there. I would only ever be talking about high-value men. I do not want to acknowledge the others except if I give examples of how to get rid of them faster. However, you need to know how to tell one apart from the other.

High-Value Man

High-value men know their value. The same way high-value women do.

They are from the same dough. They want to find an equal partner, they do not want to dominate you or the other way around. Whatever you read about Alpha males wanting a submissive wife — is clickbait. No man who respects himself wants a pushover with whom he can do whatever he wants.

Men want a partner who is equally intelligent, smart, confident and knows how to deal with difficult situations. This is why they might try to test you to see how you respond.

Many women do not realize one of the reasons we are the prize and we must be challenging to win is because we have much more to give to them than they do to us.

We create life, cultivate a cozy family environment, provide support, and motivation, and serve as a haven for him to enjoy after a long day, while also being funny, loving, sexy, and entertaining. This is our best version and we all have it in us but we flourish in it when we feel safe.

This is why if you are a high-value woman you should not be tested you should be dealing the cards, honey. Observe who knows how to play the game so you can choose the best man for yourself. This includes allowing them to be tested.

Men get bored quickly with women because they do not respect them. Men want women who respect themselves and value themselves because this means there must be something in her to be respected.

Like attracts Like

If you want a man who respects you respect yourself.

Most women have developed some sort of fear to be authentic and to be frank with men, especially in the beginning because they feel they need to get them to like them, not the other way around.

A girl’s upbringing significantly shapes her behavior. She may develop the Good Girl Syndrome if she’s taught to prioritize obedience and pleasing others over her individuality. It’s crucial to shift this mindset to embrace the High-Value Woman Syndrome.

So there are the so-called rebels who from a young age did not want to obey. These are the women who change the game by taking the deck and dealing the cards rather than waiting for men to deal the cards to them. These are the women you should be looking to to see what they are doing right.

What I found out is that these women might not certainly know their value but they naturally tend to prioritize themselves. They not only respect themselves by doing only things that make them happy but they make men work around their terms to receive their affection. Men adore women with individuality. They are simply different.

High-Value Men like women with opinions, standards, and boundaries. This is because these women inspire men to work hard, and successful men value the feeling of achievement.

Compare a woman who allows the man to do whatever he wants with a woman who will show him the door when he does not treat her right.

A High-Value Woman does not need a relationship to make her feel complete which means she does not depend on him to breathe. Thus making him work for the relationship rather than simply exist.

High-value women uphold their standards, expecting consistency in actions. If a man promises to call and fails to do so, she doesn’t overlook it. Instead, she kindly reminds him of his commitment and expresses her preference for honesty if he cannot fulfill it. If this pattern repeats, she gracefully disengages.

High-value women prioritize their time and do not tolerate inconsistency. They refrain from complaining or justifying themselves, understanding the distinction between communication and justification.

“To become a lady vassal.. the troubadour was expected to pass through four stages, i.e.:aspirant, supplicant, postulant, and lover. When he attained the last stage of amorous initiation he had made a vow of fidelity and this homage was sealed by a kiss. In this idealistic form of courtly love reserved for the aristocratic elite of chivalry, the phenomenon of love was considered to be a state of grace, while the initiation that followed, and the final sealing of the pact — or the equivalent of knightly accolade — were linked with the rest of a nobleman’s training and valorous exploits. — Nina Epton, Love and the French.

Be a Ferrari, not a Tesla

Imagine a man who wants to buy a Ferrari. He goes to the showroom and tells the salesman, “I want to buy a Ferrari!”. The salesman replies, “ This is great Sir, this will cost you $$$.”

Now suddenly the man realizes he only has $. So he approaches the salesman with a proposition, “ I have $ now but in 6 months I will have $$$ and will buy the car, can you save it for me?”.

The salesman politely replies, “ Sir, I understand, however this car is very desirable, I cannot take it off the market on your word. When you are ready in 6 months if the car is still available you can come and it will be yours.” A little upset but encouraged by his motivation to get the car, the man leaves and continues putting in effort until he deserves it.

Yet the same man goes to Tesla and buys it straight away as he can afford it. There is no need to do anything more, the Tesla is $, and he has $.

Disclaimer: I am not saying Ferarri is better than Tesla, I am saying every man gets what he can afford. So if you see yourself as a high-value woman do not give yourself to a man who cannot afford your value. And I mean this in terms of actions, not money. Money is a by-product of a male’s potential. If he is smart and successful he will have money but that does not mean he deserves you. He needs to put effort, into showing you with his actions that he deserves your time, your emotions, and your love.

How do we Change the Game?

So to win you need to not only know the rules but usually change their game with your game so you cannot be beaten.

What this means is to have a strong sense of self-awareness.

One of the most important traits of a high-value woman is self-awareness.

She needs to know where are her strengths and her weaknesses.

We all have a predisposition to certain behaviors. For example, I need space so I respect the need of others for personal space. However, I’m still learning to cope with emotional childhood trauma that occasionally triggers me. I recognize this vulnerability, but I refuse to let it dictate my life. Instead, I acknowledge it and actively work on managing it when it arises.

For instance, if you tend to feel jealous and struggle with it, it’s important to learn how to manage this emotion. Here’s my perspective on jealousy: A High-Value Woman is the modern term for a Queen. A Queen shouldn’t feel threatened by others vying for her partner’s attention. Just as a Queen isn’t concerned about random women approaching her King, a woman in a secure relationship needn’t worry about others. The only threat would be another Queen, a rarity.

Therefore, a high-value woman must uphold her dignity and handle such situations gracefully and confidently.

If your partner glances at another woman, divert your attention to avoid giving him the satisfaction of making you jealous. Sometimes he makes it on purpose to feed his ego. Men have fragile egos, so it’s crucial not to engage in power struggles with them. Just like in horseriding, where you don’t fight with the horse but guide it with gentle commands, with men, it’s about maintaining their sense of strength. However, this doesn’t mean sacrificing your self-respect.

The way you handle such situations determines the respect you command.

So next time the waitress tries to flirt with him, gently put your hand on his and say something along these lines, “Isn’t he amazing? I am so happy he only chooses the best and nothing less.” and smile securely.

This isn’t being mean or pitty this is a lady showing gracefully this is her territory. While men love attention, it’s essential to convey your confidence and standards clearly to them as a high-value woman so he too knows he needs to behave respectfully.

Being able to handle your emotions is the most important thing in changing the game. It would be best to learn how to manage your impulses.

Being a Queen is not for everybody. So if you were not born such and you want to behave like one try to learn how to be one. Even historical queens underwent extensive education and training to understand the responsibilities and comportment expected of the assigned role.

Another Disclaimer: In today’s world, women are free to behave as they choose. This article is tailored for women aspiring to be high-value women. However, if you prefer to act on impulse without considering consequences, that’s your prerogative. Just bear in mind that top-tier men, like high-value women, are also rare and they too expect certain behavior.

Self Awareness. Standards. Boundaries. Emotional Intelligence.

Takeout

1. Your perceived value is your self-worth

We are a masterpiece in progress. Every woman is at a different stage in her life. Naturally, we are not born completed. So we develop ourselves. We gain experience, knowledge, and skills. The better we become the higher expectations we should have for our lives and the higher our self-worth should be. It is normal to date different men at different stages of your life. However, be smart to know when you are a Tesla and when you become a Ferrari and give your time correspondingly.

2. Make them work for it

Understand that if you see yourself as a Ferrari you should not behave as a Tesla. You cannot give yourself away so easily. Nowadays men do not even call, they text. Do you realize this is the easiest form of communication as it does not require any effort since we are constantly having our phones in our hands? Does a Ferrari go to buyers or do buyers go to Ferrari? Learn to require more effort to give your attention? Do you know why this is the best thing you can do for yourself? Because it will save you tons of time and energy leaving out all the lazy, manipulative, players and only the ones ready to put the effort will stay? Do you not want that in the first place?

“..God forbid that I or any other could win the love of so worthy a woman without first attaining it by many labors.” Andreas Capellanus on Love.

3. Your Standards and Boundaries are what he observes

Men are supposed to make you feel safe. They should be taking care of you so you can feel safe to create a family and be nurturing and loving. How are you supposed to be loving and tender if you are in survival mode, panicking over why he is not texting you and why he has not come home all night?

4. King and Queen

To have a good man you need to be a good woman. Develop your self-awareness work on your weaknesses, accept yourself, and love yourself. Be blessed, Queens!

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Love yourself, and love each other, we are the primal source of life and love on the planet! Let us create a better world together, full of love and compassion!

With Love,

• Enigma ❤

The articles with examples of male tests as promised in the beginning :)