How Edging Connected My Spirit to a Dominant Woman Online
The rush of pleasure triggered me into deep submission
The look is everything for dominant women seeking submissive men and women on Twitter. I’ve known about BDSM since my twenties and had plenty of in-person experiences and scoffed at the idea that a woman could control me online. Forget it. Until I met a young, dominant woman who went by the name Rose. We met in a park, talked, kissed and slowly she revealed her dominant desires.
She was a financial dominant who was on a popular fetish website. She sent me her Twitter feed once and I was floored how her Tweets centered around men giving to her.
I experienced a rush in giving her a gift card, but she decided for whatever reason to move on which was fine. I was done and wouldn’t do anymore, until I began scrolling through my Twitter feed, scanning images of dominant women when one person caught my attention. The name: Goddess Crystal.
Even though she was dressed in everyday clothes, her look caught my attention. Online domination, like real life, shows the power of eye contact. The eyes connect us and have a way of opening our imagination and, I believe, our spirit.
My first interaction with Goddess Crystal was playing a retweet game on Twitter. It’s like gambling, quite honestly, and I didn’t realize the incredible rush that comes with it. The domme prepares a Tweet and lays out a fee for each comment, retweet and like, in addition to laying out the length of time the game will last.
My first retweet game with Goddess Crystal was 15 minutes long for $1, $1, $1. The “thrill” happens because you don’t know how many people will participate. It could be a handful or dozens could like, retweet and comment.
My first game was $23 that I sent to her. I had never done anything like that before and it sent an incredible rush through my chest and mind that was euphoric. Brainwashing?
But the real connection came when she had me edge.
What is Edging
I’ve been involved with BDSM for nearly 30 years in some fashion, whether that was playing in public spaces with dommes and subs, reading and studying about the dynamics or playing privately and using an assortment of toys.
But I honestly didn’t know what edging really was. I just hadn’t heard the term.
When Goddess Crystal first had me edge, I stroked my cock rapidly and stopped right before having an orgasm. Then she trained me to stroke slowly and would only allow me to do it once or twice.
That’s when the inner rage kicked in and the phenomenal rush.
The Euphoria of Edging
The sense of euphoria is incredible and though I’ve never done drugs in my life, not even smoked pot, I could only describe the experience and the need as becoming like a drug.
The key is edging up to the point of orgasm and then stopping. The rush flows inside since the act is never physically carried out. Think of water flowing through a sprinkler system continuously with no outlet. Sexual arousal comes alive and takes over your thinking.
Try it in a committed relationship to see the effects. For example, a woman could use edging to control her man’s orgasm by teasing him, building up his sexual arousal and then stroking him gently, vigorously and then gently again, bringing him close to the edge, so to speak, and then stopping before he comes.
Or, if he’s really turned on, just edge momentarily and then stop.
He’ll be left panting and begging becoming malleable and willing to do whatever the woman wants. Of course, a man could edge his wife or girlfriend, touching her clitoris but not letting her experience a full orgasm.
It’s also a technique for self-love, a way to burn with arousal by not reaching a full orgasm.
What happens? The arousal stays for hours and sometimes days. Or the arousal goes away completely and then without warning comes roaring back when least expected.
Edging connected me internally to Goddess Crystal.
Edging’s Lasting Impact
Edging my cock created what I call a buzz or fuck thoughts. There’s no other way to describe the sensation. I felt the arousal coursing through my chest, almost literally as though an electric current was buzzing.
The buzz would obviously occur immediately after Goddess Crystal had me edge, but then I’d go through a cycle of arousal leading into quiet times of no arousal and then cycling back to intense arousal.
It could hit me in waves and when I did, I thought of her and desired her not just physically but more emotionally. I became mentally and emotionally connected to her.
There were times I could go for weeks without interacting, but then if I saw her pic or sometimes would simply see a woman walking down the street then the arousal buzz would hit me. The result is that I’d want Goddess Crystal’s domination.
It created a mind-body connection that was both sexual and even spiritual in that it transcended physical space.
Edging Truths I Experienced
Stroking my cock intensely and then stopping, and doing it repeatedly, can make it tough to have an erection shortly after the edging occurs. That’s what I’ve found.
Does edging make a man unable to have an erection in the long term, or lead to erectile dysfunction? I’m in my late 50s, and I’ve not experienced that at all. The issue of masturbating causing erectile dysfunction is raised on Web M.D. with the conclusion that this or other sexual activity doesn’t cause ED. Other factors are at play.
There were times in the day or evening when I wondered if I was unable to get an erection since I had edged. But then in those early morning hours when my mind becomes sexually active, as noted in my article Welcome to the 5 A.M. Erotic Theater of My Mind, I was as hard as ever.
Edging has a benefit for men who are likely to experience premature ejaculation. Light edging can train a man to prolong his orgasm as described in this Healthline article, Is Edging Bad? 8 Things to Know Before You Try it Out.
Edging can lose its luster like so many sensations we experience. But done well, and with someone as the focal point, it can strengthen a personal connection and deepen your relationship with one you love.
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