Women/Sexuality
How Do Men Feel About Women Who Masturbate?
Really?
I’ve covered female masturbation in other articles discussing how there are some women who are both experienced and enthusiastic about pleasuring themselves as well as women who have rarely ever touched themselves.
I’ve covered the reasons why women do or don’t masturbate and how open women are in general about having conversations about this topic.
But how do men feel about female masturbation?
You’re probably thinking about how popular girl-on-girl porn is supposed to be with men, right? It’s true that lots of men — including my own man — seem to get pretty stimulated at the thought of two women making out or having sex.
However, it’s one thing to enjoy watching two women getting it on and another thing to have a woman in your life who knows her own body so well that she can give herself a spectacular orgasm on her own at any time — with or without you.
There is very little information on the internet regarding how men feel about their female counterparts masturbating— yet there are a ton of articles about how women feel about male masturbation.
According to an article at AskMen.com, one of the most common concerns women have about their male partner masturbating is that he might not be sexually fulfilled with them as a partner and is seeking additional pleasure as well as possibly fantasizing about someone else while doing it.
The article goes on to say that, although this might be true in some cases, more often than not most men masturbate simply because it feels good. Additionally, the article states that the majority of men have been masturbating since they were in their early teen years, and it’s simply an enjoyable and healthy part of their life that carries on through all ages of adulthood.
I would add that the same is true for women. Masturbation has been a part of my own life since I was a pre-teen and continues to play a vital role in my overall sexual well-being.
I would imagine that there are men out there who might feel incredibly insecure if they knew that their female partner was masturbating on a frequent basis. They may understandably think that they’re not fulfilling her in some way.
However, just like men, isn’t it enough for a woman to simply tell her male partner that she masturbates because it feels good and that it bears no reflection on her overall sexual contentment with him?
This is assuming women even tell their male partners that they masturbate. Perhaps many don’t.
Personally, in my own experience, I find that most men are fairly secure and even excited knowing that their female lovers are capable of pleasing themselves sexually. They find it not only to be a major turn-on but it can take some of the sexual pressure off during situations when their female partner can’t reach orgasm during sex for whatever reason.
I think more men than we realize are fully secure with the idea that there are women who can take care of themselves sexually.
On another positive note, if a woman knows her own body well enough to give herself consistent orgasms, it’s far more likely that she’ll be able to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse.
If two partners are sexually confident people and are able to have open conversations about sex together, then any kind of self-pleasing activities shouldn’t be a problem in a relationship at all — in fact — engaging in mutual masturbation together as a couple during sex can be extremely satisfying.
Talking to your partner — whether it’s a man or a woman — about your masturbation habits can be both enlightening and useful for both parties.
Generally speaking, all genders masturbate because it feels great and it releases tension. If you’re feeling weird or insecure about your partner masturbating or how frequently they do it, talk to them about it.
Masturbation isn’t something to be intimidated by or ashamed of. It’s a natural, human, sexual inclination that can be enjoyed alone or during sex with a partner.
