How are you?
The question everyone should be asking now
Times are difficult now. Everything lies in uncertainty, jobs are lost, lives are at risk and many face the risk of entering, re-entering or staying in a state of isolation.
Indeed, staying home might be good for the first few days (or maybe even weeks if you’re more introverted), we get to do things at our own pace, explore hobbies we have always wanted to and avoid all the challenges we face when we are out there in the (scary) outside world.
But as reality sets in, we begin to worry more about the issues at hand (whether you would still have your job, whether you can pay your bills, etc.). Combined with a lack of human interaction, empty slots of time can be quickly filled with depressive thoughts and crippling anxiety.
That’s why it’s really important to ask this question now:
How are you?
Are you doing well? Is there something you would like to achieve now? What’s bothering you?
No really, spend some time thinking about those questions. When we spend so much time alone with waves and waves of bad news, it’s easy to slip into a state of depression without realising it.
Have you been doing anything that you particularly liked recently?
Are you seeking out activities to do instead of sitting there and letting boredom consume you?
It is important to understand that it is absolutely understandable if you’re unable to do anything productive right now. After all, you might not have the best environment to work or study and after being stuck in this state of ennui for such a long time, you might be feeling unmotivated.
But as you answer those questions, you should begin to unravel the reasons behind your current state of mind. Find out what’s affecting you and look for ways that can help you take your mind off these.
Finding friends and family to talk to, picking up new hobbies, writing about these issues or even going to online forums for people facing similar problems. These are some of the many steps that you can take to begin improving your mental wellness.
Once you begin taking these steps, it’ll become slightly easier (the road to fighting for better mental health is a really tough one) for you to recognise some positivity in your life right now. Yes, many bad things are happening right now. But at the same time, there has and will continue to be rays of sunshine that make life worth living.
Now leaves the most important step in helping you feel better. Finding and setting out aims in your life. Akin to laying out tracks for a train, setting these aims create a sense of purpose for your life right now.
Don’t worry, these aims don’t have to be huge and life-changing (like writing an entire book). No matter how small, these aims help to get you going, paving the road towards a better tomorrow. Aims like planning to work out at home twice a week, writing one opinion article weekly or even handcrafting small objects to sell on your Etsy store aren’t aims that change your life drastically. Yet, they ensure that you are constantly going, occupying your time while pushing you closer to your goals.
“How are you?” is a simple question. People use it all the time as a polite form of greeting. However, this simple three-word phrase can also help you open up and lead you into a deep conversation about your state of mind.
In times like this, “How are you?” is no longer just a polite greeting. It is a question that shows your concern and it might be the most important question that a struggling individual receives.
As we continue to fight off the constant waves of bad news, take some time to ask this question to those around you. Maybe it’ll just lead to a casual conversation about the situation now, maybe you’ll only receive a short reply. Yet, maybe, you would be throwing someone a lifebuoy by simply asking that question.
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