How a Hairdresser Visit Boosted my Self Reflection
Tiny Life Moment of emotional energy pollution
I’m in a hurry. And park my car at the shop next door to go to the hairdressers’.
In front of the hairdressers’ itself is no parking space. But I’m planning to do some other shopping afterward in the other small shops nearby anyway. I like to shop locally. In small shops.
And today, I’m stressed. My village has just been flooded. Big stress with an angry river.
My neighbors are bickering about vaccines or no vaccines. And I just want to get my hair done. So, I park at the neighbors’, close my car door, and walk fast.
“Madam?”
A soft voice behind me. I turn and see the woman shopowner the parking space belongs to.
“You shouldn’t park there, madam. We need the space for our own customers. There is a sign.”
I feel the heat go to my cheeks. I feel my energy go angry. All kinds of thoughts go through my head.
“I was planning to do some shopping at your place, too, after I’m done at the hairdresser,” I bite in her direction. And I return to my car.
She follows me and asks why I’m so agitated.
She just voiced a reasonable request. And because of my reaction, she is now stressed. She says to me: “I’m shaking. I had the daring to confront you and now I’m shaking.” She’s close to tears.
And I? I calm down and have a good look in my emotional mirror.
She’s right. Of course, she’s right. I should be applauding daring women like her. I should be glad she confronts me.
We need women to be strong. Standing up for their rights. About parking spaces and a whole lot of other super-important issues.
And what do I do? I just polluted the air with my fierce, unfriendly energy. I should have known better…
Energy Can Pollute
The thing is, I’m not always aware of my own influence and fierceness. But when I blaze, I blaze like a bushfire out of control. It’s not my words so much. Or my tone. I don’t shout. I don’t curse. But it IS my energy.
And the more I grow as a person, the more influence my energy has on my environment. It is simple. It’s called consciousness. And it comes with a responsibility.
In this case, I made a rational transaction in my head. I can park in her spot because I will do some shopping in her place soon anyway.
That’s flawed thinking.
- She doesn’t know my thought, she just sees I’m parking and not entering her shop
- Thoughts like these are no transactions. I should have just parked on the public space a bit further and walked somewhat longer. There’s always more than one solution
Our energy can pollute. On the other hand, our energy can inspire. Create feelings of empowerment, support, a friendly experience. Joy in a day.
How to Do It Better?
And here, I think about The 4 Agreements.
I should have recognized my own haste. My own stress. And I should have taken a few moments of silence before I reacted to her “Madam…”
I would have been more impeccable with my words then and more impeccable with my energy.
However, she would have grown as a person if she would not have taken my words personally. She could have prevented herself from shaking. From being so affected by my irritation. That would have been her lesson.
The assumptions and my best are clear here. I made assumptions when I thought so transactional. And I definitely didn’t do my best.
How to Correct?
Luckily, there’s always a chance to do it better. To repair the damage. It’s called calming down, shifting my energy, and apologizing honestly.
That’s what I did. I breathed some breaths. Smelt the roses. Heard a bluetit sing her song. And said a heartfelt sorry. Gave her a smile and some chitchat to let my calm, friendly energy land and be felt by her.
Afterward, I drove to the public parking lot, walked a little walk, and arrived at the hairdressers’ a little late. No problem. I don’t need to tell her. I don’t need to justify myself. I just said: “Sorry, I’m a little late.”
To the mirror, I smiled. I’m not perfect. And that’s perfect, isn’t it?
We are always good enough…
Takeaways
- Fierce energy can pollute the environment
- Take a few seconds of silence and become aware before you react
- The 4 agreements contain wise advice
- There’s always time to apologize
- Next time, I’ll take my bicycle to go shopping
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© Désirée Driesenaar