Guys, Trade Loneliness for the Companionship You Want
You can take steps to find your partner.
You will enjoy your personal space until you realize you don’t have a choice.
It hurts when you find yourself without the option to share your experiences. The realization dawns when you see couples together. Or parents with their children.
You wonder where is your special someone.
The beauty of love is you can find it at any age.
Ready to hand in your forever-alone pledge? Try to let go of these emotional weighs.
Hop on the court
It’s better to have your crush say she has a boyfriend than self-reject yourself to the friend zone. There are too many good guys hoping to get intimate with their best friends.
Start the game. Let your crush know your interest goes that way. Give her a chance to tell you an outright no.
So, you can stop saving yourself for her. Building your dating life begins when you are not in emotional limbo.
If you are not free to help her, you have time for yourself. It is time you can use to be where other women hang out or for self-development.
In life, you are your referee.
The guys you label as jerks get the girl because they are the player and the referee. They play the dating game and set zero rules for themselves. Zero.
- Plan a new date right after the first one ends.
- Read the signals. Lean in for a kiss on the first date.
- Talk to the woman at all hours of the day if she keeps responding.
- Waste her time then ghost her.
- Nothing is off-limits if a woman gives consent.
While you hesitated, her another guy made a move. Don’t believe me?
Fear keeps us from the situations we want most. No redirects you to where you can go to get acceptance.
The less time you spend worrying about acting on your feelings and having the talk. The more control you have of your loneliness and single state.
Lacking a plan leads to negative thoughts.
We often find the flaw in every theory or solution. Negativity is an excuse. Why would I say this? You get negative because you don’t know what you would do if she said yes to your offer.
The proof? Your shocked body language and not knowing what to say next when she gives a positive reply. If you are anxious, please plan your response. No! “I never thought you would say yes” — is not a suitable response.
Plan a “play it cool” reply for yes, no, and ghosting.
Let your preparation and pressing send be your closure for this DM communication. Move on to the next one.
Don’t give the “competition” their unfair edge.
Some guys whine about women gravitating to only men who look a certain way. But have you tried looking that way to feel better about yourself?
People accept you when you love yourself. So, you are teaching people how to treat you. To teach others new behaviors, please take action to love yourself. Insert all the advice you love to ignore and don’t have time to do, anyway.
- Read
- Sleep
- Build a side hustle 6–9 pm
- Exercise
- Learn to become more inspired, less jealous
Love is always in the air. You allow it into your space long-term when your mental and physical health improves.
You are also your successes.
Many people need to change their appearance. Or achieve a goal to increase their confidence. It’s okay. I have done the same to feel good about myself.
But there is an underrated way to boost your confidence. You can practice self-compassion when you fail. You can also note when you exceeded goals — accept it as yours, luck or no luck.
Celebrate your success.
It is a reason to see someone again. Or go out on a date rather than spend another night alone at home. If you’re an introvert, invitations can lead to anxiety. Be the one to arrange the hang out. So, you can choose locations most comfortable for you.
Maintain your relationships
Couples often set their single friends up. I know first-hand people in relationships go from cute to annoying fast.
But if you are around a lot, the couple may try to set you up with someone. Be open to the idea the first few times. See where the match goes.
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