Good Guys Believe They Don’t Stand A Chance

5 strategies I see bad guys use to get the girl.

Don’t hate the bad guy.

Be mature. Learn from that person. Many men think they’re god’s gift to women because they are gentlemen. Women get it. You could be someone’s son’s role model.

But what other swoon-inducing strategies do you have?

If no other comes to mind, keep reading. And learn how to improve your act.

Be the main character, not his understudy.

It’s so annoying when you try to be someone you’re not.

Be you. Avoid being cool. Your personality does not need practice. For example, a stumble becomes a big deal when you’re trying to hide your true, clumsy nature. It makes you flustered, which hurts the persona you’re aiming to create.

Women want honesty.

They need to feel like they are getting to know you more than anybody else.

Bad guys don’t hide their toxicity, yet women love them. Hiding your quirks requires you to remember the lies. Lying is a barrier to honesty.

You’re a big boy, don’t let your nerves take control.

You might have seen horror movies or trailers. It gets super awkward quiet before the predator claims his next victim. No matter where the target hides; their breathing and racing heart give them away.

I have seen bad guys sweat. Yes, they get nervous too. But they know their physical giveaway and work them to their advantage.

Your nerves are exaggerating.

You can avoid broadcasting your feelings; the date doesn’t have to know. A jiggling leg goes under a table or moves to the beat of a song. Breathe and pace your words. Place a shaky hand behind a chair.

You’re psyching yourself out because of how you believe your date sees you. Make your nervous habit work for you. So, you can stop beating yourself up about an involuntary movement.

Develop this dope behavior.

Be silent about your business. Keanu Reeves’ quiet, mysterious, humble persona is an attractive quality.

No one is perfect. Silence helps you control the public narrative. Most people only know what you choose to reveal about yourself. Thus, how you talk about yourself shapes your character in their minds.

Loud negative self-talk. Create terrible first impressions and confirm the awful thoughts strangers have about you.

Speak well of yourself.

Ignore lies and rumors; disinterest makes them disappear faster.

Share details when necessary. Only some individuals should know about your past. Share the best facts about your current self with the majority.

Quit setting yourself up for emotional one-night stands.

But baby, don’t get it twisted You was just another n**** on the hit list Tryna fix your inner issues with a bad b**** — Needed Me By Rihanna

It’s good when a woman knows who she wants. Stop being salty about the friend zone.

You act nice. The woman refers to you as a friend; it hurts your feelings. You become a jerk. Of course, the lady thinks she dodged a mistake by making you only an associate.

Your inconsistent behavior eliminates the possibility of you crossing into any other zone.

Quit being fake nice.

You’re assisting with her move. Yet, her boyfriend can’t help because he is busy on that same weekend.

You automatically make yourself a service provider when you don’t declare your intentions.

Rather than making time for women you like, try therapy. Work on yourself. Women lose weight while single, go on dates, or experiment with sex toys. What will you do to build your confidence while single?

When you’re confident, you don’t have to chase women by being fake nice.

Normalize manifesting your someone.

Facebook is for everyone.

Do you know what happens to objects everybody has?

No one wants it anymore unless it is oxygen. And let us acknowledge the hard truth, you’re not oxygen. If you’re only desirable when in relationships, also be unavailable when single.

There is more to life than being on several dating apps. Or making time to kindle relationships with every woman you meet. Create a life that attracts people to you. Place yourself in a position to reject dates.

Being for someone takes effort.

It requires doing all the hard self-development work. This work includes income/career building, exercise, healthy diets, listening, and reading.

What qualities are you developing to think you have a chance?

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