Four Sex Toys I Wish Every Woman Owned

Our bodies are capable of so much pleasure

I had no idea what I was doing the first time I bought sex toys.

I knew I wanted something cute and I wanted it to vibrate.

Looking through my options, I kept gravitating to the toys that were dick-shaped. Those were the only ones that felt familiar. I might have been new to vibrators but at least I knew what to do with a dick.

That’s how I ended up buying an absolutely massive purple, sparkly, vibrating cock.

I was still so young and naive. I assumed bigger was better because, well, that’s the kind of thing I had heard my whole life.

I couldn’t fuck myself with it comfortably. I would try it every once in a while but always end up turning on the vibrations and rubbing the toy against my clit.

Because I’m slow when it comes to learning the lessons life throws at me, the two toys I bought next were basically the same.

One was red. The other was a glow in the dark toy. But they were both huge vibrating cocks that I didn’t enjoy fucking myself with.

I had my fun with them, but I eventually clued in that the dickness of the toys weren’t doing anything for me. I only needed the vibrations and I only needed them in one specific spot.

So the next toy I bought was a bullet vibrator. That opened up my world. I felt like I had finally discovered exactly what I needed.

It was compact, easy to store, and simple to use. It only did one thing — delivered vibrations directly to my clit. But that’s all I needed it to do.

I had so much fun with my bullets that I broke several of them. They made me come so hard that I would pull the bullet and the controller apart with enough force to snap the wire that connected them.

Every few weeks, I’d march myself down to the sex shop and put down another $20 to buy a new vibrating bullet. I felt like a sex freak for using toys so aggressively I had to keep replacing them. The shame got worse when the store clerk started recognizing me.

Bullets were a great way to start improving my masturbation sessions, but it wasn’t until I upgraded to different kinds of toys that I really got to fully explore myself. Playing around helped me discover new kinds of sensations and helped me figure out new and better ways to get myself off.

Since becoming a sex blogger, I’ve had the opportunity to amass and try out a lot of different types of sex toys.

After a few months, the nightstand drawer I used to keep them in couldn’t hold them all. I moved them to a dresser drawer, but that one started to get kind of stuffed.

I needed a place to fit my sex toys, my husband’s sex toys, all the lube we have, and the bondage gear we’ve been experimenting with. I finally upgraded to a storage system with 12 compartments that I keep in my bedroom closet.

Playing with all those toys has been incredibly fun, but it also taught me that owning one sex toy isn’t enough to get the most out of masturbation. Our bodies are capable of so many types of pleasure, and having the right toys allows us to fully indulge in them.

Every type of sex toy is interesting and serves a purpose. Even giant vibrating cocks have their place (just maybe not inside me). But there are four that I think every woman should own.

A Rabbit Vibrator

The bunny vibe is an absolute classic. It’s a go-to vibrator for a lot of women, and for good reason.

For years, it was the only type of toy I played with because it’s very good at delivering vibrations to your clit.

I was already getting that from bullet vibrators, but rabbits are designed to give you more precise stimulation. The bunny ears tend to be flexible, which means it can fit a lot of pussies better. Its shape makes it easier to get it in the right spot, whatever that spot happens to be on your body.

The shape and size of most rabbits also makes it ideal for girls who like to masturbate on their stomachs. You can grind your bunny very comfortably and ride it to a fantastic orgasm.

Sadly, my favorite bunny vibe has been discontinued. But the Bunny Bliss is a good option for a starter rabbit.

A Wand Toy

A wand is a very different kind of vibrator. The bunny gives you very precise stimulation, but a wand has a wide, rounded head that will spread the vibrations across more of your vulva.

It’s a great way to get pleasure from your entire pussy at once.

Because it doesn’t need a lot of precision, it’s a really good toy to have a partner use on you. The long handle also makes it easier for someone else to hold and manipulate during couple play.

If you have a sensitive clit, you might have to do some research to find a wand that works for you. The first one I tried practically ruined me — it was so strong I could barely handle it. I felt like my sex toy had tried to beat me up.

It was so discouraging and I almost wanted to give up on wands right then and there. But I kept getting lured back in.

I was drawn to wands aesthetically and psychologically. I see them in lots of BDSM porn, orgasm torture videos, edging scenes, and all sorts of play that’s focused on female orgasm.

There’s also something so mechanical about it. It’s so big and powerful that it almost seems like someone is using a machine on you. The thought of being tied up and subjected to it is extremely appealing to my little submissive heart.

So, I kept looking. I’m happy I did because I found some that are much more suitable for a sensitive gal like me. And those toys give me sensations and pleasures I can’t get from other types of vibrators.

My favorite wand toy is the Sultry by Pillow Talk. It’s soft and flexible, has gentle vibrations and strong ones, and has a rotating handle that lets you play with it in a unique way.

A Dildo

After going through three silicone cocks when I was still a sex toy noob, I gave up on dildos.

I thought I wasn’t the kind of girl who can enjoy insertable toys. The real problem, though, is that I’m just not a size queen. I need something that’s much more modest in size.

It took me close to fifteen years before I bought myself another one and I’m glad I did because using it taught me I could enjoy penetrative play on my own.

I’m still a vibrator gal at heart, but owning a dildo lets you play around with penetration in ways that you can’t with your fingers alone.

You can go deeper. You can fuck yourself more easily. You can try out more positions, like riding your dildo cowgirl style.

You can also see how you enjoy different angles, learn the best way to hit your G-spot, and figure out what kind of speed and rhythm satisfies you the most.

It’s also really exciting to explore all the different varieties of dildos that are available.

There are differences in shape, size, and rigidity. I’ve got thinner ones and thicker ones. I have a soft, floppy one and a really firm one — and a few that are somewhere in the middle. I’ve got some that are just a few inches long and some that can go much deeper.

I recommend trying all sorts of them. But a good starting point is one that’s about the size of an average cock and isn’t too soft or too rigid. Ideally, you’ll get your hands on a dual-density dildo — they’re firm on the inside but have a softer outer layer that feels really good.

Vibrations is another consideration. Internal vibrations don’t do much for me, but lots of women really enjoy them. It’s worth trying both and seeing what you enjoy.

I’m a fan of King Cock dildos. They’re realistic and have a great firmness and feel. A lot of them run thick and large, but they have some more manageable sizes that are easier to play with.

A Buttplug

Women can get a lot of pleasure from anal play. But many of us have terrible first times that ruin it.

Usually, that’s because we’re doing it because we’re pressured into it, not because we really want to. Or we really want to try anal, but we’re trying it with someone who is a little too eager, fast, and aggressive.

I’m not saying literally every woman should own a buttplug. If you’re not at all into the idea of anal play, that’s fine. You can have more than enough fun playing with your pussy instead.

But if you’re curious about anal, it’s something you should seriously consider exploring on your own.

Playing with a buttplug on your own is your best shot of having your first anal experience be a positive one. And if you don’t like it, you’ll know it’s because it’s a sensation you’re just not into, not because you did it with the wrong partner.

Buttplugs aren’t just a way to prepare for anal sex — solo ass play combined with clit stimulation can be an incredibly intense way to get off.

When you’re buying a buttplug, start with a modest-sized one that’s made of silicone. I tried glass first because I wanted something I could use with silicone lube, but it was just too firm and too cold for my taste.

Pay attention to the base of the toy. It needs to be flared for your safety (so you don’t get it stuck in your ass, basically), but the base is also how you’re going to handle your buttplug. Choose a base that will make it easy to insert the toy, play with it, and take it back out.

My current favorite buttplug is the Naughty Candy Heart. It’s silicone, easy to use, and really cute.

Go for Variety

These are the four types of toys I consider essential because they allow you to experience lots of different sensations. Owning them will make masturbation more fun and a whole lot more interesting. You’ll get to know your body and you’ll get to come like crazy.

Having these toys also lets you combine them. Stimulating your clit while fucking yourself with a dildo is really fucking satisfying. Riding your vibrator with a buttplug in your ass can make you come harder than those vibrations could on their own. If you’re bold, you can even use three toys at once and see what happens.

I don’t think anyone should stop at four, though. There are so many different toys to explore and so many ways to get off. Don’t cheat yourself out of them.

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