5 Fetishes You Might Secretly Possess
Take advantage of your quirks to explore your sexuality
We all have our fascinations, preferences, and little quirks and you might not realize that you have a hot fetish!
A fetish is simply a sexual desire linked to a particular object — such as feet — or a particular action — like pain. Nowadays, the word fetish is used with too much weight. People think if you have a fetish you’re consumed by the sexual act, when in fact, you could simply enjoy it.
You can enjoy sexual fetishes without being fully obsessed with them.
Someone asked me if I had any fetishes recently and I said no because I didn’t want them to think I only enjoy one thing sexually. But actually, I enjoy some acts that are considered “fetish.”
So, by looking at a few things you enjoy, it might give you insight into different ‘fetishes’ or turn-ons you might be interested in trying. In this article, let’s have a look at the things you naturally enjoy and discover if you have a fetish you might secretly possess.
#1: If you enjoy walking bare feet
You might secretly have a foot fetish or podophilia, which is simply a sexual interest in feet.
People who might have a foot fetish enjoy going barefoot in nature and love to have the earth touch their bare feet. People with a foot fetish will most likely enjoy dipping their toes in the water every time they visit the ocean — even if it’s freezing.
While people with a foot fetish might not always be into other people’s feet, but they enjoy their own. If you enjoy getting pedicures and don’t feel super sensitive when they massage your feet, this is a secret sign. It’s also possible for people with a foot fetish to have lots of shoes. The general interest in the way your ‘feet’ are presented is a sign of your secret fetish.
Sexual adventures to try
Ask your partner to massage your feet. Make a whole experience out of it, ask them to wash your feet in the bathroom or shower. They can then massage your feet in bed, perhaps naked. If this turns you both on, you can ask them to put your toes in their mouth.
Consider sex positions that allow for sucking on toes. Try legs-over-shoulders for the perfect reach. Another great position is called the T-strap. It puts your feet directly in your partner’s face without having to do too much stretching. If you are a man with a foot fetish, your partner can give you a foot-job, where he or she uses their feet to massage your penis.
#2: If you enjoy playing in the water
Aquaphilia in Greek means ‘water lover’. People who have a secret water fetish might enjoy sexual activity underwater, in water, or simply around water.
People with a water fetish are naturally adventurous and emotional. Do you prefer the beach to the mountains or the pool instead of a picnic? You might love swimming or splashing in a river. People who are drawn to water might take long baths or showers. Being naked amongst water is a safe and comfortable place for them.
Water lovers are often emotional, artistic, and drawn to drama and passion. Do you love that magical kiss in The Notebook in the pouring rain? It’s secretly the sexiest kiss you’ve seen in a movie? This scene is the epitome of a water kink, it combines passion with water and sexual desire.
Sexual adventures to try
People with a water fetish need desire and passion to mix with the element water. Go to a steam room with your lover. You might love the water droplets that condense on your skin. Masturbate in the shower, invite your partner to join you for a sex shower. If you both enjoy shower sex, you might take a look at buying a non-slip shower mat.
Add in the element of drama. Run outside in the rain, make out in the middle of the street in the storm (not when there is lightning). Plan a day trip to the lake or river, make out in the water, splash water on one another. Fool around. Spend time around water with your lover. It will strengthen your sexual bond. If you’re feeling extremely adventurous find a remote river, lake, or place on the beach to make love in the water.
#3: If you enjoy performing
Are you a performer by nature? You might be a secret exhibitionist, which is a fetish with a strong desire to be observed in sexual acts.
People who might enjoy exhibitionism don’t feel a need to rehearse conversations in their heads. They are comfortable coming up with things at the drop of the hat. They are typically confident and don’t easily get embarrassed. They secretly desire more attention than they get.
Do you sing in the shower or spend some extra moments in the mirror every morning? People who love performing don’t mind taking selfies or getting on Instagram live. People who enjoy performing take special care of their image and often have an amazing sense of style and fashion.
Sexual adventures to try
I would start by giving a strip-tease performance when it’s sexy time. Pick your favorite songs and then slowly take off your clothes, one by one, as your partner sits on the bed and watches. If this feels good to you, consider dressing up and doing a sexy dance. Have your partner sit in the middle of the room in a chair. Learn some lap dance tricks and integrate them. If dancing isn’t your thing, sing a sexy song while touching yourself.
If you enjoy these performances, have a dialogue about maybe recording your sexual acts and watching them with your partner. You can even look into inviting others to watch if you both feel safe and comfortable.
#4: If you enjoy food
Do you consider yourself a foodie? If you do endless research before picking a restaurant for dinner, chances are you have a secretly intimate relationship with food. Sitophilia is a fetish in which you’re sexually aroused by the usage of a food product.
People with a foot fetish will care about the aesthetic of their food. Not just how good it tastes but the way it comes prepared. Fine dining is included in your monthly budget. Lots of people enjoy fancy food but never think to bring it to the bed.
Sexual adventures to try
There are so many fun things to try if you love food. Aphrodisiacs are foods said to increase your sex drive. This is a way to play with arousal and food. Now, most people think of chocolate, oysters, and spicy foods as aphrodisiacs. Sadly, there is little evidence to prove this. The herbs that are showing scientific results when it comes to heightened libido are ginkgo, ginseng, and maca. Use these foods to sexually excited you and your partner.
You don’t have to play with these unique herbs to get into food in a sexy way. Make dinner naked with your partner and eat it in dim candlelight. Use your body as a plate. Eat or lick food or treats off your partners’ body. Consider chocolate, sushi, a tequila shot, or candy.
#5: If you enjoy puzzles
You might secretly have a fetish for BDSM, specifically sadism. Sadists, enjoy dominating or inflicting control over someone else. Some people enjoy playing mind games. This might come in the form of a crossword, Sudoku, or a jigsaw puzzle.
People who love these types of games also really enjoy the sense of control or satisfaction of working through something. They enjoy the experience of getting the answer right. This type of mental control is satisfying, and you might be secretly into BDSM.
Sexual adventures to try
If you find yourself spending lots of time playing these kinds of games and mental activities you might like bondage. Combining a mental exercise into sexual activity is fun. In Shibari, you use a rope to tie someone up. This kind of sexual bondage uses intricate and difficult knots.
There are many different knots to learn and hundreds of patterns to try. There is so much to learn in the world of Shibari. Enjoy playing with puzzles and knots on the naked body of your partner. You might find it stimulating and sexy to tie them up in these stimulating patterns and knots.
The process of tying is the experience itself. It’s a mental task that also requires the submission of a willing partner. This sort of sexual dynamic can bring you and your partner closers as there has to be a level of trust.
Do you enjoy any of these things? If they sound like you, give the sexual experiments a try. Trying new things is extremely attractive to a sexual partner. Being open and curious is such a turn-on. Don’t worry too much about labeling these activities as “fetishes,” because it’s sexual expansion — expanding on the things we like. Let me know if this article turned you on to something new.
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