Feeling Not Good Enough?
Reclaim Your Self-Esteem With These 6 Simple Self-Love Habits
“I am not good enough,” she said.
We all have moments when we think we are failing. Maybe we never believed we would master a skill, get a promotion, or pass that test. This is human nature.
When we suffer from low self-esteem, we constantly feel this way. It doesn’t matter what we achieve or how much evidence there is to prove otherwise, we still do not believe in ourselves.
If you want to do something positive to reclaim your self-esteem, you need to start by showing yourself some love.
Start by practising at least 1 of these 6 habits daily and gradually add more.
1. Be The Watcher of Your Thoughts
From today, notice negative thoughts as they come up.
If lack of self-love is an issue for you, then you likely have many negative thoughts throughout the day. Notice them without making any judgement or attaching any meaning to them. Just ask yourself whether this thought is true. Is it a fact or did your mind make it up?
If you wish, you could make a note in your journal. Note what happened to make you think that. What emotions came up? Where did you feel them? How did you react?
Then let the thought go. There is no need to attach any meaning to it. It’s just a thought.
2. Start a Gratitude Practice
No matter how low you are feeling, there are things in your life that you can be grateful for.
Start listing at least 3 things every day that you are grateful for. Even just being alive is a reason to be grateful. Whatever situation you are in, some people in the world are worse off than you.
Be grateful for everything and everyone that comes into your life.
3. Forgive Yourself
It’s okay to make a mistake, that’s human and we are all human (though sometimes I do wonder!).
Forgive yourself for anything you have done wrong at any time past or present. What is done, cannot be changed, only forgiven.
Self-love is letting go of past mistakes.
4. Know Your Values
Values are the internal ‘rules’ that you live by.
Our values are used by our subconscious to guide us to make the right decisions. You may think of that as intuition or your ‘gut instinct’. Unless we know and understand our core values, when we are faced with a dilemma or have a crucial decision to make, our inner guidance may be drowned out by other voices in our heads.
Not knowing your values means you won’t always make the right decision.
5. Set Healthy Boundaries
Every person deserves respect.
When we have low self-esteem, we tend to put up with stuff. Maybe we don’t feel we deserve better.
Your boundaries define how you want to be treated as a person.
Act as though you matter. Start stating how you wish to be treated and don’t settle for less.
6. Find the Positive People
Drop the toxic ‘friends’. They are not your friends btw.
Avoid the energy vampires. Those negative people that drain the energy out of you.
Find the people who support you, accept you as you are without judgement, and make you feel good about yourself.
Be with people you like, not people you think you need to impress.
Summary
Remember you are a unique individual, worthy of respect and love.
You have nothing to prove, nothing to hide, and nothing to defend.
When we are kind and respectful to ourselves, one another, and our planet, giving love and compassion to all things, we notice more beauty in the world. We realize that we are part of that beauty.
Don’t rely on others to “make you happy”; instead, take 100% responsibility for your own happiness. Since happiness originates internally, it can only be sustained by the individual. The happiness you experience from other people and material items is short-lived. If you want it to last, you must look within yourself to discover your own true happiness.
“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet” — Mohadesa Najumi (British Writer).
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