Exploring Past Regrets and Decisions
Thoughtful Ramblings From a Raging Academic
We all make mistakes from time to time, and it’s okay to be making them.
We aren’t perfect. We’re just human. We did the best that we could with the information that we had at the time. As time stretches on, we get to see more information, but for that instance, you did what you best knew.
There’s no use in going through the notions on what we could have said, or should have said. While hindsight makes us regret our past decisions, sometimes bad things happen, resulting in a series of domino effects, where things get better.
While the pain and suffering we feel are incredibly cruel, it shapes us and molds us to be the person we couldn’t be back then. Younger you would be so proud of current you right now. Even if you don’t feel like it, there are things that older you is doing that younger you never would have never imagined.
As much as we hate the error of our ways, it’s the unavoidable part of being a human being. Even today, you and I may be engaging in mistakes that we are not aware of, just barely registering from our consciousness.
There are various cognitive errors that permeate across the recesses of our minds. Since we are unable to make a million permutations across infinite circumstances, we have to physically map out and soundboard ideas, just to establish rough patterns.
Once you discover a pattern, you can disrupt it, and if you can disrupt a pattern, then you have your exit strategy. No matter how hard it is to leave the comforting cycle of doom, you sometimes need to leave for the betterment of your sanity.
You can do it. You’ve survived a lot in the past, you can do the same again.
However, as fatal as our mistakes are, there comes a time where we have to be humble and realize that we don’t know everything.
We like to believe that we are fundamentally different from everyone else. In some ways, we are, governed by an eclectic mix of ideologies, tastes, and interests. However, just as your life is enriching, so are the lives of others.
When you go through the lows, they also have their own personal demons to bear. In a way, that makes others similar to us, even if we feel so incredibly alone.
Sometimes, we are out of touch when it comes to our feelings, making us especially susceptible to the emotions of others. Some of us pour lots of effort and time to help others, even if we’re drowning ourselves.
It’s easy to want to fix others. It’s tempting to control the narrative, especially when you feel that things are spiralling out of control. However, the reality is that we cannot control everything, no matter how hard we try.
When we feel burdened by our emotions, we sometimes have an inclination to protect the other people in our life. We push them away, and we think we are doing a service. In reality, we’re destroying our relationships, especially with those who are willing to hear us out.
Locking away our feelings becomes an impossible feat; a feat where you act like nothing is bothering you. The reality is that you’re building up the poison deep inside, and one day, you’re going to burst.
Without any outlet, you’ve lost your source of control. While we’re not robots, we shouldn’t strive to be. Instead, we have to tackle our problems head-on.
To keep in touch with our emotions means heightening our self-awareness and readjusting the dial that skews our perception of the world. We think we are getting stronger keeping our emotions deep inside, but instead, we’re getting weaker, slowly warping our world.
Our world is full of uncomfortable moments. Sometimes people say things that hurt us very deeply. This can happen across many avenues and outlets, across people who you thought you could trust.
While discomfort is a part of living, we can pad our sadness with positive distractions. These distractions embody our interests and hobbies. Over time they can become something much larger and greater, turning into the most wonderful things you could not believe.
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