Everything You Wanted to Know About Using Vaginal Beads

From peeing to sex to exercising…I share it all

Though I’ve never used vaginal beads until recently, I have used an egg before, and find the use of both to be fun and pleasurable — not to mention useful (more on that later). In the past, when I talked about the egg, I found that many people found the process to be intimidating, weird, or even scary. I’ve been asked endless questions about it and I thought I would compile those questions and answers here.

Is it safe to use beads?

I have yet to find any evidence that vaginal beads are unsafe. Buy from a reputable company (mine are from Lelo) and just make sure you wash them well before and after you use them.

One important thing to note is that you should buy a product that has silicone or plastic string and/or connector between the beads. You do not want to be inserting a cotton or other permeable cord into your body because those can never be truly cleaned between usages and could allow bacteria to form. Think of it like reusing a tampon — not healthy.

Do they hurt?

It’s relatively easy to insert them (and feels really good), even if you are very tight, as I am. You’ll want to take your time with this process, just out of respect for your body. I don’t believe in shoving anything inside the vagina without giving it as much time as it needs to relax and receive.

Wearing them doesn’t hurt at all — nor should it hurt — and in fact, can be extremely pleasurable.

Removing them is the only part of the process that has caused me pain and the pain was quick and not too bad. Just a “ye-ow!” of letting go of each bead. It’s been helpful to me to use this as part of my “bead practice” — that I’m not just focusing on tightening my pelvic floor muscles, but on relaxing them, as well. I’ve also found that as I’ve worn them over the course of almost two weeks (nearly every day), removing them has become easier each time and I no longer experience that pain when the widest part of each bead passes out of my vagina.

Do they really feel good when you are wearing them?

Hells yes. They feel amazing.

You feel a fullness inside you and every single movement presses the beads against a different part of you, creating more sensation. Best of all, the Luna Beads that I have are designed so that the weights are inside the outer beads, freely moving — which means that every movement also comes with a subtle jarring vibration from the inner beads moving around. Even though the sensation is subtle, it can be extremely pleasurable, especially when you bend forward and it hits against the front wall of your vagina. Yum.

However, there are also times when you’ll be mentally distracted and forget that you’re even wearing them unless you move in a particular way that really sends a zip through you. There have been many times when I was doing chores that I forgot I even had them in until I sat down again and felt the pressure of them inside me.

Can you wear them when you pee?

I have found numerous sources say that you shouldn’t wear these when peeing. Why? I’m not sure — they never explain their answer.

I’ve found plenty of other sources that say yes, you can, just like you would pee while wearing a tampon.

Here’s the deal, though, from someone who has tried to pee while wearing an egg or beads. Unlike tampons, these items are hard, heavy, and slippery, and as soon as you let go of your pelvic floor muscles enough to pee, your vagina is going to relax, too.

The few times I have attempted this (both with an egg, and with the beads), I could feel myself letting go too much and I immediately stopped the stream and put my hand between my legs just in time to catch the object as it came out of me.

I suspect this is the reason why many sources recommend that you don’t pee while wearing them — you are likely to drop them into the toilet and many would be unwilling to go fishing for them after that.

Further, it is very hard to fully empty your bladder while holding on to an egg or beads. Your muscles have to stay partially clenched to hold on to the object.

Can you wear them during sex?

As you can imagine, this is a huge fantasy of mine. To think of a bead rolling around inside me along with my partner’s dick. Mmmmm. According to sources, yes, it is possible, but best (obviously) if you keep it slow and steady.

Can you wear them while working out?

Yes…but maybe start out doing so when a “fallout” won’t be noticeable by others. Because believe me, they will fall out.

So far, I’ve worn mine doing yoga and walking. During yoga, I’ve had no problems, so far — not even in Warrior II, when I expected they would pop right out. I’ve only done 30 minute routines at this point, so I imagine the longer and more rigorous your practice, the higher chance you’d have of them popping out at an inconvenient moment.

I also wore them on my daily two-mile walk recently. I had worn my egg years before on a walk and at that time, the egg fell out halfway through my walk — a very unfortunate experience because I was walking in a residential area and…well, let’s just say that having a hard lump sitting in the crotch of your panties while you’re walking is extremely uncomfortable — especially when your steps start edging it back where it gets lodged in your ass crack.

I was prepared for the beads to fall out, but I also was feeling quite cocky and thought maybe I’d be able to make it the whole two miles without incident. I was squeezing pretty hard at various points during the first half of the walk, trying to perceive where the beads were in my body. I felt them move higher and lower at different moments.

The one thing I didn’t anticipate was how much the wiggling inner balls and the constant squeezing would create a biological response in my body. It was very arousing and I could feel myself becoming increasingly wet — which in that case, was not good. It also made my vagina start to relax, as if for a lover. Add to that gravity and the impact of my steps, which further loosened my pelvic floor muscles.

After I reached the halfway point of my walk, I knew the beads were going to fall out. I stopped at least twelve times to bend over because each time I bent over, the beads would zip back up inside me. But immediately upon straightening up, they’d fall to the bottom of my vagina again. Twice, I knelt down, as if to tie my shoe, and strategically positioned myself so that my heel dug into my vagina, hoping the pressure would push it up further…but again, it would fall back down as soon as I stood up.

I finally realized there was no stopping gravity and clenched my teeth, worried it would hurt when the beads slid out while I was walking. I was so tense, I was walking as if there was a stick up my ass. And finally, the beads slid out, and thankfully, it didn’t hurt at all.

I was walking on a country road, where there was no one to be seen and no cars driving by, so I quickly stuck my hand down my pants, grabbed the beads (I was not going to walk another mile with those things jabbing into my ass), slipped them into my pocket, and merrily made my way home.

My goal is to make it two miles while wearing the beads, but I’m honestly not sure that’s possible, given my body’s biological response when they’re jiggling around inside me. The more slippery they get, the harder it is to keep them inside, no matter how tightly you squeeze.

Do they really make sex better?

I’m not having sex with another person at this time, but let me tell you what — I’m having incredible orgasms.

I can say with absolute certainty that just within a few days of wearing the beads, I could feel a difference. Playing with my other favorite sex toy has been intensely pleasurable. And though speed is not at all a goal of mine when it comes to sex, I have noticed that I’ve been reaching orgasm faster than usual.

I don’t know that I’d say my orgasms are stronger or more intense — I deeply dislike that kind of comparison and feel like it disrespects the beautifully fluid nature of orgasms — but I definitely have noticed that I’m more aware of what’s happening in that part of my body when I come. And with that awareness comes, I suspect, a greater appreciation of the pleasure I’m experiencing.

Which is better — beads or an egg?

To me, this decision should be based solely on your intentions. An egg is more about a feminine spiritual practice, while the beads are more about strengthening — and relaxing — the vagina. If you’re strictly looking to increase pleasure, however, I’d go with the beads.

The truth is, I’m surprised by how much I love my beads. I don’t really play much with sex toys but the beads have got me thinking that maybe I should be a little more adventurous in this area…

© Yael Wolfe 2020

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