Self-Depreciation vs. Humility
“Don’t confuse humility with self-deprecation” by N.D.Walsch
Cambridge Dictionary defines that humility is
“the quality of not being proud because you are aware of your bad qualities.”

I want to remind the lexical meaning of humility because, as far as I see, people misunderstood the usage of this word.
Humility is the realization of your weaknesses, not to underestimate your potential.
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less” by C. S. Lewis
Being humble towards one another is a precious virtue. Elders advise children to be modest, cultures support nurture while you are growing.
However, your demure attitudes have been changing in time and deviate from the purpose.
People have a false notion that the ego begins where humility ends.
Another misconception is that you show over humility because you are a perfectionist. Focusing on the final product and not seeing the steps taken in the process prevents you from seeing
Being modest initially started as a passive stance.
For instance, you receive praise from someone, instead of admitting by saying thank you, prefer to stay in silence. Gesture and facial expression are the signals that demonstrate not to accept as real.
Modesty seems a minor reaction, but it brings about significant impacts on your life. In the long run, over humility leads to self-doubt and creates low self-esteem.
Therefore, you need to clarify where and how humble you should be. Especially in the work environment, being a nice nelly to not to have ego goes to the point of not being able to claim what you achieve. Your teammate has staked a claim on your project or idea without asking; you cease to stop him.
Is this a humble move against your colleague? Or are you unable to own something that is your creation?
The rules are apparent.
- Be aware of who you are, your efforts and achievements.
- Self-monitoring is a crucial indicator to boost your self-awareness.
- If you believe that you are good at something, you have to accept it.
- Admit to yourself that I have worked hard to create this.
- Be confident enough to get the credit of it.
- Nothing has happened by chance.
- Embrace the ownership of your success. It is not brag about yourself.
If the above guideline sounds difficult for you, I encourage you to try giving honest responses to the below questions.
1. What would you say if you describe yourself as an outside eye? How do you perceive yourself?
2. What are your experiences, successes, and failures?
3. In which areas have you improved yourself
Be aware of your potential and achievements and act like that.
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