Don’t Read This Blog If You’re Sad
Sadness is a choice. Turn those negative thoughts into something positive. Fuel the negativity into something productive.
Research which was done in 1978 compared two sets of groups. The first group won a $1 million lotteries, and the second group faced catastrophic accidents.
The researchers noted the activities of people from both groups—the daily activities like watching tv, talking with a friend, and receiving a compliment. Over time, the accident victims were happier than those who won the lottery. This was due to hedonic adaption, which means humans tend to get used to things after being happy.
So, we can conclude that happiness then is a choice rather than what happens to us.
How To Stay Happy All The Time?
First, you must understand that failure is inevitable. You cannot cheat failure. Human beings are designed in a way that achievement makes us happy. Progress makes us happy.
If you are sad, it means your progress stopped. It would help if you found something to do. Something that excites you. You might say that working in a 9–5 job and paying the bills don’t allow you to stay happy. That’s absurd! Take a memory lane trip to your childhood and find a habit that makes you happy. Include that thing in your life.
Here are few things that you can do to stay happy all the time:
- Start your day with Gratitude. Throughout the day, count your blessings. Whenever you feel sad, start counting your blessings.
- Meditate for 5–10 minutes. Whether you are in the office or in-home, close your eyes and take deep breaths. This will relax your body and make you calm.
- Write what you are feeling. When you put everything on paper, it empties your mind, and you can then inject good thoughts.
- Visualize the future you want. Think of the thing that you want most in life. Close your eyes and in your mind’s eye, imagine yourself enjoying that thing or being that person you want.
- Give charity. Something that brings happiness from within. Even if it’s a penny, give it away and notice how you feel about it.
- Help someone in need. If you are good at something, help someone without expecting anything in return. Trust me; you’ll feel so relieved, happy from inside.
- Tony Robbins, in his talk, mentions changing your physiology which means change your posture, take deep breaths, take a cold shower or do some stretching to make yourself happy.
As I have mentioned earlier, happiness is less about what happens to you and more about how you respond to it. It doesn’t matter what people think of you or what events occur with you. What matters is how you talk to yourself? Keep your inner self-talk positive. That’s the grand lesson from this blog.
