Don’t Compare Mental Health. If You Feel Shit, Seek Help, Period
The disaster of mental health shaming and comparing.
I am going to keep this very short.
To everyone who happens to come across this, this message is either for you or for you to share with a friend, or for you to get told off.
It’s outdated to be mentally ill and not seek help
In the past, when our world is dominated by alpha people, it’s not ok to cry. It might be ok for women to cry, but not men. I feel sorry for men because they have the highest suicidal rate (at least in the UK) at the moment.
What leads a person to suicide? The path of feeling low, to depression, to suicidal is long and difficult. There are many opportunities to seek help and for us to offer a helping hand.
It’s a kind thing to do to ourselves when we admit we are struggling and then seek help. The urgency is comparable to when you want to poop; you just go to the loo and release. For this, a therapist is where you release (sorry for this juvenile comparison!).
If the person next to you seems to be fine, that means nothing
I felt ashamed for a long time because I felt weak. Everyone’s suffering during the pandemic; everyone’s lonely, why was I having panic attacks?
This is a question with no value whatsoever. It means that you’re comparing, shaming yourself, or even trying to make excuses to avoid seeing a therapist.
Don’t be scared. I don’t think therapists bite. It’s ok, just go in, and cry like a baby. That’s fantastic.
We know nothing about others, just remember that. And back to the suicidal position, if someone has offered them a helping hand along the way, maybe they won’t get the point of tragedy. So you don’t know which point in the path this person might be in.
We just don’t know.
If you are the one comparing one to another, or even shaming people. You should see a therapist too
Your weird old-fashioned way of thinking needs an upgrade, and I will go as far as to say that you shaming others is reflecting something insecure in you. So go and see a therapist.
You don’t need this defense mechanism either.
Listen to the words of the wise cat Gingi
If you are willing to start recovering (yes the minute you decide to seek help, you are recovering), let start with the wise words from Gingi my cat:
It will relax you.
