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</p><div id="cf29" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/7-self-care-lessons-you-might-have-forgotten-4eb56899e434"> <div> <div> <h2>7 Self-Care Lessons You Might Have Forgotten</h2> <div><h3>Or perhaps have never even heard.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*n1YilINdoXrNiIkRiGuttQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="3050">#5: 810 fans</h1><p id="5eff">No sex here either. Hmmm, maybe I'm not the peddler of debauchery those commenters called me.</p><div id="445a" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-i-write-and-publish-so-damn-much-d264fb2a8f1e"> <div> <div> <h2>How I Write (and Publish) So Damn Much</h2> <div><h3>Sorry, these answers are far from sexy.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*4iadWn8ZifDXUlmAWMoa8Q.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="c4d5">#6: 760 fans</h1><p id="f286">Well, this one's pretty rough as it was my first member feature before Medium began editing those picks, but again, it's really not about sex. Sorry.</p><div id="8c84" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/a-different-kind-of-abuse-4d04a501e2c7"> <div> <div> <h2>A Different Kind of Abuse</h2> <div><h3>We get so used to seeing childhood trauma through one particular lens, but there are many--often insidious--ways to…</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*JL4KRWQUeQ6MckIs2Libww.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="ad16">#7: 735 fans</h1><p id="5cde">So yeah, this one's definitely about sex. But it was also inspired by some Q&As on the Planned Parenthood website. Meaning? It's meant to be educational.</p><div id="d1fa" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-female-orgasm-really-isnt-that-all-that-mysterious-13eaf97f068"> <div> <div> <h2>The Female Orgasm Really Isn't That Mysterious</h2> <div><h3>Despite what you might have heard.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*PftL57RUF70ooo-2EIUb6A.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="930b">#8: 727 fans</h1><p id="ed64">Naw, this one's not about sex, but a certain fellow writer who doesn't like me <i>did</i> crack some jokes about my weight on Twitter and then tried to defend her humor by complaining that I write too much about being fat. So... sorry, not sorry but fat is not some magical topic on Medium. It's just real life.</p><div id="7ca9" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-the-fuck-does-a-person-get-to-be-400-pounds-675a60d2683f"> <div> <div> <h2>How The Fuck Does A Person Get To Be 400 Pounds?</h2> <div><h3>Morbid obesity is bigger than gluttony or laziness.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*bmUaNiT_OWYIXnqyVKPEvQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="df8e">#9: 715 fans</h1><p id="fd # Options 85">Funny story. I actually wrote this piece as a precursor to that #1 story about the threesome. Both pieces hit the popular on Medium section within a week of each other. So, <i>maybe sex sells</i>. Or maybe my experiences are just kinda... relatable?</p><div id="1c04" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/women-get-horny-425e85d0a4fe"> <div> <div> <h2>Women Get Horny</h2> <div><h3>But It's really hard to talk about that.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*5gPKc1cphb5zDw7kNKC8uQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><h1 id="9c6e">#10: 685 fans</h1><p id="9165">Nothing sexy here, folks!</p><div id="d052" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/what-to-do-if-you-ever-feel-like-youve-wasted-your-life-acf024715b65"> <div> <div> <h2>What To Do If You Ever Feel Like You've Wasted Your Life</h2> <div><h3>5 things that helped me get back on track.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*sSPjphvHaUhVPZeSs49C3A.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="284a">Out of my top 10 stories, three are definitely about sex. But remember, I write a lot. So, I've actually got 22 stories on Medium with more than 500 fans. How many of those are about sex?</p><p id="b3aa">Four.</p><p id="9155">That's right, I could list my next 12 stories after the Top 10 and only one of those stories are solidly about sex. The other stories are about family, mental health, women's issues, personal development, writing, and relationships... but not sex.</p><p id="d593">I'm not sure if you're supposed to be relieved or disappointed, but to me it just kind of is what it is. You know?</p><p id="3625">I write about the issues that matter to me, and sometimes, that's sex. I am genuinely unashamed of that, but I also know that when I do write about sex it's not some tasteless marketing ploy.</p><p id="c529">It's just me.</p><p id="3949">But let's get real. I <i>do</i> write frequently about sex, or at least, whenever I'm in the mood. And I've got 76 stories here with more than 300 fans. And do you know what?</p><p id="5bf3">A lot of those <i>are</i> about sex. In fact, 19 of those 76 stories are about sex.</p><p id="27f2">If anything, my success on Medium should tell you that you don't need to pigeonhole yourself into one topic. You don't even need to hit hot buttons all the damn time.</p><p id="c6b1">But it pays to give a crap and have some real passion for the topics you choose. Consider your work on Medium as your personal portfolio. It ought to reflect the type of writer you are, the writer you are becoming, and the writer you wish to be.</p><p id="9c46">If you want to write about sex all of the time, do that.</p><p id="4b91">But if you don't want to write about sex? Quit calling it easy money.</p><p id="867d">The reality is that sex stories <i>might</i> get you more views, and possibly even more reads. But the ratio of fans tends to be pretty low on most sex stories when compared to those reads. And if you want to make money on Medium, you've got to get fans because you don't get paid for views or reads aside from those clapping readers.</p><p id="23c9">Whatever you choose to write about, believe in its value. Believe in your value. Sex sells but relatability and readability are the real superpowers you want to hone here.</p><p id="024b"><a href="https://pages.convertkit.com/45f106593a/ba949caec9"><b>Join my email list</b></a><b> to keep in touch, or check me out on <a href="https://writealready.substack.com">Write Already</a>!</b></p></article></body>

Does Writing About Sex Really Make Medium Success Come Easy?

Let's recap my sexual side.

Every now and then, somebody comments to say that I must be writing about sex for the claps. Because, you know, that's a thing. Apparently.

In case you missed it, sex sells. And it sells so well that it can make you a Medium superstar overnight because it's pretty much the blogger version of "sleeping your way to the top."

Hey, I jest, but I suspect that you get what I'm saying. In 2019, plenty of folks still consider writing about sex as some sort of low brow profession.

That's right, there are still pearls to be clutched and some serious side eye to be given.

But to answer this question about whether I've been successful on Medium because I write about sex, I thought it would be fun to browse my stories with more than 500 fans.

Are they mostly all about sex?

Let's see:

#1: 1.2K fans

Okay, so my "top" story is currently about sex. You caught me. But to be fair, it's got nearly 90K views too. Those 1,200+fans are a drop in the bucket of everyone who's seen the story. So, maybe sex doesn't sell so... hard?

I Had A Threesome And It Was Awkward AF

But I’m so glad I went through with it anyway.

medium.com

#2: 1K fans

This one isn't so much about sex as it is about religion and spiritual abuse. Honestly, it's more about forced abstinence due to the medical condition called vaginismus.

Twenty, Married, and Still a Virgin

Growing up an evangelical kept me chaste well into my marriage

medium.com

#3: 883 fans

Well, this is definitely feminist. But no, it's not about sex.

A Diary of Unsolicited Advice From Men

Things men tell women but would never say to each other.

medium.com

#4: 880 fans

Oops! No sex here. Not a lick. Have I missed some golden opportunity?

7 Self-Care Lessons You Might Have Forgotten

Or perhaps have never even heard.

medium.com

#5: 810 fans

No sex here either. Hmmm, maybe I'm not the peddler of debauchery those commenters called me.

How I Write (and Publish) So Damn Much

Sorry, these answers are far from sexy.

medium.com

#6: 760 fans

Well, this one's pretty rough as it was my first member feature before Medium began editing those picks, but again, it's really not about sex. Sorry.

A Different Kind of Abuse

We get so used to seeing childhood trauma through one particular lens, but there are many--often insidious--ways to…

medium.com

#7: 735 fans

So yeah, this one's definitely about sex. But it was also inspired by some Q&As on the Planned Parenthood website. Meaning? It's meant to be educational.

The Female Orgasm Really Isn't That Mysterious

Despite what you might have heard.

medium.com

#8: 727 fans

Naw, this one's not about sex, but a certain fellow writer who doesn't like me did crack some jokes about my weight on Twitter and then tried to defend her humor by complaining that I write too much about being fat. So... sorry, not sorry but fat is not some magical topic on Medium. It's just real life.

How The Fuck Does A Person Get To Be 400 Pounds?

Morbid obesity is bigger than gluttony or laziness.

medium.com

#9: 715 fans

Funny story. I actually wrote this piece as a precursor to that #1 story about the threesome. Both pieces hit the popular on Medium section within a week of each other. So, maybe sex sells. Or maybe my experiences are just kinda... relatable?

Women Get Horny

But It's really hard to talk about that.

medium.com

#10: 685 fans

Nothing sexy here, folks!

What To Do If You Ever Feel Like You've Wasted Your Life

5 things that helped me get back on track.

medium.com

Out of my top 10 stories, three are definitely about sex. But remember, I write a lot. So, I've actually got 22 stories on Medium with more than 500 fans. How many of those are about sex?

Four.

That's right, I could list my next 12 stories after the Top 10 and only one of those stories are solidly about sex. The other stories are about family, mental health, women's issues, personal development, writing, and relationships... but not sex.

I'm not sure if you're supposed to be relieved or disappointed, but to me it just kind of is what it is. You know?

I write about the issues that matter to me, and sometimes, that's sex. I am genuinely unashamed of that, but I also know that when I do write about sex it's not some tasteless marketing ploy.

It's just me.

But let's get real. I do write frequently about sex, or at least, whenever I'm in the mood. And I've got 76 stories here with more than 300 fans. And do you know what?

A lot of those are about sex. In fact, 19 of those 76 stories are about sex.

If anything, my success on Medium should tell you that you don't need to pigeonhole yourself into one topic. You don't even need to hit hot buttons all the damn time.

But it pays to give a crap and have some real passion for the topics you choose. Consider your work on Medium as your personal portfolio. It ought to reflect the type of writer you are, the writer you are becoming, and the writer you wish to be.

If you want to write about sex all of the time, do that.

But if you don't want to write about sex? Quit calling it easy money.

The reality is that sex stories might get you more views, and possibly even more reads. But the ratio of fans tends to be pretty low on most sex stories when compared to those reads. And if you want to make money on Medium, you've got to get fans because you don't get paid for views or reads aside from those clapping readers.

Whatever you choose to write about, believe in its value. Believe in your value. Sex sells but relatability and readability are the real superpowers you want to hone here.

Join my email list to keep in touch, or check me out on Write Already!