Does Time Really Heal You?
The clock is ticking, but is your pain dissipating?
“Time will heal you” is a phrase that people love to tell others when they’re going through something heartbreaking. But is it true? Does your pain really just disappear after a certain amount of time?
To understand this concept you have to first understand how healing works.
Healing is a different process for everyone, but one thing everyone has to do to begin the process is coming to terms with their pain.
When you acknowledge what caused you so much heartache, you’re beginning to see things from a different perspective. Perspective is a very important part of healing and an important part of life in general. If you only ever look at things your way, you’ll never be able to learn and grow.
But time can make you learn and grow as well, right?
Yes, people are bound to evolve into a different version of themself over time but when it comes to pain, time won’t do much for you if you’re not doing much for yourself.
What I mean by this is, if you’re not taking the initiative to find the root cause of your pain and fix it, then time can actually work against you.
Thinking time will heal you instead of dealing with your issues head-on is the greatest way to avoid your feelings. Avoidance means that whatever you’re feeling will only intensify over time even if it doesn’t seem like it.
When you decide to not acknowledge what you’ve been through and the emotions it caused you, those feelings get pushed into your subconscious mind. This might sound like a good thing because your emotions are buried away, but it’s actually doing you more harm than good to hide these feelings.
People believe time heals them because their pain gradually begins to lessen — that doesn’t mean it’s completely gone though.
Those memories and emotions are still lodged in your mind and they can cause you to change the way you act or think.
For example, maybe you had a verbally abusive parent that always told you you’d never be good enough and there’s no point in dreaming because you’ll never achieve what you want.
The words your fed can affect you deeply and cause you to feel worthless which can create self-limiting beliefs in your head that actually does stop you from achieving your dreams.
In a situation like this, it’s best to shift your perspective to a higher one.
Maybe your parent tells you all of these hurtful words because that’s how they secretly feel about themself and they’re just projecting their own insecurities onto you.
Whatever the case is, it doesn’t justify their actions, but figuring out the reasons behind why people do things does help you along your own healing journey. You’ll begin to see the true intentions behind the actions of others and you’ll learn not to take it so personally because they’re acting from a place of hurt.
Most of the time it’s not you, it’s them.
If you went through a breakup a while ago and now you feel fine, I want you to look within yourself and ask if you really are over it. Most of the time we think a situation no longer affects us because we don’t actually feel anything but energetically, you’re still attached. If you want to truly move on, you have to heal.
Even though these painful experiences might not be your fault, it is still your responsibility to heal from them.
The thing you need to remember is that you can’t run from reality. You’re going to have to face your problems one way or another, so why not reclaim your power and take matters into your own hands?
It might take a while to heal because most of the time you have to dig into the hidden side of yourself to figure out your true feelings. However, time itself is not going to fix your problems.
Time will not rid you of your pain, only you can heal your pain.
Don’t rush the healing process! The clock might be ticking but there’s no reason to rush. It’s meant to be a slow ride. Sending love, light, and healing energy your way. Good luck on your journey!
