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Do You Think Love Is Gone?

# 12 In a perfect world — should I divorce? ♂

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Think: She still loves you.

Think that she loves you. Think that she still loves you.

It just doesn’t always feel like it.

Don’t think you don’t love her.

Remember when you were in love.

Remember when you said I love you.

Remember her face when you told her I love you.

Remember the feeling inside of you when you said I love you.

When the shadows and the wounds from your last quarrel have faded, find a good moment to tell her you love her.

Buy some flowers.

Look her in the eyes.

Smile!

When you after a conflict are sinking down towards the bottom, never forget that you once upon the time chose her.

Never forget that she — many years ago — chose you. Be proud!

Be proud of her!

Be proud of yourself!

Be proud of what the two of you have achieved together.

Don’t ever give up trying to caress her.

Remember you’re living this one and only life.

Remember she’s also living this one and only life.

Don’t even think of breaking up.

Even if you feel like thinking of breaking up, step back, close your eyes and have a break.

Don’t go away,

even when she once again kills you

saying those words that she knows hurt the most,

even when you once again feel like you wanna kill her

because of the things she is saying and doing to you,

because you once again have to listen to those words that hurt so much,

— don’t go away.

You have no right to give up

No, you can’t give up

because she is the person you all these years shared your life with,

the mother of your children,

the target of your innermost feelings,

the one from whom you learnt your most intimate secrets,

your erotic playmate,

your sexual partner over all those years.

Even if that was then

and not now,

even if so much between you now has come to an end

you are the one she has in her life

She’s the one you have

in you life now.

She’s part of you

whether you like it or not.

You’re part of her.

The two of you

cannot be separated as it is now

within the limits of what is reasonable and wise

Know this: You know what you’ve got.

Search within yourself

search and feel.

Even now you can feel a spark of tenderness

when she is silent,

when you see her naked skin.

You know what you have,

you don’t know what you will get.

Remember

always remember

Death is coming

The only thing that is certain

Measured against this fact

everything else is trivial

And you know so well

the grass isn’t greener on the other side.

Don’t give up!

Never give up!

You’re sailing on

together with her

on the Ocean of Life.

Thank you for reading!

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