Øivind H. Solheim
Do You Think It’s Over?
# 15 In a perfect world — should I divorce? ♀
Think: He still loves you.
Think that he loves you. Think that he still loves you.
It just doesn’t always feel like it.
Don’t think you don’t love him.
Remember when you were in love.
Remember when you said I love you.
Remember his face when you told him I love you.
Remember the feeling inside of you when you said I love you.
When the shadows and the wounds from your last quarrel have faded, find a good moment to tell him you love him.
Buy him a new shirt.
Look him in the eyes.
Smile!
When you after a conflict are sinking down towards the bottom, never forget that you once upon the time chose him.
Never forget that he — many years ago — chose you. Be proud!
Be proud of him!
Be proud of yourself!
Be proud of what the two of you have achieved together.
Don’t ever give up trying to caress him.
Remember you’re living this one and only life.
Remember he’s also living this one and only life.
Don’t even think of breaking up.
Even if you feel like thinking of breaking up, step back, close your eyes and have a break.
Don’t go away,
even when he once again kills you
saying those words that he knows hurt the most,
even when you once again feel like you wanna kill him
because of the things she is saying and doing to you,
because you once again have to listen to those words that hurt so much,
— don’t go away.
You have no right to give up
No, you can’t give up
because he is the person you all these years shared your life with,
the father of your children,
the target of your innermost feelings,
the one from whom you learnt your most intimate secrets,
your erotic playmate,
your sexual partner over all those years.
Even if that was then
and not now,
even if so much between you now has come to an end
you are the one he has in his life
He’s the one you have
in your life now.
He’s part of you
whether you like it or not.
You’re part of him.
The two of you
cannot be separated as it is now
within the limits of what is reasonable and wise
Know this: You know what you’ve got.
Search within yourself
search and feel.
Even now you can feel a spark of tenderness
when he is not there,
when you see his naked skin.
You know what you have,
you don’t know what you will get.
Remember
always remember
Death is coming
The only thing that is certain
Measured against this fact
everything else is trivial
And you know so well
the grass isn’t greener on the other side.
Don’t give up!
Never give up!
You’re sailing on
together with him
on the Ocean of Life.
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