Do I Need To Make A Sex Video With My Partner?
It seems like a lot of other people are filming themselves having sex.

I’ve never made a sex video. I’ve never really thought much about making one. The closest I’ve come to a sex video is some dirty, sexy polaroids that were taken during my first marriage.
I’m wondering if I’ve missed out on something because it seems like a lot of other people are filming themselves having sex on a regular basis.
I think my own husband would love to film us having sex. He’s made many, MANY comments about it.
But I’m still on the fence.
I’m not a celebrity or a politician. It’s unlikely I’d have to worry about anyone seeing a recorded video of my husband and I having sex — except perhaps our kids if they could potentially get into our cell phones.
And cell phones would be how we would do it. It’s not like we’d use video camera equipment or anything.
But what would we use the sex video for? Would we watch it when we have sex? Would we use it to get turned on before sex? This makes me curious as to what other couples use their own sex videos for.
Dr. Becky Spelman, a relationship expert at We-Vibe, agrees that there may be a level of narcissism in filming or watching yourself have sex or masturbating. However, she goes on to explain that this may run deeper than just being ego-centric; some people find sexual pleasure in themselves, rather than their partner.
A sex video might be a sexy novelty item to have in our marriage repertoire down the road to be able to look back on — when we’re really old and gray.
So perhaps I’ll take the plunge someday soon and my husband and I will film a sex video. There’s got to be something to it or so many other couples wouldn’t be doing it — Right?
In the realm of sexual experimentation, there are many things I still haven’t had the gumption to try, including filming myself and my partner having sex.
Another reason I think I’ve been hesitant to film a sex video with my husband is that I’ve always been insecure about my body. However, I feel as though I’m at a pivotal point at my current age and level of self-confidence right now where time really IS of the essence.
I may never be as body-confident as I am now, so why not seize the opportunity? I know my husband thinks I’m absolutely gorgeous no matter what — so worrying about what he thinks shouldn’t be an issue.
All in all, the concept of couples filming themselves having sex seems to be utterly tantalizing to many people. Maybe it is our natural narcissism as human beings OR maybe it’s just plain fun. I will go with the old adage, ‘don’t knock it until you try it.’
Have you ever filmed yourself having sex? What did you use the video for? Let me know in the comments!
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