Do Condoms Make Sex Better Or Worse For Women?

Do condoms effect sex for women?

Apparently, this is one of the most popular questions men have for women about sex, but are too afraid to ask.

Since the article I read this question on was written by a man who couldn’t give the answer to this question and quoted someone who didn’t actually explain things, I thought that I, as a woman, should explain things better.

I’ve had sex with a man both with and without a condom on. Physically, it doesn’t feel any different.

I think a lot of men will be disappointed by this answer because, for them, condoms limit the sensation they feel during sex. It’s not the same for a woman, though.

The inside of a vagina can’t feel the condom. It’s our clitoris that has all the nerve endings, not our vaginal canal. Mostly vaginas just feel pressure and maybe temperature during sex.

That’s what makes a penis in a vagina enjoyable to a woman — the feeling of being filled up by a man. It’s hard to explain, but the pressure of it is what is good about it.

Our clitoris is outside our vaginal canal so we wouldn’t want to stick anything in there at all if we didn’t enjoy feeling the pressure that the size and shape of a man feels like inside of us. Women can orgasm without putting anything inside of themselves using their clitoris, but the pressure of a penis inside of it enhances things.

I almost didn’t write this article because it’s actually a problem for women that we can’t tell if a man is wearing a condom or not. So many men, who know about this, decide to trick women by promising they will wear a condom during sex and either not wearing one at all or taking it off when we aren’t looking so that sex can feel better for them.

If a man does this, if he refuses to use a condom and hasn’t gotten consent for it, then he’s raping a woman. It happens a lot.

I had a friend whose husband raped her this way and she got pregnant against her will. She felt angry and violated, although he was happy about it. She got an abortion and people around her guilted her about it. The husband received no criticism, but she trusted him and he violated that trust. He forced things into her body that she didn’t want.

This is not to say that there is no difference when it comes to sex with and without a condom for a woman. We can’t tell during sex whether a man is wearing a condom or not, but we can tell at the end of it whether a man wore one or not.

Even though we can’t feel the texture of the condom on a penis, we can feel the liquid texture of the cum inside of us when a man ejaculates in us. We can feel it for hours afterwards, especially as it slowly leaks out of us.

This can either feel gross to a woman or hot. I liked it because it made me feel “branded” afterwards, like I had a naughty secret inside of me of what I had just done.

But also having a squishy mess inside of you can feel gross and like you just want a shower to clean it out.

Many women find sex more pleasurable with a condom on because none of that mess is left over and a woman feels relief from being protected from STDs and pregnancy.

We can take birth control pills, but that doesn’t protect us from STDs, which effect women more than men. We are more likely to catch them because our vaginas are more vulnerable to them.

So most women actually like sex with condoms better than sex without them, but not because either way is more pleasurable to us.

If women decide to take birth control pills and allow our boyfriends or husbands to go without condoms, it’s because we are doing a favor to them, not a favor for us.

I’m sure a lot of men will find this answer annoying, but it is the truth, unlike the answer from Reddit posted in that article, the one that was liked the most. I’m not accusing that woman of lying, maybe psychologically it does make her feel like the sex is more real, but it was not the most accurate answer to the question.

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