Death’s Casualties Transcend Time
Time heals — so “they” say. What do “they” know?
Time wanes, flies, comes, goes, stops, changes, lingers. Heals not so. This is not to be a depressing outlook. It is clarity on how we use words. It is not of any malice just truth.
Death is viewed in many cultures as a celebration, a new beginning. It can be seen as a gift to those suffering. After the initial shock of a loved one, reality sets in. The people surrounding the mourning are gone and we are left…
Time continues. We are left. Raw.
Grief of the soul does not end. How can “time heal” when the soul is split, cracked, and open?
Souls are not human skin.
Transparent entities outweigh time and space. Giving human characteristics to them may be altruistic, but not a reality. The grief can be obscured, secret, clouded, hidden, but healed? Healing is a process by which we are made whole again. Can this ever happen?
Positive thinking, new experiences, adventures, and spiritual growth all may aid and provide happiness for the weary soul. The coping with the death of a loved one comes with inner work and time has nothing to do with that all-inclusive process. For some people the end of the twirling motion of their soul may come with ease — the burden relieved from them. For others, the carousel within lingers even with consistent, positive steps toward that forever band-aid.
Shadow Work
“The idea of the shadow self was first conceived by Carl Jung, a 20th-century psychologist from Switzerland. In his field of psychology, often referred to as Jungian psychology, the word ‘shadow’ refers to hidden parts of our being. These may be parts of ourselves we try to repress because they make us feel sad or wounded. This is the side that we don’t show society, such as when we are at work or school. It can also indicate how we internally perceive ourselves as being weak or in pain — that we feel the need to hide these parts of ourselves. Carl Jung believed in the integration of the shadow side so that our full self is acknowledged, and we can live in a balanced way.”
‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ Carl Jung
https://www.centreofexcellence.com/what-is-shadow-work/
The dedication to self must be paramount at times. Shadow work is facing ourselves in private moments. It is realizing our talents and faults and diligently focusing on bringing the best aspects of ourselves to the forefront. When we are forever giving and not looking to heal ourselves the work is compromised.
Stillness is the key, not time.
When we come to an understanding of who we are and what we want to accomplish on this planet at this time — lessons unfold. Silent times (not just moments) of reflection and tough realizations of our human frailties boost personal/soul growth.
This truth unfolds because we begin to understand that need we had (or have) for that person in our life that has passed. We surely can not replace them, but through shadow work and stillness, we can understand ourselves a bit better. In placing ourselves paramount our soul can become restful in deep understanding. Agreed, it is a complex process, arduous at best. As I see it, there is no other healthy choice.
Wishing you love, life, and peace within yourselves.
Brooklyn
