Dave Chappelle Was Right About One Thing
Behind it all there’s a big struggle not many overcome

“The hardest thing to do is to be true to yourself, especially when everybody is watching.” -Dave Chappelle
Can you imagine a life in which every step you take, every breath you take, every move you make someone’s watching you? People who are always demanding for more, never satisfied with whatever you show them? That would be a frustrating existence indeed.
To be true to yourself requires you to be completely honest with what you feel, deeply value, and desire. It also means communicating your feelings wholeheartedly both with yourself and others.
You couldn’t possibly do that if you’re constantly subjected to a spotlight and the weight of other peoples’ expectations. You can’t be true to yourself if you have to live only by other people’s script, or else jeopardize your livelihood.
2 Personas: Public & Private
Perhaps to endure, people subjected to this level of scrutiny have been known to gradually develop two personas: one public for the spotlight, the other private where they can afford to be themselves.

At the 2016 Toronto Film Festival, Andrew H. Walker asked 51 A-list celebrities to pose for a series (the celebrity diptych project) showing these two different sides of themselves. The series no doubt highlighted how celebrities can have two starkly distinct personas: one for when everybody is watching and the other, hopefully authentic, when in safe spaces they can be themselves.

“The series no doubt highlighted how celebrities can develope two starkly distinct personas: one for when everybody is watching and the other, hopefully authentic, when in safe spaces they can be themselves.”

Blurred Lines
However, Kristen Stewart talking about the negative effects of social media on their lives, said, “you end up wasting so much time just validating something very superficial in yourself,” but then concluded, “it has definitely changed us.” Suggesting, it would seem, the line above can become blurred at least with some.
We would do good to see people in the spotlight as humans too, entitled to the same emotions as the rest of us. They are vulnerable to feelings of hurt, shame, and violation. Worse, they can be stripped of their authentic selves due to intense, never-ending public scrutiny enabled by the spotlight.
People tend to forget that celebrities are human beings. We live our lives. We try to do what we love, which is music. And to share it with everyone in our job usually is to entertain and to make people forget their troubles.” -Gloria Estefan
Remember, everyone you meet has struggles you don’t know about:
"I encourage you all to spread good vibes through the language of love." — Dr. Preeti Singh
