Cutting People Out of My Life Is A Form of Self-Care

Summary

The author, Jaron Mays, discusses the importance of self-care through the act of cutting toxic people out of his life to maintain peace and reduce stress.

Abstract

In a personal essay titled "Cutting People Out of My Life Is A Form of Self-Care," Jaron Mays reflects on the necessity of eliminating negative influences from his life. As a 27-year-old Black man, he has come to realize that not everyone deserves a place in his life. He emphasizes the value of self-worth and the importance of surrounding oneself with people who reciprocate loyalty and love. Mays shares his journey of learning to distance himself from those who take advantage of his kindness, which has led to a significant improvement in his mental health and overall well-being. The article serves as a testament to the transformative power of setting boundaries and prioritizing one's own peace.

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Mays believes that people, much like material possessions, can be assets or liabilities based on their impact on one's life.
He identifies himself as loyal, kind-hearted, honest, and respectful, and sees these traits as both a blessing and a curse.
The author has experienced people exploiting his kindness,

I will do anything to maintain my peace

Looks like my contact list keeps getting smaller and smaller. Just a minute ago, I had to cut this dude out of my space for being a liability and not an asset.

Yeah, people can also become a liability or an asset as well. It doesn’t necessarily have to be some type of objects like a painting, NFTs, watches, or a house. People also present the capability of either adding value to your life or adding more stress, problems, and a bunch of other bullshit.

If there is one thing that I have learned in life as a 27-year-old Black man is that everybody doesn’t deserve to be around me.

I’ll say it again. Everybody does not deserve to be around me.

I know who I am and what kind of person I am. Honestly speaking, I am one of the most loyal, kind-hearted, honest, and respectful people you’re ever going to meet.

The “kind-hearted” part was always a blessing and a curse for me.

There are some people in this world who have a knack for taking kindness for weakness. Those are the people who consistently took advantage of guys like me just because they thought they could get away with it. No matter what, I was always going to be their “friend.” I did things for them that they never did for me.

The younger me had to learn this lesson the hard way: If people aren’t reciprocating the loyalty and love you gave to them, cut their asses off!

And I can tell you this, ever since I did this, my life became way less stressful and a whole lot better.

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