Life Lessons

COVID-19 is Causing Relationship Chaos

Why are long-term couples splitting up?

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” — Anais Nin

What is going on with the number of what I believed were stable couples failing? At least two of the not-yet-married couples, who have been together for years, decided that they would not get married. I’m not close enough friends with these people to ask them why but, darn it; I sure want to know. They are but two of the unexpected breakups I heard about. Older men are running off with young women, but these latest two don’t seem to have a third party involved. Cougars are going crazy and consuming young men like pieces of candy. The term “ hoe phase”, not the gardening tool, is a real thing. People going through their hoe phase are middle-aged.

For some people, the answer to the hypothetical question, “Who would you want to be stranded with on a desert island?” is “Not my spouse.”

What was it about being locked up together that makes love wane? Is it that ordinary day-to-day life is not sexy? Is it they found out they had little in common? I would like to know, but I guess I never will.

Alfred Hitchcock once said, “Cinema is life with the dull bits cut out.”

Life is not a movie; most of our lives are dull bits. The secret seems to be finding someone with whom to enjoy an ordinary life.

Toni Crowe retired as the Vice President of Operations to pursue her dream of being a writer. Toni has written six books, two of which won the 2019 Reader’s Choice Gold Awards. Her bestselling business book, “Bullets and Bosses Don’t Have Friends: How Do You Manage A Man Sitting With His Dick in His Hand?” was one of the winners. Her first book, “Never a $7 Whore” was the other.

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