Confidence lies in discomfort

The comfort zone — A brief insight

The comfort zone is the area where we feel protected and everything lies within our control. We tend to stick in it while. That’s why we are standing still since we always walk on the same spot. We make ourselves comfortable by staying in our houses, heating up the room or cooling it down without considering what we could do or what could be possible.

We must sacrifice our endless appetite for comfort.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

― Neale Donald Walsch

We are surrounded by what we all love, with comfort. But if we want to achieve what we really want we must leave it. The growth zone lies outside our comfort zone.

Constantly are we trying to improve, but only do we search within our comfort zone.

We have to allow ourselves to push the boundaries of our comfort zone. Thereby we can grow, we can move somewhere. We can stretch the boundaries of this sort of bubble of comfort into any direction. By doing so, we increase the surface of the bubble and surmount ourselves since we are now able to move comfortably inside a larger bubble.

So, at some point, we need to push our limits, sacrifice some comfort to develop new areas in which we can move comfortably.

Once the surface grows, it meets a larger area, our area of influence excels what previously existed. New fields and direction of possible growth become apparent. We can establish new relationships, embrace new feelings and accept the fact that progress is a controllable force that lies within our behaviour.

So, try to leave your comfort zone:

• Walk another way, go to unknown places without using your GPS. Allow yourself to get lost in unfamiliar places.
• Experience new things.
• Take a cold shower by will.
• Talk to strangers even if you are shy like me.
• Exercise without listening to music, push your limit.
• Embarrass yourself.

“Struggling and suffering are the essence of a life worth living. If you’re not pushing yourself beyond the comfort zone, if you’re not demanding more from yourself — expanding and learning as you go — you’re choosing a numb existence. You’re denying yourself an extraordinary trip.”

― Dean Karnazes, Ultramarathon Man: Confessions of an All-Night Runner

Seek discomfort to become more comfortable. You will gain more comfort by leaving your comfort zone occasionally. You will figure out that comfort isn’t depending on where you are. Comfort is a feeling we have when things go with ease. This feeling lies within us. By willingly leaving the places at which you feel pleasant, you begin to figure out that it is not place-dependent. In this way, you gain confidence.

Confidence is the comfort that lies within us independently of a place.

Wherever you go, you can embrace discomfort, thereby find new comfort and be more confident each time.

This is an article of my series called “Brief insight”. Where I’ll share thoughts ideas and things I learned concisely.

If you like the concept feel free to check out the other articles.

This is my 4th post for the ILLUMINATION 30-day writing challenge by Dr Mehmet Yildiz described in this article. I hope that I can find the time and ideas to complete it.