TRANS LOVE & (A)SEXUALITY

Come Read and Write for Us!

Trans erotica, essays, and non-fiction stories

First and foremost, it’s important for readers to understand that this content is intended for adults (18+), and that we cannot guarantee that all content and titles of writings will be safe for work. Though some of our content may provide valuable information for people who work with our trans community professionally, many work cultures would not allow employees to view the content used in this publication. Please proceed accordingly.

That said, (a)sexual expression is a beautiful part of the human experience. People of all genders and sexual orientations deserve experiences that they find fulfilling. We all deserve to learn about love, our bodies, and our sexualities without experiencing shame.

Why does this publication exist?

The purpose of this publication is to facilitate sharing erotica/romance, (a)sexual experiences, and personal essays that can serve not only as entertainment, but also as education for potential healthy forms of sexual expression as determined by trans writers and those who respectfully love us contributing to this resource.

I want to gather as many sexual and asexual perspectives from within trans and other gender expansive communities as possible to share in this space. Maybe together, we can help answer each other’s questions and collectively feel less alone while taking back our (a)sexual narratives from the people outside of our communities that too often tell our stories of sexuality for us with some horrific inaccuracies. I’m hoping we can give each other the sex education we deserve and have usually been utterly deprived of. Maybe some onlookers with questions can benefit, too!

Discussion for readers and writers:

We’d love to welcome you to actively contribute to the vibe that we offer here! Wondering what discussion you might engage in? Here are some ideas:

Where is the line for you on what is “tasteful erotica” in a trans (a)sexual context? What constitutes healthy erotica in our community, given that we are not a monolith as trans people? What sorts of (a)sexual experiences would you like to read about from our community? What respectful questions would you like us to answer? How can we best entice you to read our work?

How graphic can this erotica be?

Imagine a sex scene in your average cis heterosexual romance novel. Then, make it queer, trans, and add alternative forms of positive sexual expression in there. That’s our aim. Though this content is for adults, we don’t want to traumatize anyone who comes across our writings unintentionally by making them extremely graphic. We can be sexual in a way that is creative and stands up to literary scrutiny.

Can our writings be steamy?

Yes please! Should they still potentially serve as educational and interesting for someone who is not of a sexual orientation that would match the content? Yep. When in doubt, we’ll add content warnings and relevant titles to help readers make an informed decision about whether each writing is for them.

Want to write for this publication?

Just let me know in the comments and include your @ tagline to help me find you, if possible.

If you write for this publication:

We ask that you consider supporting your fellow writers by giving feedback on any work you feel comfortable reading. While we understand that not everyone will be okay with acknowledging publicly that they have read something of a sexual nature, we hope both readers and writers will take into consideration the incredible vulnerability and very real emotional risk of sharing these perspectives and stories. We hope you will honor the service that we are offering here to the best of your ability.

Need help thinking of ideas of what to write about?

I will provide (at least) monthly writing prompts asking a question in the 3 categories of writing that we encourage:

1. Erotic and/or romantic fiction or poetry
2. Personal opinion essays or researched non-fiction on (a)sexual topics
3. Creative non-fiction/sharing of personal (a)sexual experiences

There are no deadlines here. You are always welcome to use old writing prompts or to write about something else entirely!

Note: Lots of you have already published relevant articles about sexuality from a transgender perspective! Feel free to send short form posts to us providing links with a brief description of what you have offered in the past. We would love to gather your resources here.

Guidelines Relevant to Erotica:

While there are some Medium rules that are non-negotiable for us to follow, we also want to go above and beyond to facilitate a meaningful and respectful community discussion of some aspects of (a)sexuality in the trans community that may be a little more complicated. Our readers can help to shape the sort of publication we are offering by giving feedback.

Medium Rules:

Some of these rules may be open to interpretation. For your protection, we’re going to make an effort to interpret these rules as conservatively as reasonably possible to protect our writers and readers.

Below are the Medium rules that I believe are most relevant to posting erotica. However, I recommend that writers make every effort to familiarize themselves with all other Medium rules here. The Queerly Trans writing guidelines can help you with formatting as well.

• “Promotion of controversial, suspect, or extreme content.”

*Note: I refuse to consider being LGBTQIA+ controversial. Being a human seeking a fulfilling, happy life isn’t controversial. I refuse to believe otherwise. In this space, we are unapologetically trans, covering a wide variety of experiences within that umbrella.

• “Graphic content”

“We do not allow posting, linking to, or otherwise promoting pornographic images or videos. We do allow erotic writing and non-graphic erotic images.”

• “Threats of violence and incitement”

“We do not allow content or actions that threaten, encourage, or incite violence against anyone, directly or indirectly.”

• “Hateful content”

“We do not allow content that constitutes or promotes violence, harassment, or hatred against people based on characteristics like race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, caste, disability, disease, age, sexual orientation, gender, or gender identity.”

• “We do not allow hateful text, images, symbols, or other content, including in your username, profile, or bio.”
• “Using derogatory language, racial slurs, or obscenities to disparage or attack someone or a group of people.” Cussing is fine, as long as you aren’t targeting anyone or a group of people with slurs or disrespectful language.
• “We do not allow posts or accounts that glorify, celebrate, downplay, or trivialize violence, suffering, abuse, or deaths of individuals or groups. This includes the use of scientific or pseudoscientific claims or misleading statistics to pathologize, dehumanize, or disempower others. We do not allow calls for intolerance, exclusion, or segregation based on protected characteristics, nor do we allow the glorification of groups which do any of the above.”
• “We do not allow gratuitously graphic or disturbing media, regardless of subject matter.”
• “Exploitation of minors”

“We do not allow content promoting the sexual, violent, or other exploitation of minors, including the sexualization of fictional minors.”

• “Promotion and glorification of self-harm”

“We do not allow content or activities that encourage, promote or glorify acts of self-harm, such as cutting, eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia, and suicide. If you encounter users contemplating or threatening self-harm, please report it to us via the form or email address linked below.”

Here are some additional Medium rules that are relevant to sharing real-life experiences:

• “Posting images of, transcripts of, copies of, or links to private communications between private individuals without the explicit consent of all parties to the communication. Redacting names or other information does not supplant the need to secure permissions.”
• “Doxing, which includes not only private or obscure personal information but also the aggregation of publicly available information to target, shame, blackmail, harass, intimidate, threaten, or endanger a person or group of people.”
• “Posting intimate or explicit images taken or posted without the subject’s express consent.”
• “Content that violates others’ privacy or personal safety, including sensitive or confidential information such as credit card numbers, social security numbers, non-public phone numbers, physical addresses, email addresses, or other similar information.”
• “Facilitation of sexual services.”
• “We do not allow the use of pseudoscience, disinformation, or other content that is contrary to public health or safety.”

In addition to the standard Medium rules, these are my personal boundaries as a publisher of trans erotica and sexuality writing:

• As both KP_the_writer and I are editing for other publications, please understand that it may take us up to 7 days to edit work that you submit here. If possible, we will edit faster on a first-come-first-served basis.
• I’m not going to gatekeep who can write trans erotica, as I don’t want to risk overlooking knowledgeable writers who are closeted trans people, (a)sexual/(a)romantic partners with valuable perspectives to share, or writers who may simply have no idea they are trans yet. However, we will only publish erotica and personal experiences/essays that are gender affirming and present our people in a respectful light.
• We’re only going to publish erotica that either avoids genital language, uses gender neutral genital language, or uses gender affirming genital/(a)sexual language. Though not all trans people experience genital dysphoria and some prefer to use language from their assigned gender at birth to describe body parts, there is plenty of erotica out there that uses language of assigned gender at birth to describe genitals. We want to go above and beyond to break stereotypes in this publication. We want to provide what is difficult to find elsewhere.

Thank you to everyone who contributes to this effort by writing and reading here!

Together, we can make this a wonderful resource for our community.