Blended Orgasms: The Best of Two (Or More) Worlds

What are blended orgasms and how you can have yours

Our bodies are sensorial. Our skin — meaning our entire body — is made of sensory nerves. We feel warmth or cold, pain, discomfort, or pleasure through our skin. That means that every bit of your body can be an erogenous zone.

Orgasm is a peak of pleasure, usually achieved with stimulation of orgasmic zones, most commonly, G-spot and clitoris for women and penis and P-spot for men. However, an orgasm doesn't have to emerge from a single point of your body: you can blend them. With the right stimulation, you can have two or three orgasms at the same time! How amazing is that?

What is a blended orgasm?

The traditional definition of blended orgasms refers to it as a clitoral and vaginal orgasm that happens at the same time. However, the most common definition — the one I subscribe — defines blended orgasms as a mix of any erogenous zone, both for women and men. Also, it considers two or more orgasms simultaneously.

A blended orgasm happens when two or more of your erogenous zones are stimulated together and blend in on a (powerful) orgasm.

Women and man can achieve orgasm through stimulation of any erogenous point: sexual organs, nipples, the skin, through spanking, licking… we are all different, and our arousal depends on various factors.

There is no such thing as “normal” orgasms. Yours is yours; mine is mine. How we reach it only concerns us, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to do it. What we can do, though, is to experiment, to try new things and increase our pleasure. And a blended orgasm is definitely that: an increased pleasure.

The most common versions of blended orgasms in women is a fusion of clitoral and G-spot orgasms and, for men, penile and P-spot (a prostate orgasm). However, you can get greedy (I know I do) and add a third stimulus, like nipples, anal stimulation or any other body part you know it has the potential to be orgasmic.

How does a blended orgasm feel like

I describe it as a fucking amazing sensation! I can blend my clitoral, vaginal and anal orgasm in one and I rarely achieve orgasm with stimulation of one single erogenous point. Which has its downsides.

Women describe a clitoral orgasm as being localised and intense, felt on the surface of the body, satisfying on a physical level. A vaginal one, in comparison, is stronger and long-lasting; it’s a deeper and full-bodied sensation, more psychologically satisfying than other types of orgasms.

If you have to imagine a blended orgasm, think about all these sensations happening at the same time. Powerful, no?

How to achieve a blended orgasm

If you can achieve an orgasm, you can have a blended one. It might take some practice, but it’s possible.

Let’s go through some techniques that will help you experience this mind-blowing orgasm:

1. Start solo

The first step to achieve a blended orgasm is to know your body, to become familiar with your source of pleasures.

You can try it with a partner, of course, but my suggestion is to start solo — explore your anatomy, feel your pleasurable spots in the tip of your fingers. When you understand how you orgasm, it will be easier to share the experience.

If you know where your G-spot is, start by stimulating it when your arousal escalates. If you have doubts where your G-spot is, let me contribute:

The G-spot is a cluster of nerves, about 5–8 cm above the opening of the vagina. It has a rougher texture than the rest of your vagina and a form similar to a small walnut shell. It’s easier to locate it lied on your back, inserting one or two fingers in your vagina, with the palm up. To start building up your pleasure, use a “come here” motion and/or pressure the zone. Try different techniques, pressures and movements. It’s your body; your pleasure is unique.

After you started stimulating your G-spot, warm up your clitoris. Use one hand for each part, the same hand for both, or add a toy to the fun. I use my fingers on my G-spot or a vibrator, depending on the mood, and a bullet vibrator on my clit. If you wish to use merely a toy, a rabbit-style vibrator will be a good choice. To a more pleasurable and easy stimulation, use lube.

Explore all your vulva; focus on your clit and G-spot, first isolated, then combined. If you’re a man, explore your P-spot with your finger or with a toy — internally or by stimulating your perineum.

Learn to know your body and what excites you — only then you’ll be able to blend all the sensations and achieve a blended orgasm.

2. Partnered sex

Now that you learned your way to a blended orgasm, it’s time to try it with your lover. If you have open communication in what sex regards, talk with them about your discoveries and guide them in your pleasure.

They can go down on you, and while fingering you, explore your vulva their mouth. They can penetrate you and manually — or with a toy — stimulate your clit or twist your nipples. There are so many options!

Communication is essential in partnered sex, but more if you have the goal of achieving a blended orgasm — your partner must know how to pleasure you to the point you will orgasm from two or more erogenous points.

It doesn’t have to be your partner to stimulate you — you can share the pleasure. He can penetrate you and play with your nipples or finger your ass, while you use a vibrator on your clit. And you do the same for them. It’s all about what gives you pleasure.

Best sex positions for blended orgasms in women

To achieve a blended orgasm with penetration, the best sex positions are those who stimulate the clit and G-spot simultaneously.

The vagina and the clitoris get aroused with different techniques. The vagina responds better to pressure and movement and the clit to vibration. So the position you and your partner chose will matter.

The best sex positions to achieve a blended orgasm merely with penetration (not using your hands or toys) are the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl and the doggy position. The missionary and standing positions might also work for you, as there will be some clitoral stimulation of your clit during penetration. With me, they don’t work so well.

Other sex positions will stimulate more than one of your erogenous points, all depending on which ones you desire to trigger. For me, it’s all about my mood. I can either go with the spoon position and use the magic wand on my clit (and give Mr P. a pleasurable vibration on his balls). For a triple blended, I can be on my fours, Mr P. fucking me from behind while fingering my ass and me using a vibrator on my clit.

It’s your body; it’s your pleasure — explore, experiment, but above all, have fun and enjoy the ride, try not to focus on the orgasm.

Say yes to Sex Toys!

Sex toys are a great addition to your sex life, either you are playing alone or having partnered sex.

To achieve a blended orgasm, sex toys are useful, as they help you stimulate one erogenous point while you or your partner stimulate the other(s).

You can use a magic wand vibrator, a bullet vibrator, a vibrating cock ring or a prostate massager. Chose the one(s) that will give you the most pleasure and you feel comfortable using.

In conclusion

Blended orgasms aren’t a myth: you can truly blend several aroused erogenous points into a powerful orgasm. I’m not one easy to orgasm, and my last one was a triple blended.

With dedication and a good technique, it is possible to achieve blended orgasms.

There is no correct, incorrect or a “normal” way to get an orgasm. The most important is not to lose your focus. Sex shouldn’t be about achieving an orgasm, even less blended ones. Don’t put any pressure on the moment.

You can go for it as a trial, as an experiment — ask your lover to explore and stimulate your body to see if you can have a blended orgasm (and then pay them back, of course). But always enjoy sex as it is, not as a mean to orgasm.

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