As a Woman, No, I Don’t Just Want to Meet You for a Coffee
This should be self-explanatory. If you want a nice date: choose a romantic setting.
Women put time, money, and energy into our appearance. We expect men to put some effort into a date.
A coffee date is low effort and low investment, and it sets the date and the vibe up for disappointment. It’s where people go to be productive, not to get all romantic and to set sparks flying.
Trust me, just type into Google, “Do women want to meet for a coffee date?” and a bevvy of articles comes up, many of them presenting lists of why planning dates at cafes are less-than-ideal. In other words, men: cut. it. out. Plan a date to a nice bar/restaurant, a music venue, somewhere that sets up the scene and the vibe for success, or at least the promise of a happy, romantic, sexy time.
One article I browsed suggests that people can try coffee dates as a sort of “meet and greet” before to decide if they actually want to continue the date. Well guess what? You can meet virtually and have some inkling of whether you’ll vibe for a *real* (read: non-coffee) date.
The dating app age has intensified men’s entitlement, exacerbating the infantilization of men and the man-child crisis. Women may appear to be available at the tips of men’s fingertips through apps, but even if you meet such women, without proper pursuit and courtship, this style of “dating,” or more accurately, hook up culture, simply encourages and perpetuates the commodification and debasement of women.
While I believe everyone, by virtue of being alive, is connected to divinity and a divine purpose, women inherently are more spiritual, centered, and grounded. Women are the birth keepers: we guard who has a chance to give birth and directly nurture new lives in a direct, visceral manner that makes us living goddesses.
Men, pay proper homage and use relationships, dating, and sexuality to uplift your spiritual vibration rather than debase it and us.
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