Are You Single? You Don’t Know What You Already Possess

My married friend says I am living a better life being single.

Hello, Single People!

Single people often think they are missing the excitement of a romantic relationship overlooking what they already have in their hands.

Romantic relationships like love, marriage are overrated. No doubt, being in a good relationship can help a person in many ways. But never think that a relationship will make your life meaningful and fix all your problems. Mark my words — this will never happen. And god forbid, if a relationship goes wrong then, life will become a living hell.

This article is a gentle reminder to all single people about the things they already possess but hardly realize.

Okay, now focus. Let’s stress on the bright sides of singlehood.

Who is Single?

A single person is the one who is unmarried and not involved in any serious romantic relationship. That means no marriage, no engagement, and no long-term dating.

Some Facts and Figures

Do you know, singlehood is getting popular all over the world?

• There are 117.9 million single adults in the United States and the share of adults who live alone nearly doubled over the last 50 years.
• 16 million people aged over 16 in England and Wales are ‘single and never cohabited or married’, equivalent to 34.5% of the population.
• In Japan, more than 70 percent of single people in their 40s and above have rejected the idea of marriage and are satisfied with their solitude.
• In South Korea, 40 percent of people in their 20s and 30s appear to have quit dating altogether.

You’re not the only one who rejected the idea of marriage. There are many more like you.

People, especially the young generations, are getting fascinated by the idea of free and unattached life. But what’s the reason behind it? Is it only for freedom?

Reasons for Being Single

There can be dozens of reasons behind singlehood.

It can be one’s freedom of choice, or maybe he/she is having difficulties with relationships. Some remain single simply because they have other priorities in life. Many are too picky that they haven’t found the right ones yet.

A good number of people who suffer from low self-esteem fear that they will get hurt engaging in a long term relationship. Others want to live their life in their terms, not sharing with anyone.

I think the most intriguing reason is freedom of decision making. When you are single, you are boundless. You have the ultimate authority to pursue anything, do whatever you want.

Benefits of Remaining Single

Put your sunglass on and see the bright sides of being single. You will find tons of benefits you hardly realized before.

Single People Enjoy and Appreciate Freedom

If you are in your 20s or 30s and you are single, trust me, this is the best time to enjoy your freedom.

Single people travel the world, explore different cultures, make new friends, learn new languages, and do everything they want to do.

When you are young and single, what else do you need? Just save some money and travel the world. Enjoy the freedom of being alive.

No one will hold your back. You are the caption of your soul.

Fit and Healthier

A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family says, divorced people get more exercise than married people, but the ones who are the most active are those who have always been single.

Single people are fit and healthier because they care about themselves. They are conscious of their diet and tend to exercise more than married people. It helps them maintain a healthier life.

Better at Making New Friends

Most of my friends are married, and I know how occupied they are in maintaining their families. Married people hardly have time for the friends they have, let alone making new ones.

If you are married or engaged in a relationship, trust me, you have no time to think about new friends. On the contrary, single people have time to embrace new people and experience in their life.

A study found that people who had always been single were more attentive to their friends and family than married people.

Better Thinker

Single people can concentrate on things uninterruptedly as they have less disturbance in life. That’s why they become better thinkers and doers.

Imagine you have two little kids at home, and you need to finish a big project tonight. Do you think you can concentrate on the work without confining yourself in a tiny room? I hope not.

Enjoy Better Financial Status

Single people are less likely to fall victim to the credit cards trap. A study finds that married consumers have higher credit scores and debt than single adults.

Marriage brings many new changes in life, and most of them increase expenditure. Again, if they have one or two children, then all the money (even savings) will vanish away in no time.

Single people, on the other hand, have less daily expenses. So, they can save money to enjoy a better financial condition.

Open to New Opportunities

When you’re married or engaged in a committed relationship, you always try to avoid changes. You become cynical when new opportunities knock on your door.

Single people are the adventurous ones. They love being challenged by something new and exciting. Be it a photography course, a seminar on the screenplay, an online marketing course, or anything else, single people are always up for giving it a try.

More Self-sufficient

The Telegraph in an article describes single people as more satisfied, friendly, and self-sufficient than married ones.

Why are single people more self-sufficient? Because they can deal with themselves better. They appreciate solitude and easily adjust to new situations.

Single People Can Focus on Their Passions

Everyone says, go for your passion. But when you are married or engaged in a 24/7 relationship, it’s difficult to focus.

Single people, in this regard, are the lucky ones. They have time and scope to pursue their passions. A single person can finish a novel, sign up for world travel, join a dancing club, start a new career, write for top magazines, and so on.

If you are single, you can go for your passion at any point in life. No one is stopping you.

More Self-conscious

People often think that single people are callous, and they don’t care about anything. They are wrong.

Single people are self-conscious. As they are well aware of the choices they make, they do not seek validation from other people.

Enjoy Solitude

Single people turn loneliness into solitude. They enjoy their alone-time by reading books, playing with their pets, or working in the gardens. Some of them take yoga classes, listen to music, or watch movies, etc.

And, sometimes without doing anything, they allow silence to purify their souls.

Save Tons of Time

If you are single, you don’t have to choose gifts for a thousand occasions and don’t need other’s approval to do anything. You rule the world in your terms. Being single, you have time for everything you love.

Married people hardly have time for themselves as they are always busy working for their families. On the contrary, single people have time to enjoy all the beautiful things life offers to them.

Have Fewer Complexities in Life

Married people’s lives are far more complex than the single ones.

They may appear like a full-package from the outside, but they have various problems related to earnings, daily choices, wife, children, in-laws family, etc. These complexities cause tremendous mental pressure.

Ask any married person — he/she will tell you how difficult it is to maintain a family.

A few days earlier, I asked one of my married friends an unusual question. He is a Squadron Leader in the Bangladesh Air Force while his wife is a doctor. I considered them a happy couple. So, while talking over the phone, I said, “ What do you think, am I missing too much being single?”

He instantly said to me, “You don’t realize how many problems you don’t have.”

I wondered and said, “Really? You mean it?”

He said, “Life was magical even a few years ago. Now I know what marriage and family mean. You want it or not — your life will be complex with full of problems.”

Of course, there are lots of married couples living their lives in peace and harmony. But remember, they have their fair share of complexities, and they continuously struggle to overcome that. Sometimes they win, sometimes not.

But when you are single, you are as free as a bird having fewer complexities and more happiness in your life.

Final Thoughts

Singlehood is a great experience.

After having all these benefits, if you still desire to go for a committed relationship — no problem — go for it. But at least, be conscious that you are going to lose a lot of things in no time.

And remember, a committed relationship may turn into an unbearable one at any point. So don’t set your expectations too high.

Have a wonderful life!

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