Are You Being Driven By External Locus Of Control?

A simple idea that can change your life

I’ve played a lot of games and found that there’s a commonality in pretty much every game that whenever you upgrade your character, your skills, and your traits, you get to operate better stuff, unlock new abilities, new opportunities, and new maps.

It really got me thinking about how our life works very much in the same way. By developing your talents, upgrading your skills, acquiring new positive traits lets you open newer dimensions of life in the form of new opportunities, new places to visit, wielding better stuff, and most importantly you start making more money.

If you can make yourself capable of doing something you can create an entire empire again even after a tsunami comes and washes away each and every atom of it.

We as human beings tend to forget about this a lot of time, we focus a lot on the outcomes like having a girlfriend, paying off the student loans, shifting from the old crappy apartment to a new one. But we often ignore the fact that in order to make these things happen, some sort of personal transformation needs to happen.

We often tend to find solutions to our problems in the outer world and forget that the situation we are present in, is the symptom of our character, the character we are playing in the real-world game.

Imagine waking up a morning with the whole body paining like hell and you go to a doctor and he’ll be like “Hmm, pain, take these painkillers” and just that, no diagnosis for the root cause of the pain, nothing just take the painkillers and you’re done. You’ll surely consider him a crappy doctor right?

But that’s how we deal with our problems in life. It’s like standing at the shore and trying to push the waves back to the sea in order to prevent them from reaching the shore.

One simple idea that can really help you transcend your life is to focus on internal improvement rather than external improvement.

Instead of shopping for a sexy new wardrobe collection to look more dope or swagger in my step, I stop myself and I think about something that can I improve internally rather than externally to achieve the same goal i.e how can I boost my confidence without buying something, for me that’s taking my butt to the gym and developing more discipline, having a great workout, eating better that can give me a sense of accomplishment so that I can feel more confident about myself than a new shirt could never.

Usually, the best answer to our problem lies within ourselves but the thing that resists us is that they are not as exciting and stimulating as buying or getting something, but they’re the actual way to solve the problem.

The nice thing about focusing on internal improvement rather than external is that it helps you to develop a kind of flexibility in the chaos of life because any external accomplishment you make can be taken away from you with a blink of an eye and if you only try to put all your eggs in the external basket and once it falls, you’ll be left with nothing.

But, if you spend your time investing in yourself internally, you can even create your own empire from the scratch, you develop a character that can bounce back, you develop skills that can make you valuable to your community, your family, and yourself.

In the end, just remember the relationship between upgrading your character and upgrading your life, if you can focus on improving yourself internally, life around you will improve itself automatically.

No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself. ― Madonna

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