Are Pulses the Solution to Death Grip?

Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo review

I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve made my husband come — and I wouldn’t even need all five fingers.

He’s got a condition known as phimosis, which causes his foreskin to be so tight it can’t retract when he’s hard.

Because he spent most of his sexual years without direct access to the head of his cock, he came up with some unusual ways to get himself off.

His first method involved vigorously rubbing the head of his cock against the palm of his hand until he came. That’s how he did it when I met him, and it was absolutely impossible for me to replicate.

Eventually, he retrained his body so that he could achieve an orgasm simply by jacking his hand on his cock. But he had to use such a tight grip and so much speed to get there that there’s still no way for me to replicate that, either.

Because of that death grip, he’s never been able to come from sex. Even anal isn’t enough to get him there. And it takes him quite a while to finish when he’s masturbating, too.

I really want to be able to make him come, so I’m always on the lookout for toys that can help me do that.

I was intrigued by the idea of using a vibrator on him. I’ve read that a lot of men really enjoy the sensation of a vibrator against the head of their cocks and that they could get off from the vibrations alone.

Luckily, I have a drawer full of them.

I used them on him. I watched him use them on himself. We tried the ones that had weak and gentle vibrations. He tried one of the strongest vibrators I have. None of them could get him there.

According to him, using them was weird but interesting. The vibrations felt good overall, so long as they didn’t make him go numb. But they never made him feel like he was building up to a climax.

I figured he just wasn’t sensitive enough and I was ready to give up using vibrating toys on him altogether. But then I read about the Hot Octopuss Pulse and decided I had to try one more.

Made for Cocks — And More

What really appealed to me about the Hot Octopuss Pulse is the specific kind of vibrations it uses.

They’re oscillating vibrations that were first used in clinical settings to bring men with spinal cord injuries to orgasm. It also apparently works wonders for men who have erectile dysfunction.

That sounded like some powerful stuff, and it might just be what it would take to get Mr. Austin off properly.

I decided to get the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo, which has a separate vibrating motor on the back end so it can be used as a couples toy. If I could have fun along with him, why not?

I was taken aback a little when I got the toy and unboxed it.

For one thing, it doesn’t look like any other sex toy I have. The shape reminds me a bit of a conch shell, or something you might find at a UFO crash landing site.

The other thing that surprised me was the texture. It felt a little firm and it’s quite a rigid toy in general. Even the two more supple silicone wings on either side of it felt a bit stiff. That made me worry that Mr. Austin wouldn’t be able to enjoy it, especially since the toys he’s used to are soft and squishy things he can fuck.

The two wings I mentioned are meant to wrap around the cock. In the middle of a toy, there’s a circle called the PulsePlate. That’s where all the oscillating vibrations are concentrated and where all the good stuff is supposed to happen.

Sadly, there was no way for me to test the toy’s reputation for pleasuring soft cocks. My husband has an eager cock that arouses too quickly. I’ve barely ever managed to feel him limp because he’s usually stiff by the time I tug his boxer briefs off his waist.

But there were still other ways to play.

The Pulse is designed to be used in two ways. You can either place the cock inside of it and just let the vibrations do their thing. Or, you can lubricate it and use it as a vibrating sleeve.

We started off trying it the first way.

I got him to undress and lie on the bed. I slid the toy over his cock and turned it on.

Like the vibrators we’d tried before, he found the sensation to be strange but pleasant enough. These oscillations were more stimulating, though. He felt like he was actually getting somewhere with them.

After testing out those vibrations on their own for a while, I dripped some water-based lube on his cock and rubbed it on him and the toy.

I stroked the Pulse up and down his shaft like a sleeve. I positioned it at different parts of the head to stimulate him in different ways.

I played around with it for a while, but there was a clear winner. Everything felt good, but it was the frenulum where all the magic happened. Those pulses hitting that specific spot is what got the best reactions out of him and seemed like it could actually make him come.

That limited my range of motions, but I worked with it. I made sure not to give him long strokes. I kept them short so his frenulum would stay pressed against the vibrating plate the entire time. The wings of the toy hugged the head of his cock and rubbed it as I moved it up and down.

As it turns out, the firmness that worried me was actually an asset. The rigidity of the wings meant that they applied a bit of pressure as it stroked him, which is something Mr. Austin found extra stimulating.

I could tell from his reactions that these vibrations were different than the ones we tried before. So, I kept at it with slow, shallow strokes. Before long, I noticed his breathing change, heard him moan a little harder, and then listened to him grunt while I watched his come spill from of the tip of his cock and drip down to his stomach.

Success!

I had found a vibrating toy that could actually overcome his death grip.

I was already impressed with this thing, but I wanted to see if I could get off with it, too.

As soon as we started to position ourselves, it was very clear that the Pulse Duo is very different from any of the other couples toys I’ve tried. Most of them are a variation on vibrating cockrings that stimulate your clit during penetrative sex.

This one had a separate vibrator on the outside that I could control with a small remote. But because the toy basically covered the cock instead of just resting at the base of it, there was no actual penetration involved.

Instead, his cock stays inside the toy and he gets to enjoy the vibrations it gives him, while the outer shell presses against my vulva and delivers vibrations that are spread out over a large area.

We tried with him on top. With his cock lubricated, he could thrust into the toy while lying on me and I could feel the vibrations on my pussy.

I was surprised by the vibrations because they weren’t as strong as I expected them to be, especially given how hard the vibrating plate seemed to go.

That was actually a blessing for me. Because I have a really sensitive clit, I can come way too quickly. Having a gentler vibration meant I could actually enjoy the ride and go through the buildup before hitting my climax.

The toy didn’t have much power on my end, but it more than made up for that with all the pressure that was applied to it. Mr. Austin’s body pressing down on the toy made the sensations stronger. That helped a lot. I’m honestly not sure how well the toy could’ve made me come without it. But the added weight and the motion of the thrusting combined to give me a strong climax.

After that, we used it in a way that I hadn’t anticipated.

Mr. Austin decided to see how well the toy would work if he used it on me, without his cock being involved at all.

He pushed my legs apart, spread my lips, and pressed the vibrating side of the toy against my pussy. He didn’t move it much. He mostly held it in place and watched my reactions, adjusting the pressure whenever he wanted to tease me or ramp up the intensity.

Having him press the toy against me made me come. And then it made me come again. And it became clear to me that that was the point — Mr. Austin had decided it was time for a bit of orgasm torture.

That’s a kind of control play we don’t always get to do because most toys are just too much for me. Any attempt to force me through several orgasms just numbs my clit, and that numb clit doesn’t want to come so easily.

But not with this toy. It made me come repeatedly, but each time I was still able to take more. We didn’t have to stop because my body couldn’t handle it. We only stopped when he decided to end our little game.

This wasn’t our first time using a couples toy, but it was the first one that could make both of us come. And that made me so grateful for not giving up on vibrators before discovering this one.

A Very Unique Toy

All in all, using the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo was a very interesting experience. And it has a unique place in my toy box because nothing else I own can do what it does.

No other couples toy lets us experience a vibrating pussy job.

I don’t have another that can give me soft vibrations over a wide area the way this one does.

But more importantly, no other vibrator could make my husband come. And any toy that can finish him off deserves a place in our bedroom.

There was still one more experiment left to try, though. Except, this one wouldn’t involve me.

I asked Mr. Austin to use the toy on his own to see what the pulsing could do without assistance. No lube. No stroking. No half-naked wife handling it for him. Just holding the vibrating plate to his frenulum to see what would happen.

So he did. And the results were better than I thought they would be. He managed to start soft but soon got hard. And not long after that, he came — in under seven minutes.

That’s not record-breaking but it’s very quick for him.

He didn’t manage to stay soft long enough to see if he could come from the vibrations without a hard-on. But as far as he can tell, the stimulation was basically identical whether he was erect or not. So, there’s a very good chance it could make him come just as quickly even if he never got stiff.

When I first unboxed the Pulse, I wasn’t sure how I felt about it. It wasn’t even immediately clear to me how I would use it. But my feelings have quickly turned around and now I can’t wait to use it again — whether it’s to make myself come or to watch it bring my husband to a messy, groaning climax.

If you want to try the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo for yourself, you can get one from Betty’s Toy Box. That’s an affiliate link, by the way. If you click on it and treat yourself to anything on the site, I earn a small commission and you’ll be supporting my work! ❤

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