After Dialing My Number Twice by Accident, He Disappeared

With the death of “friendship,” I stopped overthinking

Very often, we meet people in our life, but most of them just pass by. Only those people who build a relationship with us would leave their traces. However, some relationships may accompany us for life, while some end inexplicably.

When the phone rang, a familiar name was displayed on the screen. I picked the phone up but noticed that the person on the other side didn’t want to talk.

He replied to me in an embarrassing tone and told me he was just busy.

I pressed the “stop” button. As the phone rang again, I ignored it. Apparently, he touched his phone by accident once more.

His name is Hugo, and he is an insurance agent.

18 years ago in Canada, shortly after my son was born, my husband went back to his work in China, I had to deal with our newborn alone.

Hugo and his wife appeared in time. They helped me a lot. Every weekend, they drove me to the supermarket to buy groceries. One day at night, my son got a fever, they sent us to the hospital right away without hesitation.

They are nice people. I couldn’t take their kindness for granted, so I bought an education saving plan for my son and other products from them.

Over time, we got closer and have kept in touch for a long time after I left Canada. One year I and my family had a vacation in this country, he arranged the hotel for us and took the time to be our company. We were grateful to him.

In summer 2020, after returning to Canada, I chatted with Hugo online to inquire about ending the education saving plan and withdrawal of the money.

Neither of us mentioned a personal meeting. No wonder, we are in a pandemic.

But since the withdrawal was done, I have never heard from Hugo, except for his phone call by accident. He didn’t react to my “Merry Christmas” greeting either.

Is the friendship dead?

If this happened some years ago, I would have taken it extremely personally. I would have thought over and over what I did wrong, or accused him of using me to convince us to purchase various insurances successfully.

But today, I look at this differently.

After experiencing the up and down of life, my empathy has grown so that I am willing to understand Hugo.

As an insurance agent, he must be bold, even cheeky. After he sold one insurance policy to someone, he needs to look for the next one. He actively interacts with many people to do business with them, but it doesn’t mean that he would build a friendship with all of their clients. Once the mutual benefits don’t exist, this kind of relationship loses its value.

He sold an education saving plan to me and helped me by withdrawing. He has finished her job and expected no longer to sell me more insurance.

So, why did he waste time on me?

Basically, none of us has done anything wrong. I am thankful to have bought the education saving plan which contributes to my son’s study right now and reduces my financial burden greatly.

Hugo and his wife have done great business during the years. Now they can afford a better life in Canada.

We both have profit from our friendship, but now this “friendship” has finished its mission. So it’s time to end it.

Life can be compared with riding a train. Whenever the train stops, some people will get on or off, and some of them will accompany you for a while. One day, you will get out of the train and leave your traveling companion too.

We don’t need to ask why people leave us. If they don’t say goodbye to us, they must have their reasons that cannot always be disclosed or even explained.

But life is still moving on. Shake off your overthinking! Leave the dead friendship and embrace your new life!

I removed the name “Hugo” from my contact book with a little weird feeling, as if I had taken off a dead leaf from a tree.

But I feel relieved that I stopped torturing myself with overthinking.

Thank you all for stopping by and great support.