Men Do Not Wish to Have Sex with Every Woman That Lives — It’s More Complex Than That
It’s popular to say that men will have sex with anyone and are promiscuous by nature, the question is is it true ?
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that when it comes to men’s sex drives versus women’s, men’s is typically more “anytime anyplace anyone”, whereas women’s is typically more “right time right place right person.”
However, even though it may seem it, this does not mean that men are more promiscuous per se by nature than women, it doesn’t tell us anything about how promiscuous or not either of us are. All it tells us is that men’s libido is easily awoken whereas women’s is not.
Stating the obvious, but the question is, why? Why can’t women’s be so easily awoken?
An any time any place any person sex drive boosts men’s survival chances, but threatens women’s
Imagine if ancestral women had the male sex drive i.e. easy arousal, the human race would not exist because we would have died out a long time ago due to the fact that women would have got pregnant at times that were not wise to get pregnant, and by people it was not wise to get impregnated by.
This is why women with sex drives like this are the exception rather than the norm, because in the past none of their offspring would have survived — even if they somehow miraculously managed to. As such, the great female survivors have been sexually selective women who withheld sex until the time was right, the person was right, and the place was right.
That means the great female survivors have evolved sex drives that only wake up if the environment is right — so sex drives that take into account factors like whether a pregnancy could be survived, whether an offspring could survive, whether a pregnancy is wanted, whether the person is a good genetic match, whether there are better options, and much more.
It doesn’t even matter whether a woman consciously thinks about these or not, subconsciously, she will always think about these, and her subconscious does not understand contraception, it does not understand if a man is infertile, it does not understand that a woman can’t get a woman pregnant. It understands only one thing, sex equals babies therefore every box must be ticked before the libido is allowed to wake up.
This is why it is so common for women to find that they want sex, but their libido refuses to match that want — no matter how into their partners they are, or how skilled their partners are in the bedroom department.
For example, take long-term relationships, very few people in the modern world can afford to have a lot of children, many can’t afford to have any. That means the majority of women live in environments that are not suitable for raising children or are not suitable for raising many children.
What this can do is lead to, once the honeymoon period is over and the relationship is cemented, the female half to see her libido collapse — which is a common occurrence in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships, even more so in the latter.
I know, primaeval instincts can be real sex killers — especially for women and their partners.
However, for men, ignoring all of these factors and simply being able to have sex the moment a woman was ready was intelligent, hence, men with sex drives that easily wake up, and which allow them to have sex any time any place and with anyone, inevitably, have been the great male survivors.
But that does not mean men are more promiscuous per se than women, it just means that the male sex drive has evolved to be in a permanent state of readiness so as to be able to respond to the female sex drive the moment it becomes active — and any female sex drive at that.
Yep, p***y power right there, the male sex drive is attuned to its intelligence so well, it’s in a near permanent state of readiness just waiting for the get-go.
So, typically all a man needs to be able to have pleasurable sex is a willing other and a conscious desire to have sex with them, but a woman needs more than just a willing other and a desire to have sex with them, she needs the environment and the time to be right, otherwise, her libido may refuse to give in to her mental desire for sex.
This is why fostering a safe environment is so important when it comes to activating the female libido, a safe environment results in her instincts saying she could survive a pregnancy and see a child into adulthood.
That means yup, guys, if you want sex with a female, even if neither of you wants a child and even if it’s a one-night stand, fostering a world where her instincts say she could have one a.k.a. she is safe, is a great way to turn her on.
But anyway, needless to say, the need for this feeling is why it takes a lot more time and effort for a woman to get herself in the mood for sex on average than it does for a man, it is also why it takes a lot more effort to help a woman get in the mood than it does a man — at least again on average.
The reality of this can be seen in the things that most commonly arouse men and women. For example, it is why men can get aroused so easily on just the sight of breasts, a female rear end and even more so a vagina. It was simply intelligent for men to evolve to become aroused by the mere sight of breasts, butts and vaginas — especially if they were presented to them.
I kid you not, men getting hard at the sight of boobs, ass and p***y — especially if they were presented to them — was an incredibly smart survival tactic for them. However, the flipside is not true for women, which is why women seldom become aroused simply by the sight of a man with a great chest, great abs, and great ass, and especially not by an erect male penis being offered to her.
Sorry guys, that’s why dick picks don’t work. The sight of a vagina being offered may be the first step in the male arousal process because it’s smart for men to put faith in the arousal of women, but the same is not true in the reverse, the sight of an erect penis is the last step in the female arousal process — and a distant last at that.
I know, biology can be a bummer sometimes, robbing you of the power of using your disco stick’s to awaken the promised land.
But it makes sense, a penis holder does not know when a woman can survive a pregnancy, only a vagina holder does, as such the image of an erect penis being sent by a messaging system only informs the vagina holder that this penis does not understand female biology.
In terms of what this means about promiscuity, it means that rather than men having evolved a sex drive that fuels them to have sex with as many women as possible, in actual fact, they have evolved a sex drive that gives them the power to have sex with any woman the moment she is willing, because that boosted a man’s chances of seeing his DNA surviving.
That means because having a baby was super risky for a woman, meaning having sex was super risky for a woman, men have evolved the ability to use the intelligence of women to judge when the best time to procreate is, and as such, have evolved a sex drive that can wake up extremely easily and is able to easily procreate with any woman the moment any woman is ready and willing.
This is why men on an instinctual level feel the desire to check every woman they come across out and can be so easily excitable at the sight of women, on an instinctual level, they are checking to see if the woman is ready to offer sex a.k.a. procreate, and they are doing this because it is a smart survival tactic to believe that women know the best time to procreate.
That means it genuinely is a smart survival tactic for men to constantly survey the scene to see if there are women offering sex, because women know the best time to have it i.e. when they can survive a pregnancy.
I know, crazy, but I kid you not, the male sex drive genuinely evolved the ability to wake up so easily because it is wise for a male’s survival to put faith in the intelligence of women when it comes to judging the best time to have sex.
That means rather crazily, the male instinctual ability to have sex with any woman the moment she is ready and willing is born through men’s instinctual belief in the intelligence of women to know the best time to procreate i.e. so the best time that sex will lead to a child that may survive into adulthood.
On a side note, this is why consent is such a survival superpower, it allows males and females alike to utilise the intelligence of each other when judging when is the best time to procreate. So, it allows for a two minds is better than one mentality.
But anyway, what this means is neither men nor women are inherently promiscuous or monogamous, both men and women are intelligent survivors, it is just it is intelligent for a male’s survival to be able to get aroused very easily a.k.a. on the mere sight of a female offering sex, but it is not intelligent for a female’s survival to be able to do the same a.k.a. on the mere sight of a male offering sex.
For a woman, it’s intelligent that a million other boxes are ticked first.
That means men don’t instinctually per se want to have sex with every woman that walks, instead, they want to have sex with a woman who can survive a pregnancy — just as women want to survive one.
It is just this dynamic typically presents as men wanting to have sex with every woman that lives and women not wanting to have sex with every man that lives, hence, the myth men are inherently more promiscuous.
They are not, they are doing exactly what women are doing, trying to maximise their survival chances, but from their own respective side of the coin.
Final words
Neither men nor women are inherently promiscuous or monogamous by nature, we are intelligent survivors. That means we adopt the relationship dynamic that best increases our survival chances, sometimes that is monogamy, sometimes it is promiscuity, most times it’s a mixture a.k.a. monogamy with infidelity.
The reason it can appear that men are inherently more promiscuous and horny than women is simply that it is intelligent for a males survival to put faith in the power of the female sex drive to know when to have sex, whereas it is intelligent for a woman to put faith in her own sex drive only — and not a penis.
Because of this, more often for a man’s survival, it is smart — if he can — to try to impregnate more than one woman a.k.a. have sex with lots of women, but it is only smart for a woman to risk getting pregnant if she thinks getting pregnant is wise — for that it typically means a man sticking around, even if the man that sticks around is not going to be the biological father.
That means it’s a permanent crapshoot.
So, if you have ever wondered why so many of us end up so confused about whether we are monogamous or promiscuous or somewhere in between, and constantly seem to bounce between the two, it’s because we are both and neither — it just depends on the world we’re living which one we will present.
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