Accepting The Worst Of Yourself

How Accepting The Worst Of Yourself Opens You Up To The Best Of Yourself

Everybody wants all the “love and light”, the “bliss” and the “ecstasy” the spiritual path offers. But ain’t nobody wants to go through all the shit to get there.

This is what is known as spiritual bypassing, and I will be the first to admit fault for it.

It’s completely understandable to want to spiritually bypass:

• Who the hell wants to have to look at and accept all the dark shit?
• Who the hell wants to have to deal with their shadow?
• Why can’t it all just be good, and sunshine and rainbows?

But the truth is without looking at and integrating your shadow, all the “good” stuff will come from a hollow place. It will come from a dishonest place.

It will be the shadow and the ego pretending to be righteous and “good” when in actuality all your actions hold the seed of personal gain.

And then you will be stuck wondering why all your “good karma” hasn’t added up yet. And why your life hasn’t made any significant improvement.

It is only through looking at the worst of yourself and making conscious the unconscious that you will be able to discover the best of yourself.

Sounds simple, but it is far more challenging than you may anticipate.

In this article, I am going to cover how to integrate your shadow through being able to accept yourself fully.

And the number one complex issue that may get in your way from doing so.

A Web Of Lies

“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.”

Carl Jung

What we understand about love, compassion, and kindness may just be fear manifesting itself in different forms.

I talk more about it in this article here

This fear prevents us from expressing and receiving these emotions in honest form.

See, compassion, love, and kindness must come from an honest place. It’s not so much the action but rather the intention behind it that makes the difference.

What we understand about compassion and kindness is just fear, it is an obligation. We are compassionate because we have to, not because we want to. We are kind because it is the right thing to do.

We are so scared of being “bad” and of what other people will think of us that we learn how to act. It is this fear that is the true motivation behind our actions.

This is more of a prison sentence than an actual form of abundance.

It is not coming from an authentic place, it is coming from fear.

Coming From An Authentic Place

It doesn’t have to be this way and we can free ourselves from our self-created prisons. And open ourselves up to experience the raw unfiltered nature of these beautiful emotions.

And that paradoxically comes from facing your shadow and staring unblinkingly at the absolute worst of yourself.

I recently conjured up the courage to stare my shadow and my selfish nature directly in the face.

This was incredibly difficult to do because of the enormous web of lies and deception that prevented me from doing so.

See, we are so scared to look at the absolute worst of ourselves that we create stories and lies that distort the truth.

Lies that are easier to look at and accept compared to the truth of how horrible of people we are capable of being.

Within this web of lies, I was able to find the seed of my shadow. Giving every excuse and reason imaginable to stay the way I am.

To be “okay” with a way of being that destroyed many aspects of my life and created an enormous amount of suffering for myself.

Furthermore, what I found in my supposedly “good” qualities, and all the “good” things that I was trying to do for others and the world was the seed of my shadow.

Distorting the truth, acting a certain way when in actuality everything was for personal selfish gain. — “Which is a great way to close doors of opportunity on yourself.”

But through staring at my shadow’s eyes and accepting it for what it is, without the excuses and denial, I was able to find something profound.

I was able to find actual compassion, true love, and true kindness. Not the watered-down bullshit that I had been living with.

The kind of love that comes from being able to look at the absolute worst of yourself. Accept it, take accountability for it, learn from it, and then make a conscious choice on who you are going to fucking be.

When all the lies, denial, and unconscious bullshit have been made conscious you will finally be able to see clearly what the “real thing” is. And act with that intention moving forward.

The Best Of Yourself Is Found In The Worst Of Yourself

And that’s why I say you really can’t discover the best of yourself without first looking at the worst of yourself.

However, it is incredibly difficult to look at the worst of yourself. In fact, it is incredibly painful to expose the truth.

And that is why there is going to be an incredibly complex web of lies that prevent you from doing so.

But if you can see through the whole web of lies you will be able to look at the truth in all its brutality.

By doing this you will finally be able to accept yourself and take accountability. Through this acceptance and accountability, you will truly be able to learn from your actions.

From deeply learning from your actions you will finally be able to make a conscious choice on who the fuck you are going to be.

By integrating your shadow you will make a clear distinction between what is lies and what is truth. By doing this you will finally be able to express and feel authentic love, kindness, and compassion.

This will enhance your experience of life greatly, and open up many doors of opportunity as well.

So I invite you to look at the worst of yourself and discover the best of yourself.

Much Love.