About Me — Megan Llorente
An awkward introverted girl who became a self-assured grounded woman.
As I thought about what I would write in my About Me, there were 3 distinct time periods of my life that came to mind.
Although I’ve grown massively throughout the years, as we all do, I think there is still a bit of each version in me. Now it’s all beautifully combined to make up who I am today.
Pre-20’s: Nerdy, awkward and craving connection
I was your typical angsty, awkward teenager with one difference: I started university at 15 years old. Imagine trying to navigate your teenage years while being surrounded by people who had already past that point. Now combine that with my introverted personality and you have quite a lonely existence.
Many of my memories from this time period in my life were hallmarked with:
- Wandering around the university alone
- Spending a lot of time in my own head
- Trying to navigate school and figure out how to make friends
I did eventually find my way. At age 19 I graduated university and felt a lot more well-adjusted. At the same time, I was subconsciously trying to overcompensate for my insecurities. I became a collector of achievements: graduate university young, become the best in my class, join lots of clubs, gain awards etc. To be honest, I no longer remember the specifics of those achievements, even though I was obsessed with them at the time.
20’s: Eternal optimist, ambitious & overly spiritual
Flash forward to my 20’s. I was a young woman ready to take on the world! I moved out of my family’s home and got my own apartment in a trendy area. I started a promising marketing career at a big telecommunications company. I had a decent life savings already in my early 20’s. I was in a stable 6-year relationship. Everything looked up and up.
When I was age 23, my whole world started to crumble. Overnight I no longer felt self-assured. I started to doubt literally everything in my life. Part of this was also precipitated by my long-term boyfriend breaking up with me out of the blue.
I soon began a journey of ‘spiritual awakening’ although I didn’t know it at the time. It sent me on the personal growth path and I ate up all of it. My poor family was probably annoyed with how many positivity and self-growth mantras I would toss their way.
Unfortunately instead of grounding me, I also became out of touch with reality. I started to think of myself as better than others who didn’t work on themselves — it was horrible, I know. I also embarked on the path of becoming a professional life and career coach, although my take on it was more ego-driven. I see that now.
Flash forward to age 27… I found my equilibrium again. I left my 6-year marketing career to pursue being a coach full-time. I was making 6-figures and was happy. I was in a loving 2-year partnership. And then… I got unexpectedly pregnant.
Life threw me on another rollercoaster where I once again questioned absolutely everything in my life. Although this time, I felt like my motivations were far more for myself than trying to live up to the expectations of society. This was my true awakening.
I ended up refocusing my life and investing in the relationships and friendships that were truly aligned with me. I started a women’s community with my sister and dear friend. I felt the most fulfilled I’ve ever been in my life as an unexpectedly pregnant mama-to-be.
By the time I gave birth, I felt ready to be a mother. Unfortunately the next 48 hours were horribly agonizing. I ended up going through a traumatic birth experience that required a lot of physical and emotional healing. It completely threw me off my rocker and I had a difficult first two years of motherhood. I did find myself again after a lot of time, patience and support.
Now 30: Grounded and focused only on what I love
I’m now 30 years old and my daughter is almost 3. I’ve been a full-time mom and entrepreneur ever since. My partner and I manage a daycare and preschool with over 100 children. I recently restarted my coaching practice Your Modern Coach from a much more grounded, real and honest place. And I’m writing on Medium while kickstarting a new publication called Modern Women.
The past decade has taught me a lot. One of those lessons is that I have no idea what the next decade will look like, and yet it will be perfectly what I need at the time.
I’ve gone through many changes in my life, and I’m still quite young. Life is a beautiful thing. There have been so many paths I’ve taken that I felt insecure and unsure about at the time. I now look back on it all and see the wonderful threads of life weaving through everything.
Everything happens for a reason. It just does.
With love, Megan