Loving the Erotic Tension of Going Down on My Wife
Lying close, kissing her shoulder, and waiting for the signals to proceed
It’s not always clear what triggers me first — the physical sensations leading to the mental eroticism or the erotic imagination igniting the physical desires.
But when I’ve lying against my wife, a process kicks in that often leads to my getting her off with oral sex.
It’s usually like this:
snuggling, we’re half asleep and her ass is arched and pressed against my cock. Or, after we’re asleep and in the same position, then I begin to wake.
My wife typically sleeps with a tank-top nightgown so her shoulders are bare and I begin kissing them. Often the kisses are quick pecks, but sometimes I’ll rest my lips against her flesh and wait.
I may fall back asleep or, if she stays asleep, which she often does, I may orgasm by pressing against her ass. It’s not always clear as to what will happen.
If she stirs slightly and moans, then I begin kissing more from her shoulders and down to the fabric. Often I slide my hand up the hem and over her ass.
Her stirrings signal that it’s a green light to proceed, but because our days are often exhausting then she may stay asleep in which case I’ll often masturbate if I’m awake enough.
When she stirs, I listen for her change in breathing.
A sudden change with a light groan means more fondling so I’ll run my hand beneath her nightgown and fondle her breasts while pressing more and kissing. Our contact becomes more involved and my kissing more passionate.
This is when something special occurs — she either quickly slips off her nightgown and lies on her back or gets up to go to the bathroom and strips it off right before she slips back into bed.
When she does that, the signal is to keep going and I’ll begin kissing her mouth before moving lower to her breasts. She’ll often stroke my cock with one hand while placing her heels together so her knees and legs are in a diamond-like position.
There’s freedom because next is when I lift one leg over her and straddle her while she licks my balls and holds my cock, gripping it and maybe licking the head. That doesn’t always happen because oral sex for her is difficult.
But in this position, she wants my head buried between her legs with me licking slowly and rapidly. I flick against her clitoris and in sometimes seconds or minutes her body goes through the gyrations of stiffening and loosening right before she has an orgasm.
All the while, she’s stroking my cock and in the past, I’d come on her shoulder or wherever she’d direct me. But in recent years, I don’t come quite as easily so often, once she’s finished, she’ll turn over on her stomach, and I’ll slide onto her ass to dry hump and bring out my cum.
Often, our only words are “thank you” before drifting back to sleep.
I prefer when it happens soon after we’ve initially fallen asleep or within a couple of hours because I’m often groggy and want to zonk out.
Longtime married sex often gets a rap for being boring sex — and I can relate, at times. But I can also say that a benefit of a long-term relationship is you learn the signals and what they mean.
The uncertain nature of what may or may not occur is like dramatic tension in a positive way since it forces you to be in tune with your partner.
Frustration can happen, I know, but when the signals align like body position and breathing, then a nice sensual moment happens that’s relaxing and soothing.
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