A True Power Couple is Not About Being Pretty, Posh or Prestigious

It’s about what we can achieve together, happily and freely.

I was once with a guy who owns a Ferrari and he told me we should aim to become a power couple because of the people we hung out with, the money we will make and the future we will have.

It wasn’t my intention to be a power couple in his sense, I didn’t know what that means because around the same time I started to feel disgusted and exhausted by the rat race we were running. It gave me no joy but hopelessness to imagine us owning an empire of real estate in London.

As I walked further away from power and prestige, and more aligned with intentional living and happiness, I felt more powerful than I’ve ever felt.

My new partner and I don’t have much money, instead of a Ferrari we are moving into a Mercedes van and making all the cabinets and electric system from scratch. My real estate empire becomes 50 square feet on wheels.

But we are the real deal, and here’s why.

We are already abundant

Instead of feeling we need more to become the power couple, we already feel we have a lot.

We have each other, we have dreams and we feel resourceful in achieving our dreams. In this sense, we don’t feel discontent and crave for more. Instead, we create more and feel happy when creating it.

It would seem like the outcome is the same — we are making more of whatever it is. But the attitude is fundamentally different, we are not chasing happiness, we are expanding the happiness we already possess.

Imagine how powerful it is to feel rich already. Every next step we take to get richer and happier become light and confident.

That’s profound.

Instead of having a goal, we enjoy the process together

Capitalism has trained us to look at the end goal and not the process. Everything is measured almost quantitatively and judged by the results. But a true power couple doesn’t do things this way, we are already powerful as we are making things happen.

The focus is on the doing, not the achievement.

Everything we do together and independently, we are enjoying it. For example, converting a van to a home is not an easy task and we know many couples argue hard and become angry with each other in the process. The to-do list is simply endless.

But it isn’t like that with us. We are just researching, planning and doing things together and learn from each other throughout the process. My boyfriend won’t complain if I’m clumsy with the drill, and we actually had fun experimenting. The whole van build is like play for us, it was hard work but also joyful.

A couple who only see the goals and everything else as means to an end fundamentally don’t have the mentality to treasure each other. When they achieve a certain goal, they’re more likely than not to start questioning whether the relationship goal needs to be reset…and that doesn’t sound great.

We make wild dreams happen

A true power couple feels practical and invincible at the same time.

We take calculated risks with research and transparent communication, and we trust and respect each other’s opinions. Wild dreams don’t seem so wild anymore, build a home, change jobs, move to a new location, none of these need to hugely stressful if you feel the timing is right and well supported.

I’ve seen many ‘power couples’ fearful of changes and settle in sub-optimal comfort. They might have money and security, but they lost their passion and excitement to life. Inertia makes life dead, and for the sake of ‘power’ they accepted it, they sacrifice their dreams for it.

My partner and I won’t let that happen, that’s powerless and limited by fear of change.

P.S. we don’t just make our shared dreams happen, we also support each other with their dreams. When you know you aren’t alone in making things happen, you’re invincible.

Power couple and intentional living

I write about intentional living because for a long time I felt very lonely. I might have partners and friends but I was so discontent with my life that I was depressed and hopeless.

Nevertheless, in the lowest point of my life, I was still writing, because that’s in my blood and being a writer is my calling.

My partner and I feel abundant at all times because individually we are ambitious and motivated in our core. The coupling simply makes it greater.

So if you are single now and complaining about being single and unsatisfied with life, I recommend you start becoming powerful within yourself. Start considering how to live intentionally (i.e. a balanced, sustainable life that’s good to yourself and the planet), and take steps to make it happen.

If you also believe in the law of attraction, I promise you that’s the only time you will attract a truly authentic person who deserves you and you deserve.

It’s all from within.

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