Sexuality
A Man’s Perspective on Porn
Via My Husband.
I’ve had a tumultuous relationship with porn over the years. I’ve hated it, I’ve been OK with it, and in some moments — depending on the kind of porn — I’ve actually been able to appreciate it.
I know my husband enjoys porn. I know there were times when he used to depend on porn to get him off when he was single and/or feeling sexually frustrated — like a lot of people do.
I would say that my husband’s probably seen a wide enough variety of different porn genres in his lifetime to trust that his opinions on pornography are pretty well-rounded.
Having recently made peace with my own personal insecurities regarding porn such as being OK with not having huge, fake breasts or an endless sex drive, I have become more open about the subject of porn. I’m more willing to talk about porn with my husband now or even watch some with him.
However, I’ve had this burning question about porn lingering in my mind for a while now and I decided to ask my husband about it — from a man’s perspective.
I asked my husband if there was any particular type of porn or sex positions portrayed in porn that either turns him off or that he thinks are portrayed unrealistically. (By the way, being that my husband and I are a heterosexual couple, I will predominantly be discussing porn that portrays heterosexual couples having sex.)
That said, here are a few of the worst sex positions portrayed in porn — according to my husband:
Standing-Up Sex
Standing-up sex in porn is one of those sex positions where I have watched it and wondered to myself, how are they doing this? How are they comfortable? How is the woman — or even the man — going to have an orgasm this way?
Apparently, my husband shares this sentiment and I was exceedingly happy to hear it.
Even with the glossy bodies and targeted cinematography, standing-up sex always looks SO awkward.
According to my husband, standing up sex is literally a pain — hard to physically maintain and difficult to relax enough to achieve a good orgasm. It can also cause leg cramps, he says. No one wants that.
Standing-up sex takes so much effort to get everything in the right place that you might as well just lie down.
Water Sex
From showers and pools to lagoons and oceans, porn has certainly displayed an ambitious level of hydrated sex in many of its productions.
I once tried shower sex with someone and absolutely hated it. I mean, maybe it was because of a small shower/bath in a tiny apartment, and it may have potentially been better in some huge, glamourous shower — but still — shower sex is uncomfortable and it’s too wet and slippery to maintain decent traction good enough to have an orgasm.
Thankfully, my husband agrees and I was pleased to hear him say that any kind of sex in the water portrayed in porn was not appealing to him.
Sex in the water might look good on film but it doesn’t always translate well in real life.
I understand that water sex can seem romantic as well as clean, but between water getting into every nook and cranny and trying to find the right angle while bobbing up and down, the overall practicalness of water sex simply washes down the drain.
Circus Sex
While quizzing my husband, I discovered that those porn films which portray some really strong, muscled-up guy lifting a woman up throughout sexual intercourse and having her legs wrapped around him while he basically pounds her — is something that he’s always thought was silly.
My husband also mentioned those porn scenes where the woman is held almost upside down while some muscle man jack-hammers her, holding her legs and lower body up. it’s basically Circus sex. It looks kind of interesting on film but to do that in real life would require some serious stretching beforehand.
This kind of circus sex could lead to leg or even thigh cramps for many of us ‘normal couples’ who are out here struggling just to have non-circus sex.
Not only that, but most of the sex positions in porn that showcase a very strong guy essentially pounding some woman into oblivion just isn’t sexy to me. It looks staged and uncomfortable. I was glad this was something my husband mentioned.
For an average man out there to look at some perfectly ripped guy like that and feel like that’s some sort of standard for good sex — being able to lift, carry, and penetrate a woman all at the same time while also maintaining balance and an erection is not only ridiculous but unrealistic.
There you have it. Men think porn can be outrageously impractical as well.
Just because a man is a man doesn’t mean he’s going to eat up just any kind of pornography simply because it’s porn. Not only that, but men can be just as intimidated by the outlandish standards that porn portrays in general, just like women can be.
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