9 Great Tools for Falling in Love With Yourself.

Little changes, can have a great effect.

Let's face it, we are hard on ourselves. There are times when we are even cruel and downright horrid to ourselves. We berate, never forgive, harbor regrets, and refuse to cut ourselves slack.

Here are 9 tools to help you fall in love with yourself.

#1. Recognize you are not your mind.

You would never think or say the things you say to yourself, to your daughter, your son, or the person you love. Yet, continually we do it to ourselves.

Be kind to yourself and say the things that would lift you up!

#2. Stop writing down what you have not done, and start writing what you have done.

Too quickly we look at all the things we have not done. Yet, you were not standing still. You lived inside the circumstances and context of your life. You are here today and walked a road. Honor that journey and write down all the things you have done.

Where have you been, how many places have you lived, who have you known, what did you overcome both small and large? Everything is a story and accomplishment.

Life is a collection of small, messy and beautiful threads woven together into the tapestry of your life. Sometimes you have top stop and see the threads to know the tapestry.

#3. Stop saying yes to everyone but yourself.

Often when you are saying yes to everyone else, you are saying no to yourself. Change your mindset. Love yourself enough to say yes to you. This does not take away from anything but instead helps you be your best self.

It is the crashing plane speech. Put your mask on first before helping others. What is not said, is that if you don't you will pass out and be useless to everyone, and require help.

As your best self, you are better able to say yes to the right things and truly make a difference.

#4. Let go of regret and live in action.

We all collect a number of regrets throughout life. Some people say they have no regrets. Would the people around them, throughout their life, have carried resentment towards them because they had no regrets.

Whether it is a choice we made, how we treated someone, something we did, or something we did not do, living can create regrets.

Holding onto your regrets is a great way to not have to do anything.

Move to action. Your actions could include asking forgiveness, making sure you don't behave that way again, teaching your children better, or even teaching yourself to do better next time. Sometimes the action might be accepting and moving forward anyway.

Releasing regret gives space to love yourself a little more.

#5 Eat Fruit

I know this sounds crazy but try it. Your body loves healthy food. Fruits remind us of summer, of refreshment of so many wonderous things.

Fruit is healthy for you and as you consume healthy food your body will love you back. This has a positive effect on your overall well-being.

There is a way to love yourself by feeling the cool, sweetness of a bit of fruit. This is the best type of indulgence.

#6. Call a friend.

Our lives get busy too soon, too often, and too much. In this busyness the thoughts of being alone, no one understanding and defeat seep in.

Your friend may be feeling the same thing. Reach out! Talk, be vulnerable, and listen to their vulnerability. Those conversations are the route to a greater feeling of your place in the world and your love.

In the moments of connection, a good friend always sees your deeper greatness. They can teach you how to love yourself again.

#7 Kiss.

A kiss is an incredible tool to connect back to yourself and the person you love.

Kiss.

#8. Remember you are enough.

Often looking at the world, we feel that we are not enough for what is needed. Not good-looking enough, not wealthy enough, or not gifted enough. This running script is absolutely wrong.

You have done everything it takes to get where you are now. Even if you don't like where that currently is, imagine if you had not put in the work, where would you be now.

Stop looking externally for some never tangible magical answer. You are enough, inside or you is the same seed of greatness everyone is given.

#9 Let go of it all.

We are all holding onto a story, a reason, the words someone close to us said, the pain. Although those pieces were experienced once by us, they are relived in our minds countless times.

If you can just pause that thought, just hold it off and say I love you to yourself, your world could change.

Final Thought

Often the only thing stopping yourself from a deeper sense of self-love is your mind attacking its very self. I think of my inner-self as that beautiful little boy — I was cute and smiley. When the temptation to go off the path of loving me, I think of him, it is much harder to be unkind to that little boy.