8 Warning Signs You’re Entering a Rebound Relationship

Curse me for my foolishness or laugh at my sarcasm, a lesson awaits here for every lover

Sometimes I behave so foolishly that I can’t believe I could be that foolish. I remember one incident as a teenager. I was studying religiously till midnight.

I was hungry. I frantically started scanning the fridge contents. I found an amazing dish made from potatoes and ladyfinger which I absolutely loved.

All good so far?

Yes, it was. Now came the twist. In my rush to eat something, I ignored the white threads that had formed on the dish.

I tried to smell it but since it was straight out of the fridge, I couldn’t smell a thing.

So here comes my foolish part.

I ate the dish, without heating it up. Yes, that’s right.

I didn’t even bother to check with my mom once if that dish was worthy of consuming or not.

The result?

An amoeba in my stomach.

Doctors were shocked to see the reports and couldn't believe how an amoeba made its way to my stomach. Needless to say, the next few weeks were the worst. I could not eat anything without throwing up.

Every time I threw up my mom asked the same question as if that will refurbish my situation.

‘’How could you be so foolish to not notice the dish had gone bad?’’

I didn't have the stamina to answer after throwing up all day. I ignored her and tries to get some rest. I didn't tell her but even in that condition I asked myself,

‘’How could you act so foolishly Bhavna?’’

So you see I have a history with foolishness. The above example was just one feather in my hat. There are many such feathers, but about them, some other time.

Now don't be surprised when I share this story with you. I obviously acted with the same foolishness when my crush came into my life.

This man gave me green signals, red signals, orange signals, mixed signals, and all types of signals you can ever imagine.

Instead of taking those as SOS signs, I stepped into his den with my own will and uttered the following words,

‘’Dear lion, please eat me up. I wish to be your meal for tonight.’’

The perfect Leo that he was, he devoured me, but slowly. He gave me the agonizing experience of being consumed by someone for years.

I had earned it. I know. I just couldn't understand these strong signs that I was just a rebound for him. Nothing else.

Here are those warning signs that you need to be careful about.

These signs will tell you if he’s serious with you or just a rebound one.

Don’t worry, you won’t be scrolling it alone. I will be accompanying you at every freaking step.

By the way, I will be addressing him as Mr. V. You see he doesn't deserve an ounce of fame… Even in a negative way.

Talking to His Ex

Have you ever seen a simulation of an airplane’s cockpit? They have a special button that is specially added for extreme emergency situations when all systems have failed.

Mr. V pressed those SOS buttons every day but I could only notice its red color. Red for love. Not red for blood.

It became a common occurrence for him to leave me hanging midway while chatting and switching to another chat window.

In those days, WhatsApp was still new and didn't offer any privacy options like it has today. One could easily gauge if the person you're chatting with has kept multiple chatting windows or not.

The moment I stopped getting his replies quickly I understood he has started chats with other people, particularly his ex.

If asked, whom he was chatting with, he would reply,

‘’Chikoo I am talking to her. She is constantly messaging and disturbing me. You know I don’t like any disturbance when I am talking to you. That’s why let me ask her what she wants and come back to you.’’

P.S. Have you ever seen a boyfriend who is so dedicated to his lover. He openly showcases how much he loves chatting with her, by keeping her messages on hold and chatting with his ex.

God has stopped making pieces like him. I was lucky to have found him.

Talking About His Ex With You

I yearned to hear my name from him. I would either dream that he is talking about me when not with me or he is talking about me when spending time with me.

I just wanted to be his obsession.

He should see me, feel me, and think about me round the clock. That’s why I used to run towards my phone to answer his text messages.

What I didn’t know was about the cold war going on between my expectations and reality.

His text messages looked something like this —

‘’Hi, Chikoo. You know she messaged me again this morning. She was asking why I didn't pick her calls yesterday?

Now you only say what should I do? I don't want to talk to her but I can’t just ignore her. We were together for six years. I just can't shun her away.’’

P.S. Now when I look back, I feel good he spoke 99% about her and 1% about me, otherwise, I would have turned out to be a spoilt girlfriend like many others.

Sharing His Ex’s Pictures With You

When I and Mr. V were in college, I had asked him for his picture so that I could keep it as my phone’s wallpaper. Every time I opened the flap, I could see his beautiful face.

Okay fine, handsome face.

It wasn’t surprising that the entire college knew he was the king of my heart.

It was only obvious that I would expect the same from him. I would expect him to ask for my pictures so he could see them whenever he missed me.

But none of this happened.

Instead, he would share his ex’s pictures with me which were his favorites. What followed was the painful process of listening to why he loved that picture so much.

P.S. If your boyfriend spoke about another girl’s picture more than yours, you will feel sad. But I wasn’t. Atleast I knew what was on his mind. Yes I’m the queen of optimism.

Stalking Her on Social Media

I had no idea what new reforms were introduced by our Indian Prime Minister in 2014, but I know what my boyfriend’s ex was wearing for her sister’s wedding, the destination for her vacations, and her latest family pictures were clicked in front of which resort.

Thanks to my boyfriend.

He made sure I was well updated with all of his ex’s whereabouts.

P.S. Just like every girlfriend it was my dream to have a boyfriend like who shares everything with his partner. Even the minutest details of his ex.

Enough of this goodness. It’s making me emotional.

Not Investing in You Emotionally

Since it was my first relationship with Mr. V and his was the 10000th with me, he obviously knew the relationship rules better than me.

It was simple.

He told me that unless and until I start pouring my heart, he won’t be able to connect with me emotionally.

For an introvert, this stuff was heavy.

But if your love is inviting you to share emotions, you do it. I did it too.

I shared all the past stories that troubled me even today. I was guaranteed a huge emotional embrace at the end of my story narration.

But I received this.

Me: ‘’So I was saying, when my mom was unwell, I couldn't sleep properly. It was the most difficult phase for me.’’

Mr. V: ‘’Chikoo, listen my friend has come down to meet me. Talk to you later okay. bye.’’

Before I could revert to his bye, he vanished. I was left cold and freezing in the sweet agony of my own memories. Zero returns on investments.

P.S. Please don't call him a cold-hearted jerk. He couldn't see me crying, therefore he left the chat mid-way.

Not because he didn't give a rats ass about my emotions and past troubles.

Talking to You to Kill Time

Mr. V: ‘’Chikoo, I miss you so much that I cant stay even a minute away from you. I wish you were here with me at this boring relative's birthday party. Please keep talking to me. I want to stay away from my relatives, they will start pestering about my job and marriage.’’

Me: ‘’Pikoo, they are your family, you should try to mingle with them. You never call them, at least use this time to build some connections. They will feel happy and so will you. Trust me.’’

Mr. V: ‘’Let this topic be. You say, what were you doing. I wish I could come and be there with you right now. (Followed by lots of kissing smileys.)

Me: (Feeling my genuine suggestion being cut mid-air like a kite) ‘’Pikoo, I am also missing you. I would love to have you with me.’’ (Flying kisses sent back.)

THESE CONVERSATIONS WERE ONLY RESERVED FOR THE BORING EVENTS IN HIS LIFE. WHEN IT CAME TO HIS FRIENDS OUR CONVERSATIONS LOOKED LIKE THIS —

Me: ‘’Pikoo, I am missing you a lot today. Can I call you please?’’

Mr. V: ‘’Chikoo, my friends are here. Got to go. Talk to you later. (Sealed with one virtual flying kiss.)

P.S. He vanished for that entire night and messaged directly in the afternoon the next day. Now, don't think he ignored me. I am sure he was so obsessive about me that he didn't want his friends to even take my name.

Miss. Mc Blushing right now.

Never There When You Need Them

I was on my way to a grocery shop in my area. For some reason, the road was very secluded that day and I could barely see any people around.

But at the right-hand corner of my grocery shop, two men were standing against a bike. The moment they saw me, they gave such a dirty look, it felt like a visual sexual assault.

A chill ran through my entire body. I started shivering and quickly called Mr. V, hoping he would calm me down and also give those jerks a message that I was on a call.

I called once, twice, and even thrice. No answer. He had told me he was free that whole day. He was alone at home and had no plans at all.

So with fearful fingers, I dropped messages for him on his mobile. Again no reply.

Luckily I somehow managed to stay calm and get the hell out of there safely but I was freaking scared.

Two hours later he replied why he was not available on call and messages because he was busy selecting the right shoes for his cousin’s birthday.

P.S. I have never seen a man like him, who balances all relationships so beautifully. Have you?

Interested in Intimacy Only

I had just had to say one word, ‘high’ and he would suddenly have all the time in this world for me. Strange that he would suddenly have enough amount of hours to have sensual chats with me.

But when it came to accompanying me to my exam center, to give me a morale boost, he felt sleepy and tired. Wow. That's just amazing.

P.S. Are you thinking I will see a silver lining in this too. No way. He was, is, and will always be a pathetic moron. Period.

Takeaways Before Leave

No beating around the bush. Let’s get serious now. If you see any of these signs early in your relationship, don't be afraid to call it quits.

• Your boyfriend is still talking to his ex,
• Talking too much about his ex,
• Sharing their ex’s pictures every day,
• Stalking her in every way possible,
• Not making emotional investments in you,
• Talking to you is a way of killing time for them,
• Never being present when you need them, and finally,
• Shows interest only when they want to get physical with you.

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