8 Damaging Lies That Society Tells Men About Modern Dating
Society has lied to you about how to impress women. Your parents lied. The media lied. Even other women have lied.
If you believe these lies, you’re going to find it really tough to land a girlfriend.
There are many conspiracies about why mainstream dating advice is so bad.
In this article, we’ll focus on revealing the biggest lies, so you can do the opposite and stop making women not want to date you.
1. Just Be A Nice Guy
It’s good to be kind and polite. But if that’s all you are, you’re going to struggle.
If you’re only ever nice, women will find you predictable.
When you’re predictable, it’s tough to make an emotional impact.
Women need the excitement of not knowing what you’re going to do or whether they can have you.
Nice guys don’t offer that excitement and that’s why they’re constantly overlooked.
2. Be Mysterious
It’s suggested that the guy who leans against the bar not approaching anyone is intriguing.
Some people think that not having social media will make women want to get to know them more.
In reality, these men are invisible.
Few women will approach a guy they don’t know, nor will they be excited to date men they barely know a thing about.
3. Let Her Do All The Talking
This is an idea from Dale Carnegie’s classic social skills book ‘How To Win Friends And Influence People’.
The author says that being seen as a good listener is a great way to make people like you.
Maybe this is a good way to win friends, but it’s no way to win a woman over romantically.
If you let her talk and talk, she has no way to separate you from the thousands of other men she’s met in her life.
When trying to land a date, it’s better to tell her about yourself first, then get to know her afterwards.
4. Bring Flowers On The First Date
Romantic movies and TV shows teach men that grand romantic gestures are the way to a woman’s heart.
In reality, it’ll seem needy and desperate to overinvest in a woman you barely know.
Most women I’ve asked agree that it’s too much to bring flowers on a first date.
Needless to say then, it’s not good to serenade them outside their bedroom window either.
5. Invite Her Somewhere Romantic
The problem with fancy first-date venues is that they’re too formal and make women feel pressured.
They create a lot of romantic expectations, when she’s not even sure if she likes you yet.
It’s better to be somewhere casual where you can focus on getting to know each other, without her stressing out about under-dressing or using the wrong soup spoon.
6. Find ‘The One’
The idea of ‘The One’ is a cute Hollywood creation, but it’s not real and believing it will harm your chances of finding real love.
No-one wants the pressure of being your ‘other half’ or your ‘soulmate’.
When you start acting like a woman is the only possible partner for you, it’ll usually send her running for the hills.
In reality, there are lots of women out there you might fall in love with. There should be lots of women who coud potentially fall in love with you. Maybe this woman is one of them.
When you start behaving like that, it’ll be far more attractive.
7. There’s Someone Out There For Everyone. You Just Need To Be Patient
Actually, no.
In fact, it’s harder than ever for average guys to land a date.
Most modern women only want to date top-tier men. If you don’t work on improving yourself, you could end up alone forever.
8. ’Til Death Do Us Part
On your wedding day, your partner will promise to love and cherish you in sickness and health until one of you dies.
That used to be the case a hundred years ago.
Nowadays, most men and women are happy to pull the plug on a marriage if their spouse lets their standards slip.
So, if you want your relationship to be successful, you have to keep working at it until death do you part.
If these types of ideas are new to you, let me recommend my book ‘The Thrill Of The Chase’. This book explains every step I took to learn how to overcome heartbreak, enjoy the single life and start attracting the women I really wanted.