Life-Lessons

7 Telltale Signs You Are Dealing With an Angry Person

Learn how to spot the angry person before he explodes like a volcano.

How many angry people you don’t know?

You will be shocked how many people in your close circle is battling a hidden anger issue. I’ve always thought I could spot angry people a mile away, but recently I’ve realized that it’s just so easy to miss those signs that someone is angry with you, as they are often good at hiding it.

Being angry is exhausting.

The people who have hidden anger boiling inside of them are very unhappy people. Their anger can be expressed in different ways, and often you can be misled by such people. This means that you might not even know that someone is secretly angry with you.

If you think that someone in your circle might have anger issues, but you are not sure, here are a few signs that you can watch out for.

1. Angry People Are The Pseudo-Judges

Angry people like to judge others. They are people who make assumptions. People judge when they just don’t know you. They judge when they don’t understand you.

I’ve been judged a lot — judged on what I do, who I aspire to be. Just because certain people can’t grasp their head around me. I am a mystery to them.

People often judge when they feel threatened. For example, you get more attention, praise and admiration than they do and that pains them, so they judge. They try to find a flaw even where is not any to find.

Judgmental people are everywhere. They are negative, draining, and they don’t make you feel good. But don’t worry, at the end of the day, it’s them who is suffering the most due to their own limiting beliefs of the world and people around them.

2. Angry People Are Masters Of Projections

Angry people criticize a lot. They can result in being critical even of the most wonderful things in the world. It is ridiculous.

Angry people have very low self-esteem and often project their anger outwards by belittling other people and their efforts. It works wonders for them because in some sense this normalizes their anger issues.

Angry people project their own issues onto others.

They can choose what they want to see and don’t want to see in other people. Somehow they choose to focus on the bad in others.

I’ve noticed that profoundly selfish people love to preach solidarity. They will create false arguments to justify their selfish behaviours. They’re not aware that they only care about their own interests, or that they’re incapable of making the smallest concessions to other people.

They really think that their excuses are valid reasons for acting the way they do.

.If you ask them about it, they’ll say that their own arguments for being selfish are completely reasonable: “I didn’t want to act that way, but the circumstances forced me to.”

“Nope your selfishness did”

In other words, angry people project their own faults onto other people, so they don’t have to suffer the pain of seeing it in themselves.

3. Angry People Are Depressed And Jittery

Anger and depression walk hand in hand. Sigmund Freud said: “depression is anger turned inward”.

Angry people are quite self-destructive. They often express their misery through passive-aggressive behaviour and become quite withholding. They become chronically late, isolate others, destroy their own intimate relationships.

There are often anxious too. How would they not be?

They are living in a constant fight-or-flight mode due to being angry. Perhaps their own bodies are reacting to their anger causing them to suffer in the loop of anxiety.

To these people, anger is the only response to their own frustrations and stress. The anger leads to becoming obsessive with anger and ultimately destroys their chance of being happy.

Put simply angry people suffer a lot and their behaviours drive many people away.

4. Angry People Are Still Stuck in the 4th Grade

Everyone gets sometimes upset when encountering a problem, a difference is that mature people would find the most positive way to solve the problem and would treat people around them with respect.

While emotionally delayed (immature) people would act viciously, exaggerate, lie and hold grudges. They victimize themselves, they always bring up the “poor me” factor into play where it’s completely unneeded or not asked of.

They rarely take responsibility for their own actions. Instead of admitting that they messed up they will place blame on some else, get defensive and guess what?

Angry!

5. Angry People Moan A Lot

People who spend a lot of time complaining are obviously immensely frustrated. They moan about the smallest things, everything is an effort to them and life is rarely “fair”.

Why don’t they just change something about it?

Unfortunately, they can’t — they are so unhappy with themselves and their lives. They live in an unstable balance with their emotions. When something doesn't go according to their idea, they get easily frustrated and lash out.

6. Angry People Wish To Control

Angry people don’t know that they are angry, nor they ever think that there is a better way to handle certain situations, less angrily.

Anger outburst gives certain people a sense of power and authority with which they hope to control others around them. And when they are unable to they get even more upset!

7. Angry People Play The Blame Game

Angry people love to play the “blame game”. It’s so easy to get upset when you can blame someone else, right? Feeling like other people are at fault for your situation can be quite freeing.

Angry people blame others so that they can continue staying miserable and angry without taking accountability for their own actions.

There are many reasons why people become angry. Perhaps they just don’t know how to stop being angry anymore?

They forget to enjoy life, they don’t know how to let go, to live in the moment they start treating everything as a problem. So they complain…They don’t know how to deal with their frustrations appropriately.

Perhaps their upbringing plays a significant role in their anger issues?

We have been taught how to respond to various life situations from our parents. As children, we looked up to them and often copied our parents.

The most important thing that my parents taught me is how to be happy, to always look for good things in life, to be kind and affectionate.

They taught me how not to be angry.

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