7 Most Important Lessons I Learned From How to Win Friends and Influence People

After mastering these seven lessons, you’ll enhance your communication skills and increase your chances of achieving your goals. In this blog, I present seven straightforward yet crucial communication skills lessons. These principles can be effortlessly integrated into your daily life within a matter of minutes.

Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation

Giving honest and genuine appreciation is great for the person. They feel very good because they say that someone likes what they are doing. If you sometimes think that someone did something good, then say to him that he did it very well.

I see that my accountability partner made a very good video, I say to him what I like and show my appreciation.

Showing appreciation for other people can build a better relationship. People like it if you give them appreciation.

As an action step for you, give daily honest and sincere appreciation.

Become Genuinely Interested in Other People

Some people are not interested in other people and say okay, great if someone says something.

If someone tells me something, I show interest and ask questions that I am interested in and want to know. One friend moved to another house, and then I had the question of why was he moving. He said because he broke up with his girlfriend.

These lessons have the benefit that you find out more things about other people. If you show interest in people they also like you more and remember you better. Because people simply like to talk about themselves. Or if you can ask them they can talk about themselves.

As an action step, start with getting interested in people by asking more questions. Then you will see the results.

Remember Their Name

Sometimes we meet new people and ask for their names. But often we forget them after hearing them.

I also had this in the past to ask for the name but directly forget it. Now I am always trying to remember their name. Remembering the name of a person that you meet can be an underrated, a powerful trick.

People feel better if you say their name. Because as a person, you like to hear your name. You can also more easily address which person you are talking to.

So as an action step, remember every name and try to say it as often as possible if you talk to someone.

Smile

If you are not motivated to do something, you also don’t look motivated. Other people can see this out of your emotions.

So you look happier and motivated to people. Another benefit is that you also feel better if you smile. Like if you get a phone call and smile while answering, it gives you motivation and energy.

I try to smile often, even if I am not so motivated at the moment. It gives me more energy, and also people say that you are happier.

As an action step, start smiling more often if you do something on your own or meet with other people.

Be a Good Listener

As I mentioned in lesson 2 some people are good listeners and some not. Being a good listener means that you actively listen to people and ask them questions. The book says you should try to bring people to talk about themselves. People like to talk about their accomplishments.

I try to listen actively to other people and ask questions that I am interested in. It is also sometimes great to hear about the accomplishments of other people.

As an action step, try to be a good listener so that people know that you listen to them, and they can tell you something.

Never Say “You Are Wrong” to Other People

This lesson is probably one that few people do or know. I found this quote out of the book very inspiring, to explain it.

If you can be sure of being right only 51 percent of the time, you can go down to Wall Street and make a million dollars a day. If you can’t be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time, why should you tell other people they are wrong?

So I don’t often say they are wrong, they have a different opinion than I do. How do I even know my opinion is right?

So as an action step, stop after this video to say to other people that they are wrong.

Get Them Saying Yes Immediately

Normal people don’t think about if you ask your questions in the way that people say no or yes. But you should actively sk questions where people say yes immediately. This is helpful if you want to sell them something.

Like if I want to sell a course about confidence. I ask do you think you need more confidence, if they say yes ask would you like to learn it right now. Then if they say yes, you can talk about your course.

They said a few times yes, so it feels for them a good decision to do this course.

To apply this in reality, if you want people to do something. You ask questions where they say immediately yes.

If you apply these 7 lessons, it is easier to win friends and influence people.

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