7 Habits Of Least Successful Cheaters

These habits ensure that cheaters who have them aren’t able to get away with their betrayals for very long if at all

Have you ever tried to keep a secret from someone only to realize later that your habits gave you away? Our daily routines and patterns can reveal more about us than we would wish whether it is a guilty pleasure, a hidden agenda, or an even bigger bad habit. Some habits can also make us unsuitable for, shall we say, certain pursuits.

Cheating is an act of betrayal that can rock the foundation of any relationship. And while some cheaters are very good at covering their tracks, to at least, delay their discovery, others can get caught out by their partners in some unexpected ways.

“Some habits can also make us unsuitable for, shall we say, certain pursuits.”

The following habits ensure that the cheaters who have them are not able to get away with their betrayals for very long if at all:

1. They are conspicuous with their changes in behavior: this is one of the most obvious signs of cheating. If your partner suddenly starts acting distant, secretive, or defensive, it could be a sign that something is going on. They may become more irritable, distant, or even start to pick fights over small things. Successful cheaters on the other hand stick to established routines as much as possible because they know their partners can pick up sudden changes to the normal.

2. They can't resist the pull of social media: social media can be a tool for cheaters to connect with others, but it can also be their downfall. Social media blunders like posting pictures, comments, unsent messages in the drafts folder, or status updates that contradict their stories can be a dead giveaway. For example, if your partner claims to be working late but posts a photo on social media of being out with friends, you might have some questions.

They are also careless about limiting the communication channels they use with their affair partners, and naturally, the more channels they use the higher the possibility of being found out. According to one survey of 1000 people on IllicitEncounters.com phones and emails are among the top five ways people having affairs get caught out.

3. They are always sloppy with the physical evidence: these are the telltale signs of their indiscretions that more consummate cheaters never fail to eliminate. Finding the classic lipstick on the collar, lingering perfume on their clothes, or some other unfamiliar items in their belongings are usually the results of their sloppiness and failure to cover their tracks.

4. They give themselves away with the sex: this is one of those damned if you do, damned if you don’t type situations- their inability to contain themselves and suddenly begin to display more than usual interest in sex and trying new things could be a sign that they’re cheating. Conversely, if they are suddenly less interested in sex, it could also be a sign that they’re getting their needs met elsewhere. Either change in sexual behavior can be a red flag that something is amiss.

“Conversely, if they are suddenly less interested in sex, it could also be a sign that they’re getting their needs met elsewhere.”

5. They leave trails of unexplained expenses they can't justify: affairs can leave dents in the finances that are hard to cover up. Receipts of expenses they can’t account for could indicate a partner suddenly has more expenses than usual because they’re spending money on someone else. They may be buying gifts, going out to dinner, or booking hotel rooms. So, when they are spending money that they can’t explain, it could be a sign that they’re cheating.

6. They are prone to overcompensating: If your partner is overcompensating in areas where they’ve fallen short, it could be a sign that they’re trying to make up for something. For example, if they’ve been unfaithful in the past, they may become more attentive, affectionate, or generous in an effort to make up for it.

7. They have a habit of blabbering about their affair to people: a fair number of cheaters get caught because there were ratted out by someone who cares for their committed partner which, only adds to the committed partner’s pain because of the implication that they were the last to know.

“My mother-in-law texted me, ‘He’s cheating on you!’ And it turned out everyone knew about it but me. Everyone. She said she couldn’t take it anymore, and that he’d been sleeping around with a colleague.” -Janice, 34-year-old dentist, and mother of two.

“A fair number of cheaters get caught because there were ratted out by someone who cares for their committed partner.”

Their more successful counterparts know to keep things tightly knit. This means with them it is strictly need-to-know and the group is usually one on which the cheater can rely on their discretion to keep his indiscretion a secret.

In the end, cheating is a betrayal that can have devastating consequences for any relationship. While some cheaters are very good at covering their tracks, others are by their habits prone to slipping up. Changes in behavior, social media blunders, physical evidence, changes in sexual behavior, unexplained expenses, and overcompensation are all the usual ways that cheaters get caught.

However, if you suspect that your partner is cheating, it’s important to first of all confront them directly to ensure the signs you see mean what you think they mean so you make an informed decision about where you go from there.

“Habits can be our undoing because they operate at a level that we’re not normally aware of, shackling us in a way that’s too weak to be felt until too strong to be broken”

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