6 Tiny Things That Reveal A Lot About Someone
In some situations, people reveal their true colors again and again. Pay attention to these things and become a master of understanding people
What makes people we deal with tick? Can we trust them?
Especially when we are just getting to know people, it is difficult for us to assess them. After all, it’s easy to pretend. Some small things reveal a lot about someone. Paying attention to these details could give you some hints.
The individual aspects are unscientific. They are based purely on my experience and knowledge of human nature and are also partly just opinions.
How They Talk About People Who Are Not Present.
You know how it is: someone gossips nonstop about someone who is his friend. Or at least they pretend to be.
I also know many such people and take this as a warning sign not to trust them too much. These people are mostly dissatisfied with themselves and therefore want to talk bad about others to make themselves feel better.
On the other hand, some people are always loyal to their friends. Especially when they are not present. This is a very good character trait and tells you that this person is trustworthy and a very good friend.
This is probably the big difference between real and fake friends.
How Do They Behave When You Are Down Bad?
You know this phenomenon from sports. Suddenly, everyone is a fan of the club that is successful at the moment. Classic success fans, as I call them.
I’ve seen the same thing with friends. When things were going very well for me and I had great success in sports, many people acted as if they were my friends. A year later, I was injured and things didn’t work out. Suddenly, hardly anyone cared. Only the real friends remained.
Do They Offer To Pay?
Who pays the bill? Even if it’s just a small gesture, offering to pay shows a willingness to invest in the relationship. It also shows you that the other person doesn’t want to take advantage of you. I notice that especially on dates. If a girl expects the man to pay, I think that’s not necessarily the best sign. On my first date with my girlfriend, I paid for both of us without discussing it with her beforehand. She was very uncomfortable with that and since then she makes sure that we split the costs of our dates. A green flag I guess.
How Do They Treat The Waiter?
This says a lot about one’s character. I don’t want to have anything to do with people who are constantly unfriendly or even arrogant towards waiters. Often these people feel like something better. The same applies, of course, to service staff, cashiers, or the like.
Are They Happy For Others?
Being able to be happy for others is a good character trait that unfortunately, not everyone has. Far too many people become envious, resentful, and hateful when others succeed. Especially when they are less successful. Even here on medium, you can see this regularly towards successful writers. Especially when they write about their achievements. But there is one thing you should not forget: Success is not a zero-sum game. Especially not among friends and family. If another person is successful, nothing about your success changes. Maybe it feels that way because you are constantly comparing yourself, but the truth is that you are your competition and should be happy for others.
Body Language
Our body language says an incredible amount about our personality. We are also able to read the body language of others very well. While an upright walk, with the head, held high and open body language expresses self-confidence, a not so upright walk with a hanging head shows the opposite.
In addition, if you observe a date closely, you can judge very well how interested the other person is based on their body language. Attraction can be recognized, for example, by the size of the pupils or the position of the feet. Pupils getting bigger and feet pointing directly at you are usually a good sign. Therefore, it is worthwhile in any case to deal with this topic. On the one hand to improve your own body language and on the other hand to be able to read others better.
Summary:
Small things often tell us an incredible amount about the character of people. If you pay attention to these six points, you will get a much clearer idea of the person’s character.
- Do they always gossip about people who are not present?
- Are they there for you when you are down?
- Are they willing to invest in the relationship?
- Are they rude to the waiter?
- How do they react to other people’s successes?
- Their body language
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