6 Things That Make People Dislike You Immediately

Stop it! Otherwise, you’ll really make yourself unpopular

It is not always easy to get along with other people. Especially when you can’t choose who you spend time with, like at work.

Almost everyone knows people who seem to dislike them. Seemingly for no reason. If you sometimes feel the same way, it could be because of these 6 things.

1. Being Too Nice

This point may sound counterintuitive. Let me explain why that is the case.

Personally, I don’t necessarily like people who are too nice. I prefer it when someone is honest and genuine instead of always being nice.

As one study showed, you don’t make yourself more popular by acting selflessly. On the contrary.

People who behaved very unselfishly in a group in the study made themselves less popular so that many of the other group members no longer wanted to work with them.

2 Making A Bad First Impression

First impressions last. We all know this saying. There really does seem to be something to it, which is why you shouldn’t mess it up with people you want to be liked by.

3. A Weak Handshake

A weak handshake can also lead to a bad first impression, which can be fatal. Because the first impression often remains.

Various studies have shown that the quality of the handshake can either make or break the interaction.

If for any reason you mess up the first impression on a person, you will probably continue to have a bad reputation with them.

4. Not Talking About Yourself

A 2013 study found that conversations in which both parties talk about themselves are most likely to lead to liking each other.

Participants who disclosed reciprocally reported greater liking, closeness, perceived similarity, and enjoyment of the interaction after the first interaction than participants who disclosed non-reciprocally. These differences remained after the second interaction, even though participants in non-reciprocally disclosing dyads switched roles (i.e., dis-closers became listeners) and therefore experienced extended reciprocity. We concluded that turn-taking self-disclosure reciprocity in the acquaintance process increases the likelihood of positive outcomes (e.g., liking).

5. Suppressing Your Emotions

Expressing our emotions makes us likable. That was the finding of a 2016 study at the University of Oregon.

People who showed their emotions were rated as significantly more likable by participants in the study than those who suppressed their emotions.

“People … do not pursue close relationships indiscriminately — they probably look for people who are likely to reciprocate their investments. So when perceivers detect that someone is hiding their emotions, they may interpret that as a disinterest in the things that emotional expression facilitates — closeness, social support, and interpersonal coordination.”

6. Being A Pessimist

A negative outlook on life is contagious.

If you constantly express your pessimistic views, you will drag down the mood of others around you.

They will associate this bad mood with you and dislike you.

Of course, there are countless other things that can make you unpopular, such as being unfair, constantly showing off, or being unreliable.

But if I wanted to write a complete list, I would probably have to go on forever.

Thanks for reading!

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