6 Cool Ways To Handle Toxic People Without Getting Your Fingers Gooey
Knowing yourself is the strongest form of self-worth.
Toxic people are like honey-glazed doughnuts.
You cannot fill it in your stomach without getting your hands cloudy. You might even have to sacrifice your clothes. Stickiness is not the main problem.
Honey affects bees, makes you uneasy, and destroys your leftover calmness.
Toxic people are the same. Once you let them near the doorway to your heart, they invade your brain. According to the National Institutes of Health:
More than 6 percent of the general population has a narcissistic disorder.
If you look closely, intelligent people like Elon Musk and Bill Gates also have unhealthy customers.
The good thing is: they don’t deal with them. Instead, big business ventures profit from toxic people.
If you know how to benefit from toxic people, you will have a sleek life.
Below are 6 intelligent ways to handle toxic people without getting your fingers sticky.
Let’s get started.
1. Loan them money
Kevin Hart blurted:
“If you want to get rid of people, loan them money.”
We all know wealthy, toxic people. If they’re unhealthy, they have terrible relationships with people.
Instead of shouting and wasting energy on them, try confusing them with a new assignment. You can select one of them:
- Launch a new startup
- Shift into a new area
- Start a YouTube channel
- Starting a hobby
The corrupt people in your family are interrelated to you. This means they can be your sister, father, brother, or mother. They can even be your partner.
Keep them busy and keep them away. Favor them with some loans or help if needed.
They’ll stay in line when they know you’re the only person to help them.
Let them entangle themselves with tiring tasks if you can’t cut them from your life.
2. Deal with them at Bonne Nuit
Excuse my French, but here’s what I meant:
“Deal with them at night or when you’re tried.”
Your energy is priceless. Soak up caffeine, nourish your wings and prepare to fly in the morning.
If you know any toxic people living 10 meters away, select a time to deal with them and their problems.
It would help if you dealt with the:
- In the evening: if it’s a complex situation, deal with them during your coffee snack.
- After dinner: allow toxic people to squeeze your mind after your tummy is full.
- Before sleep: take it as far as you can and only deal with them before sleeping.
Morning is a time to look forward to your goals.
Any negativity might blur you out from your career ambitions. Deal with people at the end of the day.
This way, when you are tired, you’ll hear less and respond less.
3. Have an agenda
A little chit-chat with controlling people is like a walking tour inside a lion’s den.
Even now, the lions are pretty friendly when we couldn’t visit them in covid.
But there’s no stopping toxic people’s behavior. When delaying conversation, ignoring and limiting contact doesn’t help — think outside of the box.
My mother once told me:
“Toxic people have made up all their plans. For every answer you say, they have a response in their mind. They’re prepared.”
Toxic people have a hold on us because they know us. We’re predictable. Revert this technique.
When you deal with toxic people, go with a plan. Here are a few things you can do:
- Set a time limit
- One issue a day
- Fewer complaints and more solutions
When you go inside the lions’ den, you can hide your next move. Something like:
“Hey, look, I am just here for half an hour. After that, I have a reservation to get to, so you better start now!”
Toxic people are uncomfortable with the timetable.
4. Fluff, for a favor, vomit later
As I said in the beginning:
Rephrased: “Large corporations feed on toxic people. They don’t care if a toxic person is working at Microsoft or Google; they need employees to work.”
But then, who faces the issues every day? Fellow employees.
If you have an advantage, dealing with toxic-negative people becomes accessible. Think of some benefits toxic people might bring you, for example:
- They are your family. The gift can be that your children
- A business partnership
- Working together as employees
- Financial benefits
Know the advantages the toxic person is providing. Now compare the edge with your other friends.
In this scenario, if the toxic person gives you (more) benefits, you should stick with them. Remember that the advantage ratio should be higher than the problem ratio.
- Advantage ratio: the advantage a person provides. (estimated 60–90%)
- Problem ratio: the mental trauma toxicity causes. (estimated 10–30%)
In short, divide the benefits and live your life happily. Keep a 50–50 advantage when dealing with them.
Of course, get paid for dealing with them.
Don’t you think?
5. Go unexpected
Boundaries are nice. Very nice.
But boundaries are not unexpected. Let me tell you the limits you would have when dealing with toxic people:
- Don’t over complain
- Harm family
- Talk behind my back
- Steal from me
- No lying
- [Insert one here]
Boundaires are universal.
This means there’s no way a toxic person will listen to you if you haven’t personalized the boundaries.
Instead of using the old school saying “stay within limits” lecture, go spontaneous.
Scare the narcissist with your behavior.
When a toxic person realizes you’re strict and anything can upset them, they’ll think 10 times before doing something. So, don’t give easy access to your boundaries.
Instead, let them explore.
Intimidate them.
6. Don’t buy it
The subtitles also translate to:
“Make them a joke.”
“When I was a kid, I learned a story in school about a kid who faked the lion’s incoming to make fun of people. Tragically, one day, the real lion arrived. When he screamed and cried, nobody came to help him.”
Do you know why?
Because the kid lost the right to trust.
One splendid way to deal with toxic egocentric people is to take them for a joke. Toxic people often manipulate others with tough and humorous inquiries.
Instead of fighting and judging, take them for fun. You don’t need to decode toxic people’s actions. Don’t buy into their stuff. Always take them for granted.
Give them a taste of their medicine. You can also use powerful statements on occasion when confronted:
- Example #1: “Were you serious about that? I thought you were joking!”
- Example #2: “Honestly, you’re a pretty good liar. It’s even hard to predict sometimes.”
- Example #3: “Sense of humor is a great color on you.”
Final thoughts:
The world is full of people you can’t evacuate.
Learn to fight them mentally.
Valuable tactics to deal with people are like learning scouts’ life-saving skills.
Stay prepared. Honey will never get you in trouble, but unstable people might!
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